September 2010 Weddings
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Confessions?!?!
I know the boards on TK do this but I have one and don't really post over there. So, here I go.
As much as I want a baby. We are not really TTC but not really stopping anything. I got excited today when I started my period. I think it goes I really want a baby and carry a baby but I don't want to be pregnant. We are so the couple who LOVE to sit at the bar, watch the game and have some beers. Being pregnant I can't have some beers and H lost his drinking buddy. Am I crazy?
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Re: Confessions?!?!
You're not crazy. I really love my life sans kids - wine with the girls, staying up late watching movies with MFD, sleeping in if we're able to on the weekends. There's a lot of sacrifices that come with pregnancy and kids, and I think women make the majority of the sacrifices. I'm not prepared to do that right now, and I'm not sure if I will be. We still don't know if we're having kids or not.
You're not crazy. We talk about it and are preventing it right now but if something accidently happened I don't know how I'd feel. I want kids but not sure if we're ready for them (not that we'll ever be but ya know).
My confession:
I'm about to pop a teacher in the head for her two e-mails this morning. She kills me. I can't help that the county has me at THREE different schools and I'm only at your school twice a week and doing the best I can. Excuse me for not returning your midnight phone call the day before a meeting I found out about 2 days prior and then the meeting you weren't even at. I really hope they fire you or I'm not longer there next year. One or the other.
It's not crazy at all to have reservations about giving up stuff to start a family.
confessions:
-I'm kind of pissed at a co-worker for something really stupid. We had a guy who was fired and left some stamps in his desk. I found them, and told a co-worker that I was going to put them in the common drawer with the envelopes so that people could use them if they need a stamp while they're at work (which happens VERY rarely). I didn't do it yesterday, and when I remembered this morning and went to move them, five of them were missing. I seriously doubt that she generated five pieces of mail at work this morning. If someone is just going to take a bunch of them home for personal use, I think that I should since I found them, but I decided to be nice and share. See? I told you it's stupid.
-I want a baby so bad that I'm trying to convince Jeff that I should go off of BC and see what happens. He's being rational about it, and I know we aren't in a position to have a baby, but I wish he would just stop being rational and let the chips fall where they may. I'm going crazy.
Small confession: Eventhough me and H are TTC, sometimes I think I want to stop because I feel like H is so immature and I have to do so much for him, he's almost like a child himself. I know that sounds bad but it's true.
2nd confession: Last night H got home at 11:30 (he gets off at 11) and before he gets in the shower we always talk for alittle bit. Well then he starts telling me one of the guys girlfriend at work, has been packing this guy awesome food and awesome cupcakes. And he says have you ever heard of lemon cupcakes? like freaking duh what are you trying to say, he says she makes lemon cupcakes with leamon icing oh there so good, blah blah blah. I need to add that cupcakes are my thing, I made Dr. Pepper cupcakes just a couple of weeks ago with homeade icing and they didn't get a reaction like her lemon ones did. And then when she packed her bf lunch she put a nutty butty bar with allens name on it. So the rest of the night I was a grouch to Allen, I know its stupid but I was irratated. Not at her just him for not acknowledging stuff I make like that.
It's basically like you're in my brain right now. I feel ready mentally, but at the same time not financially (are you ever truly ready in that sense?) and I still feel like we should enjoy this "us" time that we have together. I'm afraid this bug is going to get more & more apparent as time goes by...
09.25.10
You're not crazy. If the whole being pregnant/giving birth thing was avoidable, I'd be MUCH more interested in having a kid.
I don't have anything worthwhile to confess other than my new accounting class is kicking my ass and I'm only a week in. But I'm determined to make it through, even if it means I have to stop cooking and sleeping in order to study for it.
Married / The Cookaholic Wife
We don't want kids for a few years, just want to enjoy our time together before we start a family.
