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Ugh Tacky Wedding Invite
Friends of ours are having a wedding in April. They are already married (he is in the service so they got married JOP style so they would get more $...totally understandable that's not my gripe)
Well now they want a real wedding in their hometown in Cali. They have said they want to do it to get $ and have "their day". Fine...whatever...I get it...but they don't need $, they are pretty well off.
They sent out their STDs 2 weeks ago....WAY TACKY I can't even describe what they look like.
Today I got their invite;
First, their RSVP envelope is not pre-stamped
Second, there are typos (3)
Third, They have this bird like thing on their invite that looks like it got shot and is bleeding
Fourth...my personal favorite...they ask for MONEY on their invite. OR we can PURCHASE a surprise gift.
Wtf? Who says I am getting you anything? Don't tell me you want money or I can purchase you a gift if that is what I prefer (this is all in poem form on the invite)
Ugh just tacky. Good thing we weren't planning on going anyway!
Re: Ugh Tacky Wedding Invite
That's gross seriously. Like I also agree with having a "celebration" that everyone can attend but to expect and ask for gifts a second time around is ridiculous! I wouldn't be going either...blah.
They're getting married in April and they sent out STDs 2 weeks ago? Giving 3 months notice? That's too late for an STD, IMO. Then they sent their invitation out right after that? Why send STDs then? And that's way too early to send invites, IMO. I'm glad you weren't planning on going anyway! For the guests sake, I hope there's an open bar and a full dinner!
With that, I would at least feel better about giving a gift, haha!
Also, I need to see a picture of this bird.
On the TK, every other post on the registering for gifts forum is about "how can I ask for money instead of gifts"? And when you try to tell them no, they get all offended. Like they are somehow "different" enough to make it ok.
It's the same with the PPD "weddings" after you are already married. Have a big party...awesome. But don't call it a wedding...you are already married. Apparently people do that and then lie to everyone and don't tell even their own parents that they are already married. I would be REALLY disappointed in my daughter if she lied to me and everyone else like that.
And, I agree, we need to see the bird
Last year we got an invite from an old co-worker of mine. The bridal shower invite I got literally said:
"X and X already have most of their house furnished, so in lieu of gifts, please give them cash or gift cards to Home Depot".
I was like for real?! I didn't even bother going.
A few weeks later I got the b-party invite. Just as bad. Guess who didn't go to that, either? hehe
Sometimes people are just off and I give them the hairy
well - not that I'm condoning the shower invite, but that would have theoretically been sent out by someone OTHER than the bride. Wait - did she throw her own bridal shower? That would bring a whole new level of "yuck" to it. They could probably have omitted it entirely and then handled it one on one if people asked I suppose.
If we could have registered at Home Depot easily, I would have done that in a heartbeat. That kind of stuff is much more useful to us at this stage of our life than plates and picture frames.