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Hot mess post inside!!!
Okay, this is totally RANDOM.
I dated this pilot on and off in college. It was a roller coaster relationship, eventually we managed to get away from one another, I got engaged to someone else and after I called off my wedding to my ex-fiance, we quickly got back together. The relationship was a mess and without both of us going to major couple's counseling (let's face it, two assholes can not be together) it was never going to work. This man tried to friend me on facebook a few weeks ago - he is now married (I think) and has a child and...I can't stop thinking about it. I have had dreams about him nearly every night since he tried to friend me and I just feel major feelings of loss that I can't quite explain. He randomly texted messaged me this past summer (the night of the NBA draft, I clearly remember, because I was a mess about it all night and kept making mistakes and screwing sh!t up) after not having spoken for probably four years....anyway.
I am quite bothered by this beause clearly I am not "over" it. I am not in love with him, I do not want to talk to him, see him, be friends with him on fb, etc etc....I don't get it.
Re: Hot mess post inside!!!
First off, sorry about the dual personalities today!
Well, I certainly feel much better about this now that I know it is not abnormal. I had a totally random dream about him AGAIN last night and it has put me in a seriously sour mood. You can ask Snowful - I spent an entire lunch with her OBSESSING over this a few weeks ago. I haven't mentioned this to DH and I think if I talked to him about it I would feel better although I just don't think it is appropriate to bring it up.
This is why, when dating someone, if two months in, the relationship is going to be a disaster, regardless of how good it is when it is good - if the relationship is 80% bad (even if the sex is outstanding) - GET OUT!!!!!!!!!!!! Do not allow the relationship to drag on and on for five years!!!!!!