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So last night's nanny interview was....
...interesting.
She was a very nice girl, but she way over-shared. WAY. She went on and on about being fired from her last job and how the parents were druggies and very rich and she could never get a weekend off. Her dedication to the kids was endearing but seriously, I don't want someone to talk sh!t about us later- from real opinions about us or not.
Plus she has never been to another state except PA. DH found that extremely odd. Said she was "too country" and wants someone who has at least traveled a little more.
I am interviewing a Russian girl who speaks 3 languages who I am excited about. She's actually part of an Au Pair program but is looking for a live-out position since she recently married. She sounds fabulous. DH keeps making fun of me because he swears I just want a "foreign nanny." LOL
It WOULD be awesome if DS was spoken to in English, Russian (nanny) and French (MIL).
I have to get on my MIL about speaking French to him. I asked her for 5 years to only speak French to the dog so the dog would be bilingual but she never did. So I have to be serious about it with DS.
(Yes, I am weird).
The end!
ETA- oh, and my ad and specifications to the agency were that the nanny like and be comfortable with dogs. I could tell this girl didn't like my dog. I asked if she liked dogs and she said, "no, but I have one."
If you don't like dogs, you won't last in my house. Who tells me they don't like dogs? That is like telling an Italian person you don't like pasta.
Re: So last night's nanny interview was....
LOL, I love this! I can picture your MIL going
though about giving French lessons to P, haha!
At least the first nanny made it easy for you to say no to her. Hope your fancy Russian au pair works out
Well, P had a fellow pit bull friend at the playground in Boston who was tri lingual in English, Portuguese and Spanish. I was so jealous. So I told my MIL she needed to speak French to her so she could be bi lingual too.
Are you paying the agency? If so, I would tell them that she doesn't like dogs.. Kind of crappy to be paying them to waste your time on someone that would never work.
Could you imagine the poor girl when you bring home a foster? Hehe
Big side eye to the bolded part.
And I know a Chinese girl who doesn't like rice. What the...?
Ha. Well I don't like kids, but I have one...I like mine. LOL.
Andrea, seriously! You know how some of them are coming out of the shelter too! LOL
Last night's interviewee sounds sketchy. Bad mouthing former employers in an interview is just not right and the "Don't like dogs but I have one" comment is just weird.
I hope the Russian lives up to your expectations and llove that you wanted MIL to speak French to your dog
Oh gosh I know soooo many nannies like that. I think because there is such a hot demand for nannies in the area that some parents really just take what they can get. For example the family I care for...their former nanny was a total nutcase. She had a boyfriend that was in prison, and she would leave the kids with her mom while she visited him...like the kids I care for...with her mom...right. And the Mom of my kids said she didn't know what to do because she really needed her. I was like WTF!!! I can't believe that.
Also there is a Mom of a little girl that "my" little girls plays with that I have become really close with. She has a part time nanny, and her nanny is such a loser. I would NEVER trust her. She has all this drama with boyfriends, and ex boy friends...restraining orders...just crazy. So my friend says "well would you use so and so to look after "your" kids?" I tell her no...I would not. EVER. She says she is going to let her go, but she is worried about who she can find. She ends up keeping her. She said she could not find anyone else.
PS. We "speak" German to our dog...ha ha ha....just dog commands.
Side note:
A speech language friend of mine swears that exposing children to two or more languages can cause them difficulty in processing language structure. She had some wonderful articles on the subject that focused on children from bi-lingual homes and how they were delayed in school with their speech and language skills. I can understand the desire to teach ds a foreign language, but I'd really do some research on the subject.
good luck with your nanny search.
This reminds me of the moms I saw the other day at a coffee shop in the South End. Two moms, three children, one nanny and no control over the children! The kids were "exploring" the merchandise in the coffee shop while the nanny looked horrified that neither of the moms were doing anything about it. Of course, she was not helping out either, so god knows what was going on.
This happens to me whenever one or both of the parents is with me. They are WAY more relaxed about letting the kids just run around. This is why I HATE when one of them has the day off, and wants to hang out with me. The behavior of the children is totally different, and not in a good way.
I see the same kind of behavior when kids are at my school and parents are with them. Kids who normally would be well behaved... (maybe a bit high energy, but they are kids,) end up running around the halls, hitting their parents, behaviors that are not acceptable. It's almost like some parents try to be their kids buddy because they don't have the opportunity to spend a lot of time with them. It just drives me crazy... I just want to walk over and say "Be a parent!!"
How interesting. I'll read up on this. The private preschools we are considering for later all implement French and Chinese from admission (2 years old) on. Hmmm.
Yes! I know. I think in the case with the parents of my kids there is a lot of guilt...so they just let the kids do whatever they want. It is pretty obnoxious.
Yeah I can't see myself being like that! lol
No no no...it happens when parents are basically MIA. At least in my experience that is when I see it. When I was in undergrad I nannied for several other families with parents who were hands on, and had great parenting skills. It seems to be that when parents are basically absent they tend to let their kids just run around and do whatever they want....they buy them a ton of crap...you know compensating for lack of being there.
So Nanny Diaries!!
Exactly!
Ummm so I'm new to the Local board....but from MA.
This may be a random question, but I've always been curious since a person I know is a nanny, but how much do Nannies make? You don't have to answer this - but if anyone knows, I would be interested to find out.
"Your good friend Miranda has just taken a piece of cake out of the garbage and eaten it. You will probably need this information when you check me into the Betty Crocker Clinic"
I would say the average starting hourly rate is about $18-$20 an hour. This can go way up if you have experience with twins or special needs.
It varies.
My friend has a nanny in Swampscott who she pays $10/hour. I have another friend who has a nanny in Newton and pays $14/hour. They can, of course, cost up to $20/hour in other areas and depending on experience and the agencies you use (if you use one). It can also vary based on education and experience, both of which I require, but not every family does.
I refuse to put DS in a daycare center this young and will gladly sacrifice a lot to have a nanny in home with him.
Thanks!
"Your good friend Miranda has just taken a piece of cake out of the garbage and eaten it. You will probably need this information when you check me into the Betty Crocker Clinic"