Rhode Island Nesties
Dear Community,
Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Melissa4252008
Hey, I read your confession. Yes its normal to second guess yourself. We all do it. babies don't come with instructions as much as we all wish they did. Everyone has their own advice and opinions on what you "should" be doing and what you "shouldn't". You need to do what feels right to you for your baby. You have a maternal instinct. If you have questions, call your pedi. They are there to guide you and offer tips and suggestions for things, even the smallest things. Just because something worked for 1 friend or family member when they had a baby, doesn't mean its how you want to do things or that it will work for your baby. Napping when they nap never worked for me either. It was the only chance I had to get a shower in, or to make dinner or to actually sit down and eat something. It sounds like the baby blues have set in for you, and that's normal too. If it gets beyond just being weepy and you feel depressed though, you should go see your doctor. Just keep in mind that it DOES get easier and you will feel more comfortable and confident soon. We've all been there. ((((hugs))))
Re: Melissa4252008
I just wanted to jump in and say that I have all those same thoughts and feelings too. You're not alone. I cried hysterically one night for a full half hour before I could even tell my husband what was wrong...and I didn't really know what was wrong.
If you would like to get together while on maternity leave, I would love to meet another mom with a baby the same age as mine. I also have two friends who had babies in December and we plan to meet once a week, if you would like to join us just let me know.
i was just going to page you!!
best thing that someone told me was: FOLLOW YOUR INSTINCTS! do what feels right for you and your baby. it's okay to not really know what to do, but please try and relax when baby sleeps. i still make myself do this.
and i'm up for getting together too. we are always home!
I also wanted to jump in and say that i feel the same way sometimes as well. I was crying this morning because Aiden didn't sleep well last night after a bunch of good nights. There are times too when he is just fussy and i can't get him to stop crying and i wonder what i am doing wrong. Don't worry, you are not alone. I'm sure you are doing great.
I would love to meet some RI nesties as well and it would be great to talk to moms with babies around the same age. Maybe we can plan something.
Thanks ladies! The first week we were home the tears were over the challenges of breast feeding. I've decided to exclusively pump now, which is still tough but much more manageable. Now if/when I cry, I think it is due to exhaustion, as the tears usually come on around 6pm. I'm an overly emotional person to begin with, so when I get tired or overwhelmed, or I'm questioning myself, the waterworks come on.
I would LOVE LOVE to get together with some nesties!! Some more adult interaction, aside from my Dad, would be fantastic!!