I am so f***** pissed at the stupid photographer. It's been 4 months and I'm still waiting for my pro pics. I emailed him back in Nov and he said he would mail another disc since the one he sent "got lost in the mail." It is January and still nothing. I have emailed him several times in Dec and in Jan. I then went to his website and found that it is not longer exists. On Monday I called him to ask what was going on with the photos. He didn't answer so I left him a message. He called me back the same day but I couldn't answer so he left me a message. I called him back after 5pm (the same day) and got his VM again so I left a message. I didn't hear back so I called him on Tuesday and left another message. Still did not hear back so I called him yesterday and left another message.
This is freaking ridiculous. How difficult is it to call me back. Am I expecting too much? I told DH to try to call him too. I'm going to give him another week and if I don't hear back from him I am going to file a small claims suit against him. All I want are the pictures from this important day on my life. He has had a great amount of time to produce them and if he doesn't I'm going to sue him.
Where is this recipe and why don't I have it already? (H and I are Dr P addicts, I even have Dr P lip balm)
Two confessions:
1. Sometimes I feel bad that H and I ARE in a place where we could have kids (financially and other things), but we seriously have negative interest. Especially after getting the dog. I do not want even more responsibility. H and I LOVE to sleep. We love to do what we want, when we want. Kids are not in the cards.
2. There was a friendship post on the RE board today (link) and I feel like I'm partially this friend the girl is talking about. Mostly this part: " She keeps wondering when the rest of us will catch up to her... BC she is married so she an adult and the rest of us are childish." H and I are the only ones in our set of friends that are married, have a house, etc. I feel like everyone else is making stupid decisions and doesn't have any responsibilities and relies on mommy and daddy too much. Except in regards to the post, I'm the friend that gets taken for granted.
The Princess of Anything is Coming!
Had a dream I was queen.
Woke up. Still queen.
Queen- I'll PM the recipe to you tonight. I want to double check the recipe before I type it just to make sure I remember right.
You aren't crazy at all! You have to be 100% ready to have a baby before you even start to try!
DH and I have both said that we are ready to have a baby. I'm going to finish up my birth control at the end of next month, and then we'll go from there.
I don't expect to get pregnant right away, but I really can't wait for it to happen!
Confession:
A friend of mine is getting married this summer, and she's starting to drive me up the wall! Constantly asking questions and talking about it 24/7. She doesn't seem to get the concept that not everyone is as excited about your day as you are.
Don't get me wrong, I love my friend, and I love that she wants to come to me for advice, but I'm just about ready to rip my hair out.
This. I'm also swinging back to the "We can barely manage ourselves, let alone a baby" side of the fence.
* I need to make up my mind about quitting my job. For the second day in a row, someone at work has done something that implies I'm an idiot. One was my boss - but it's mostly just because she micro-manages everything. At what point is my sanity/happiness worth more than my paycheck? I really don't want to give up my paycheck because there's NO way I'd make even half of that if I went to freelance work.
*I have spent the majority of yesterday and today chatting online with friends.
*I regret pushing DH to buy a snowblower, only because I had no excuse to be late to work this morning. That stupid thing cleared our two-car driveway in maybe 15 minutes?
WHY NOT ME!!!!!!!
I decided not to shovel and make my corolla deal with the 3" of snow this AM. It did, until I got to the part with the plowed snow from the road. Ugh. It took me forever to dig out. H just used my pre-carved path.
The Princess of Anything is Coming!
Had a dream I was queen.
Woke up. Still queen.
09.25.10
Sounds like lots of us have been bit by the baby bug - and I'm one of them!
DH and I are emotionally and financially ready for a baby....but we keep saying we owe ourselves more time just for us. SO hard to wait...and it's getting harder and harder. My maternal clock feels like it's going haywire. In reality, our good friends are getting married later this year and I do not want to be pregnant at their wedding. After that, we'll see what happens. If I wait until after the wedding to get KU I'll be at least 26 by the time the baby is born...that's not too bad...right? Why does my head keep bouncing back and forth between "I want one NOW!" and "Just wait awhile longer - you'll be happy you did!"
If only DH would let me get a dog maybe my baby bug would be suppressed for awhile.
I really hope not, since I'll be 27 next month and we're at least a year away from getting pregnant!
Obviously, me too. Glad I am not alone.