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I haven't posted since the wedding!
I have to say I have missed talking to everyone so much! Is anyone feeling withdrawl from wedding planning?? I was so so so in love with our wedding until it was over. I didn't want to post, I stopped watching all the wedding shows. I didn't even post wedding pics on here. How sad is that!? I felt like so many little things went wrong. Is anyone still dwelling on that stuff? I can't stop thinking about the things I would have done differently. I was so grateful for the advice brides gave about their weddings. Now I'm so dissapointed I didn't even feel like sharing my advice.
We are not ready to buy a house and we are not quite ready to have a baby, so all I think about is the wedding lately. I didn't for a couple months, but lately old friends on FB are talking about planning their weddings....oh and all the darn bridal fair advertisements right now! LOL
Help! Feeling a little crazy over here!
ps, I've missed you ladies and I hope everyone had a wonderful wedding, a relaxing honeymoon & happy happily ever afters so far!
Re: I haven't posted since the wedding!
Eep! ?It doesn't sound like you are in a great place. ?I definitely was wedding crazy for maybe 2 months after the wedding, but now I feel like I've moved on. ?We are getting closer to the time when we'll start to try for a baby, so that has given me something new to focus on. ?
Maybe you need something new to focus on? ?Any hobbies? ?Plans that you and H are making? ? Work stuff? ?Maybe one of the other boards on the nest will interest you? ?I moved pretty quickly from reading our wedding board to reading the getting pregnant board, and that definitely helped with some of the time I used to spend on here. ?
Just some suggestions. ?Anyway, welcome back!
I hear ya, about thinking about what went wrong with the wedding. I was pretty happy about the way the day went, but there were a few things that peeved me off and I admit I probably thought about them a little too much for a little too long. One being, my mom SUCKED at being the mother of the bride the day of my wedding!!!! She was never where she needed to be, when she needed to be there!!! I thought that it was her job to be by me and made sure I was ok - who knows where the hell she always was...I remember when it was time to take pictures of her and I, she wasn't around so I had to send my MOH (sister) to go find her. Well I guess my sister kinda told her that she needed to quit disappearing so she was all upset, and I was upset, and so when we took our pictures of us together we were both upset but had to act like we loved each other - so when I see those pictures I remember how mad at her I was.
I have no desire to EVER plan a wedding again!! But I was just asked to be a BM in a friends wedding, and to be honest, it's kinda nice on this end of things. I get to be a part of it - but it's not my day to have to stress over. Plus since I have just been through it all, it's still fresh to me so I am able to offer some advice.
I agree about the bridal fairs!! We're they this "all over the place" when we were getting married????
Keep your head up!!! And vent here if you need to, that's what were here for
Glad to see you are back. I have no desire to plan another wedding. However, I still watch Say Yes to the Dress and rethink my dress choice. We are not thinking of babies so I don't have that to focus on. I have started to sew more and focus on that and more at work (I kind of slacked last year).
Where in Cleveland are you? I am also in the Cleveland area. I never realized that you were from around here.
What did you feel went wrong? It might help to tell us all about it.
I also miss wedding planning, and had a few things go wrong that I keep thinking about. One was that we did a second dance and I stuffed it up. Nobody noticed, people even said I looked way more relaxed that time, but oh how I wish it had gone differently!! I also didn't smile walking down the isle, it should have been such a happy exciting moment, why didn't I smile!?!?! Nevermind, it was just a few little things. Some other people enjoyed sucking all the joy and love out of my wedding, and I probably think about that more. Hopefully time will heal.
Anyway...please tell us what you think went wrong at yours so we can help make you feel better. And welcome back!!!!!!
Thanks ladies! Once I remember how to post pictures or make a married bio I will!
Well, to start, when I went to pick my dress up from being pressed 2 days before the wedding, they told me they had to relocate my dress because their machine went and they told me my dress SHOULD be ready tomorrow. That was so stressful. Then my dress ended up being too big thanks to the stress, which really isn't a good thing since a big dress just makes you look bigger! The morning of the wedding I noticed that my dress was falling apart! I had to have a friend of my husbands family rush over to sew it back together. I that one blew me away.
We decided that the one tradition we didn't want to break was seeing each other before the wedding. OOPS My husband was so stressed out I wish I saw him to help him calm down. And to fix his hair because every time he sees the pictures he is so upset with his hair. Oh and to tell him not to pick at his face the morning of the wedding!! He has red marks all over his face in the pictures too. DH wears a hat every single day so he's not used to doing his hair, and didn't feel the need to practice no matter how much I begged. Then there was the rain....which caused DH's hair to become even worse since he didn't feel the need to use an umbrella.
Oh about the rain...DH got my rings from Alvins Jewelers. When we got engaged they had a "Pray for Rain" promotion, where if it rained so much the day of your wedding, you got all your $ back. Well they went out of business and all he could think about is all that $$$ we weren't getting back. It was a total downpour all day. LOL it does make me laugh because I choose our venue knowing I would love it even if we did have to move it inside. BUT, we didn't get the awesome pictures on the property that I was so excited about. I chose our Photog because her pictures with the bridal party were so fun and bright. All our pictures are boring and grey because of the rain. Which is another upset...yes there are many more...I didn't spend the $ on a second shooter for my photog. and I regret it. So much was missed and I feel like there should have been someone there to help too. She didn't tell any of the guys to fix their suits or the girls hair sticking up or move them. I really HATE that I am disappointed with her because I was so so excited about her. This part isn't her fault, but I wish we would have taken the time to see eachother before the ceremony also because we needed that time for pictures. Our ceremony and reception were in the same location, so we only took 1 hour between for cocktails. Photog told us that would be enough time for pictures and it wasn't. Family Pictures alone took the whole hour, which means hardly ANY bridal party pics. Which is why I wish I hired a DOC to help organize that part. NO ONE from our families helped direct it and I turned into major bridezilla for that hour. I think that is why I'm so sad! I'm not like that at all. I'm so easy going and happy 90% of the time and for that hour everyone saw an ugly side of me.
So, the DJ kept interrupting pics during that hour also because everything had to be rearranged due to the rain. I snapped at him to stop asking me stupid questions when I already told him I didn't care how we were announced etc, so he was pissy for the rest of the night. Another thing a DOC would have been good for.
The reception was cut short since cocktail hour ran late....we ate at 8 and the reception was over at 11. WHAT!? Shortest reception ever. I didn't smile or breathe walking down the aisle either because I was so nervous.
DH was a total jerk for the rest of the night after the wedding and made me cry. My MOH brought her male roommate and her mom brought the roommate's cousin...sounds weird but they are fun guys...why bring a lame date when you can have fun. So DH could not stand that they were the life of the dance floor and wouldn't drop the conversation.
ugh, feeling a little better for venting except that was a lot of whining! LOL
Missmis99 I live on the east side! Near Willoughby.
Ladies I honestly am embarrassed for ranting like that. Thanks for even reading it. I'll feel even better when I post pics. It really was beautiful and I married my best friend that day. I just wish I could stop thinking about the negative stuff.
I posted pictures on my nest profile. I can't remember how to change my sig...is there a blog with that info?