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Including someone else?????????
My bf of 1 yr has made comments about another woman joining us, i told him he can have all the variety if he wants, but i am gone. What does this mean???? Is he bored with me?
Re: Including someone else?????????
Both of you are dating scumbags.
A guy who doesn't want sex with you and you alone is not boyfriend material in any size shape or form.
Take back your lives and ditch these jerks. And get therapy --- your self esteems are in the toilet. GL.
PS: telling him that the third must be a GUY is a great idea. Bet you that your bf will love the idea of it. And telling him that you want the guy to do stuff to your bf is your great big turn on and you want to see it happen is another great idea. GL.
Unfortunately, it means 'pack your bags and leave. Don't let whether you have a threesome or not be the deciding factor for you'.
If this guy is not satisfied enough with having sex with just you, and you are not on board with that, there is no need to stick around.
There are PLENTY of men out there who will be ecstatic to JUST be with you. Don't doubt that.
+1
Look at it this way, is this a guy you are going to marry? If yes, do you want him bringing other women into the relationship? If no, then don't do it because this is a green light for him to "cheat" in the future.
If this is just a light fun relationship, if you are young, and you are just dating him for fun with no long term plans and you really want to try a threesome then go for it. Just be safe.
Testing her limits? What is he, like, a 2 yr old?
Adults don't test limits in a relationship. Adults discuss things.
But judging by the fact that you used the word 'like', you probably are barely an adult yourself, so I don't expect you to understand that fact.
First this different then what everyone is adviseing ok
why not try it to find out if u r the main lover there or give u the answer as to if u should move on.
U will find out what it is to make love to a woman and like it
also watching u with that other woman or him with her might kick in a wild woman in u make him realize how hot u really r
if u love him fight for him don't just throw the towel show u r what he wants and make it exciting
like the advise to little mickey " Try it u might Like it" and u will wonder untill u do
One thing set some rules on how u want it to happen ok.
Ugh I thought you were gone.
When MH and I were dating he would ask this off and on (Jokingly, of course). I would respond "yeah, and I know [insert mutual friend] would be down too! But if she is gonna do that for us then I would have to do it for her and her H." That would end that conversation quickly.
I'd assume it would shut down a serious conversation just as quickly.
Oh and ditto the DTMF. If MH REALLY wanted to to that, I would NOT have married him.
Is being opening minded really THIS much of a crime? So what, he wants to try something. Have none of you ever wanted to try something new in the bedroom before? I recently asked my girlfriend about having a threesome, not out of desire but out of curiosity, she told me she wouldn't want that, and the conversation was over. NOT a big deal! All of these comments about how she should leave him and he's a crap boyfriend are ridiculous, and those types of comments shouldn't be made about relationships you don't know personally.
Lets recap: Don't overthink this! He asked you about a threesome, you don't want it, tell him that, and leave it at that. If he keeps bringing it up knowing it makes you uncomfortable, and he doesn't get the hint, then decide if you think thats grounds to leave him on. If he cheats on you, you know it wasn't meant to be.
That's called looking for trouble and heartache.
If your bf isn't into you enough to be exclusive. You can bet he's been heating already behind your back.
Dump him and get somebody decent that you deserve.
I would very much appreciate if you left her out of this, thanks. You clearly misunderstood every word of what I wrote. I'm not taking his side, or her side, and I'm sure as hell not trying to be rude and inconsiderate to anyone, WINK. In my defense, not that I even need to give any, you can CLEARLY SEE where I said I asked her out of curiosity, because heaven forbid I would take the time to try and explore my womans likes / dislikes. Shame, shame on me.
I'm a guy, and I say you are a d-bag.
One thing that nobody has thought of yet is why did he bring this up? Has he done it before? Maybe that will convince you enough to dump this guy. I agree he should be dumped because he is trying to manipulate you into what HE wants you to be. If he wants to have sex with multiple women (or another guy....wtf....) then he obviously doesn't want to commit to you. What woman does not want a guy who will commit to them? Not a single one. There are better guys out there that will commit to you....both in sex...and in marriage. One of my best friends had a very attractive older sister who was always flirting with me. I was 19 at the time and she was 22. Attractive. Very attractive to me. At the time I was in a relationship with a beautiful girl, and I thought about it one day when we were at a party. We all wound up in the same room of this friends house, and things started getting rough. I practically kicked the sister out, even though I thought she was attractive. Point being....the girl I took over to the bed and had a good time with....just so happens to be my wife right now. We have a handsome little boy, and I couldn't be happier. I committed myself to her. Physically and mentally. A real man will do the same for you, whether you are married or not. Good luck.
My guy has always said he is fine never doing it. But if i ever wanted to, he would be ok with it.
One tipsy night, it happened with me, him and my best friend. It was fun. prob not happen again. I liked trying something new. He doesn't ask to do it since then. Our friendship isn't weird or different. I know he has no interest in her like that, but it was fun.
Point being this: if you would like to try it....I see nothing wrong with making a mutual decision. if you KNOW that this would never be your cup of tea....then he should be OK with that, and not bring it up again. If continues to bring it up...knowing your stance on it, then I would say that is a red flag.
I don't think it's right to judge and say that if a couple does this it's because they aren't enough for each other. Some people spice things up differently. My man is enough for me. i am enough for him.
Everyone who is shocked that this guy asked for a threesome needs to pick their jaws up off the ground and get over it. A threesome is every guy's fantasy and a healthy sexual relationship is one where both of you should feel free to discuss the fantasies that turn you on. It's fine if this is something you are not comfortable with, but you should not be mad that this guy asked you about it.
Now, I don't know the details of your situation and of course if he is telling you that he wants a threesome or wants to break up then of course you should leave him.
Anyway, my guy and I are very open with each other and we love to talk about threesomes. It's his ultimate fantasy and I am curious myself about having one, but would probably not be ballsy enough to go through with it. The part that is fun, though, is the talking about it. We love to talk about who we would have it with and what we would do. Talking about fantasies is great foreplay and I find it to be very intimate. The fact that we can openly talk about such private things really brings us closer together.
So, for all of you out there who think that a threesome is the work of the devil, that's fine if you're not into it, but there's no need to judge those of us who are.