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Melissa
You will find the balance. Give yourself some time. I remember when Ella was about a month Rich and I went out for my birthday. I must have called my mother 15 times to check on Ella. I just couldn't let go. After a few months though I was fine.
Once you go back to work it will be better too. I definitely wasn't SAHM material. I did it for a couple of years and pretty much hated it. I was miserable and depressed. I hated and still hate playdates and found that most, not all, SAHM were not my style. They did nothing but live for their children. They stopped taking care of themselves, couldn't have a conversation that didn't involve breast feeding, poop, vomit or bragging that their kid did this most amazing thing and was already talking at 3 mos.
Remember that you are still Melissa but now you have another person to take care of.
Re: Melissa
Thanks ladies! I agree it'll be better when I go back to work. As much as my commute to Boston sucks, that train ride is 2 hours a day where I can do whatever - sleep, read, knit, etc. I don't want to go back to work, but I know once I'm doing it for a while, I'll appreciate that time. And the time at home with Benjamin more. At least I'm leaving him with my parents, that helps make it easier to leave him.
I told DH next time we have a kid, we have to time it so that it is born in the warm weather. I can't stand not being able to go walking every day and I miss fresh air!! I'm going to start getting out of the house a few times a week starting this week and once I see my doctor and get the OK, my Dad is going to come over a few times a week to watch the little guy while I go to the gym. Hoping to start feeling more like ME when I start doing these things!! I've always really valued my me time, and I miss it a LOT. So it'll be nice to get it back soon.
Sounds like a perfect plan!