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Ugh! Why?!?!
I check my husbands email for him several times a week. I'm not the nosey wife, he asks me to because he'll forget. I'll go in and delete junk mail and will print out the important stuff he needs for school, etc.
So I check it and there is an email with a message that says "Hey Scott". I open it expecting it to be from someone in his class, but it's not. It is from some girl he went out with a few times when he was stationed at Ft Carson. He left the military 4 years ago and has not heard a word from this chick, until now. I told him this means she is only after one thing. He wants me to just delete it, but I want to email her back. He wants to change his email address and says I can email her after he changes his email.
Maybe I'm a little jealous but why would you contact someone after not speaking to them in over 4 years? Just seems odd to me!
Re: Ugh! Why?!?!
If the girl KNOWS he's married, I'd email her back or have him email her explicitly stating that she is not to contact him anymore.
If she doesn't know he's married, don't get too worked up. Have him send her a polite email explaining that he's married and very happy. That should suffice. If she emails him again, see above.
I think you need to just let it go, or tell your husband to respond back with an update on his life - he is now married and has a child, etc. etc.
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I can totally relate to how you feel though. MH has an ex that used to contact him about every 6 months, she knew him and I had been together but continued anyway. We all went to school together and I never liked her, she was friends with my younger sister. At first he wanted to be "nice" and would respond back but after seeing how it bothered me, he stopped. Luckily she hasn't tried to contact him in over 2 years.
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I can't respond until I know exactly what was in the email lol. I would just ignore it if I knew for sure that H deleted his old email account..otherwise it would turn paranoid
Ditto Moonstone. Unless she said something like, "Hey hot stuff. It was great to see you Saturday night and grind my ladyparts on your hard manwang in the club. Can't wait to see you again this weekend, lovah!" ... I would let it go. Your H had a past before you came along and I'm sure you did, too. How would your H react if you got an email from an ex that was an innocent enough contact/update message? I can't imagine he would get worked up about it if you responded in the right way.
IMO, your *H* does need to respond. Not you. This poor chick is holding out hope that he will respond positively in a romantic way to her initiation. So your H needs to send an email saying that he got married, you two have a fetus, and whatever other peaks/valleys of his life he wants to share. Otherwise, she'll keep showing up like a herpes outbreak every now and then.
Manwang... I love it!!!
The question I would have would be why is your H changing his email address because of this?
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Again, agreed. Sounds like a drastic measure for a simple "Hi, hello" email.