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Vacation Vent- long
I've mentioned the family vacation I'm being forced to go in some other posts, but here is my official vent.
My MIL wants to take a family trip to Hawaii, she decided it would be this summer (mid-July). She and FIL are paying for a house for us to stay in. Us includes DH and I, his parents and his three sisters. Okay so she is paying for the house, for which I am grateful, but we are paying for everything else. Our flights alone will cost us at least $1100 each.
Here are my major problems with this trip:
1) It comes right after we just spend thousands on our honeymoon. We didn't really want to splurge on another expensive vacation so soon.
2) We live in a 104 year old house that needs so much work. Basically a lot of projects we were going to do this year (especially the complete bathroom renovation) are being pushed aside so we can fund this trip.
3) We were going to start TTC next winter, but I really think I want (need) to wait another year now to save more.
4) I have a feeling when it comes time to start buying plane tickets and paying for excursions, MIL & FIL will be paying for my 3 SILs stuff while DH and I pay for our own. I don't expect them to pay for us, but his sisters all have full time jobs (they just don't save very well). I resent the fact that we will be expected to spend our hard earned money while they get a free vacation.
5) MIL keeps pressuring DH to get more time off work for the trip. He works for a baseball team, getting 6 days off in summer is hard enough. Taking a day off when the team is home and has a game is impossible.
I am just frustrated with the whole thing and I realize that I may sound selfish or ungrateful, but the timing of this completely sucks. Vent over.
Re: Vacation Vent- long
Christie - I would be utterly frustrated as well.
Is not going an option? Can you have DH call his mom and say while you guys were really looking forward to the trip, it's just not in your budget right now with all of the other expenses you currently have and are saving for?
I'm in a similar situtation, but no as expensive, but basically DH's immediate family tries to go to CO every year. I've never gone with and they haven't gone the past 2 years b/c of our wedding and SIL's wedding in '09. So this year they really want to go. They have friends with a timeshare, so they pay them to stay there. I know that when we get there housing and all of our meals will be covered by IL's, but I have 2 concerns:
1. DH, his BIL and my FIL are all really outdoorsy and like mountain biking, etc. I won't do that, but then I'm left to hang out with MIL and SIL. That's fine, I like them, we get along, it will work...but they love to shop and high end shop. While I like and have nice things, I can't afford to buy anything full price so shopping with them is a disaster (have done it before).
2. Which ticks me the worst, is that for Christmas DH opened a box w/a "coupon" in it for redemption of his choice: a grill or a plane ticket to CO for the trip. So essentially, they'll pay for everything for DH and then I have to pay for myself. I know he's their child and all, but it p!sses me off. Especially since they know we have a wedding in FL and (I don't think they know) but I'm going to be paying for 70% of the trip (since it's my friend and I make more than DH). UGH
Sorry to S/O on your OP, but you got me going :O)
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I agree with Hannah. Is there anyway you can call you MIL and tell her you can't make it. I know going to Hawaii would be an awesome vacation but it seems as though you and YH are tied up with other things at this point in your life.
I'm sorry BOTH of you have to deal with these trips. As much fun as they can be, sometimes things just don't work out.