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Would you rather... (serious question)
Do you think you would rather LOVE your job, but live in a place you dislike or even hate (geographically/city speaking, not your actual house)...
...Or love where you live, but really dislike or even hate your job?
Re: Would you rather... (serious question)
Hmmmmm this is hard!!!
I think I would pick love where I live, dislike my job.
I would pick "love your job". You can learn to love an area. Look at me, I did not want to move to Grand Rapids, but now I am sad to be leaving.
But I am the type of person who cannot stand to a job everyday that I do not enjoy.
I KNOW! And it's interesting to see that responses are mixed so far.
I've been thinking about this in the past couple of days because I came across a job description that sounds like something I would LOVE....but I did not apply for it because it is in the middle of nowhere in a state that is already on my "don't want to live there" list. Even after doing a little bit of research, literally nothing about the location sounded appealing to me. So, I passed. And now I'm wondering what other people would choose if they were in the same situation.
Going off on this, there is the chance that you would hate the job too. Since it would be just as new as the location. You don't know if you mesh with the people you work with, if the work is actually what they advertised, etc.
The reason this is so hard to answer is because there are so many "what if's".
So I based my answer off having a job that I disliked in the Caribbean. If I got there and worked the job for a while and disliked it or hated it, I could always find another while still living in a place I loved.
Haha. Oh vacations how I miss thee.
But would it be as easy to learn to love a place that did not really offer anything fun to do (restaurants, concerts, movies, natural resources, etc.) in your leisure time?
SUCH great points! PS Dont forget the Whitecaps!
I think you make your own fun in life, to some extent. Unless your talking about living in the middle of nowhere with no humans around for miles, I'm sure there would be something driveable or just enjoy the nature in the middle of nowhere, work on photography, play games, play with dogs, take up a new hobby, do what makes you happy.
This is really, really tough. I had to give it some thought because I didn't have an immediate answer.
I think I would choose to love where I live and dislike the job.
I say that because my hometown is the type of place where I never would want to live, especially if I didn't have family there. I don't like the town at all, and I think I would go crazy living there (actually I did a little bit before I moved away!). There is very little to do, particularly in the winter, and the winter is long! So, even if I loved by job, I think I would be unhappy overall living somewhere that bored me, or where I didn't feel like I fit in.
So I would rather live some place that I liked and work a job that I dislike. That is assuming that I merely disliked my job, meaning I wasn't happy with it and it wasn't what I wanted to be doing with my life, but at the same time, I wasn't miserable either. If I hated my job (like I left crying or it made me ill or caused major problems with my family), than I think it would worth it to get a better job anywhere, even if it were in a town that I disliked.
Definitely great points. I think those are the main reasons why I didn't even apply for the job, because the community in question didn't seem capable of that sort of life enrichment.
It's so interesting to hear other people's perspectives on this and see how life experiences affect everything.
I have moved a few times for jobs that I applied for, thinking that I would love both the job and the place. I've had mixed results.
When I worked for Habitat for Humanity, the hq is in a very rural town in Georgia. The town didn't offer a whole lot that interested me, but the community (just the people, not the events/places) was captivating. We made our own fun and had a terrific time doing jobs that we loved.
Then I went to work in Baltimore for what I thought was going to be a dream job. There's a whole lot to do in that city, but I didn't know anyone. It was a good mix of exciting adventures and feeling really lonely. ... and I ended up hating the job.
Those things in mind, if I had your paramenters, I would pick place over job. You can change a job if it's miserable, you can leave a city if it doesn't work out. But if you leave work that you love for the day, and that's the highlight of the day (for many days/weeks in a row), well... that doesn't leave much for work/life balance.
This question with you guys in mind: you must like the location. You'd have each other which would make relocating so much better than going solo, but you like the nightlife and to boogie, and all that.
There's a lot to this question - how many job opportunities are available for you in both the area that you don't love and the area that you do love, how much do you hate the current job, what exactly do you not like about the area, what exactly DO you like about the job, etc.
I'd at least need a happy medium because there are virtually no jobs in my field, so it's not like I could just find another one in the same area. It's really hard for me to say what I'd do because I currently love my job AND the area, so I'm not open to the idea of moving until I've exhausted all job possibilities here. After that, though...well, it'd be really hard to go from a job that I really truly love to something just to pay the bills, so moving might be back on the table. It'd take a really good job with lots of vacation time (and the salary to be able to use that vacation time) to get us to move to certain areas, though.
This is me. I guess I shouldn't say I hate my job, but dislike would be very accurate. I think I could learn to like the place I lived in, and create my own fun. With a job, how do you convince yourself to love it? If someone knows that secret, I'd love to know!
This is an interesting question. I had a job in college that was near where I wanted to live. The job SUCKED. The people I worked with/for were terrible, I left crying, stressed and miserable. That means I couldn't leave work at work and enjoy the area I lived in. However, if the only thing I liked in my day was my job, I think I'd be pretty miserable, too.