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WWYD? Long- sorry!
H's cousin is having a baby shower next month at Maggiano's and we are invited. MIL asked H's aunt, who is hosting the shower, if we could bring the babies and aunt said that was fine. MIL texted me to let me know and I responded without really thinking, saying OK thanks for the info. Well when I told H about it I realized the babies are going to be 3 weeks old. I think that is WAY too early to be taking them out to a restaurant. Not like I am going to keep them cooped up in the house for months, but a baby shower with two infants does not seem like fun for anyone. Especially for the guest of honor, since everyone will likely want to see and hold the babies on her special day. Once I realized this I e-mailed H's aunt to let her know we would not be bringing the babies but thank you so much for telling MIL that we could. It isn't like she offered anyways, MIL asked and she was on the spot, so who knows how she really feels about it.
Anyways I told her if my mom was able to watch the babies we would still come. Well now that I think about it, I am not sure if we are going to want to leave the babies already at 3 weeks. Am I being crazy?? I just think if that is the first time we leave them, we are going to worry and stress and not have a good time.
I feel bad if H and I miss his cousins shower, but it is her second baby and she already had a huge shower two years ago. So is it unreasonable for H and I to think it is too soon to bring the babies out to the shower OR get a babysitter?
Sorry so long...I just worry too much when it comes to offending people. Would you be offended if I missed your shower for these reasons??
Re: WWYD? Long- sorry!
Personally, I would not bring them to the shower for numerous reasons.
Only you will know if you are ready to leave them for a few hours. Is the option of only you or H going to the shower and one of you staying home with the babies? If this is her 2nd child, it doesnt sound like it is super important for you or both of you to be there.
I would not be offended if a guest did not come because she had newborn babies at home.
Do what you think is best for YOU and your babies!
Your babies are your get-out-of-shower-free card.
My silly Lily is almost 4.
I mentioned this to H and he doesn't want to do that. I would rather him go and me stay home than vice versa, but he thinks that since he will already be back to work by then, he is going to want to spend his free time at home. So I guess it is an option but neither of us really want to do that.
Haha, I love this. I should print some out for H and I. How long do you think it will be good for??
As long as you want it to be. :-)
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Trust me, you WILL want to leave them to go out for a few hours at 3 weeks old! TRUST ME!!!!!!!!!!!!
I'm sort of kidding but it would be fine to leave them. They will probably sleep the entire time that you are out anyways!
I am sure they would also understand if you declined seeing as you just brought home newborn twins!
Hahaha! I love it, Junie. H's family is Jewish so they wouldn't know that I was lying
Lol. I was sorta thinking this but H thinks no way. I obviously trust my mom and that is not the issue at all! How old were your boys when you left them for the first time?
Ditto. I plan on using my baby as a get-out-of-anything I don't wanna do free card for awhile.
Well technically everyday for their first month of life since they were in the NICU but as far as when we brought them home I can't remember! Everything is kind of a blur! lol! I swear I don't remember anything from their first few months!
Clearly, we have different personalities and parenting philosophies, but I had DD at Target and out to dinner in the first week. I was climbing the walls and needed to get out of the house. I even had help that week - H and Mom.
I wouldn't try to follow a hard line just yet. I would leave this one up in the air. You may be dying to leave the house, but the babies might be gassy/fussy/sick. Things change every moment when they're that age, so even the best plans can be derailed in 5 minutes.