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FIL is back with his old girlfriend. LAME
And it sucks, because she's really nice.
FIL is emotionally unavailable. He hits it and quits it with women. He's got a good job, but no sense of how to handle his money.
He dated the old girlfriend a few months back. They broke up and it was pretty hairy. He immediately acquired a new girlfriend named Cheryl. She quit her job and moved from another state to be with him--after knowing him for TWO WEEKS. She was a classic golddigger. He indulged Cheryl by giving her spending money, buying her a new Denali, etc. etc. He finally realized she was only there for his money when she went back to her home state, ran out of money, and came back asking for $5k. HELLO, FIL. SHE HAS BEEN DOING THIS ALL ALONG.
I guess FIL finally kicked her out, and while she was still at his house, old girlfriend showed up. FIL had been seeing them both, and old girlfriend found this out by running into Cheryl.
Now that Cheryl's dumb ass has moved back to her home state, FIL is all about old girlfriend. She's updated her relationship status on FB to "In a relationship" and honestly it's just ridiculous. I want to write her an email that says this:
I wanted to know what's going on with the whole XXXXX situation. Last we heard he was living with Cheryl. We never met her but heard plenty.Now you two are back together? It's just confusing. Why on earth would you think that things would be any different than they have been in the past? He completely abandoned you and moved in with someone else. Professed his undying love for her to all of his kids and had her move from another state to be with him. Bought her a car and paid for all of her kids to have gifts and shopping money. Dropped his family completely and adopted hers as his own. Then he realized she was a golddigger--and after she quit her job and moved in with him, he dumped her flat on her ass and took his vehicle back. What a stand up guy.
T and XXXXX are pretty much in the same spot as they were. I don't care for him, as you know, and haven't changed my opinion. I think he's a terrible father, grandfather, and has no emotional investment in anyone but himself. I have tried so many times to give him the benefit of the doubt, but I fail to see anything even remotely positive that he's done.
He hasn't seen B or T since July. He canceled Christmas with us after we all told him that Cheryl was not welcome to join us. (Yes, he was planning on bringing her). He used "work" as an excuse. Funny how he was available to spend all of those nights with his girlfriend, but wasn't available for any of his kids. He even gave her children more time than he did his own--he was letting her kids stay with him!
XXXXX seems to think that we're all money hungry and that we expect cash from him. T and I have NEVER asked him for money, and never will. Yet we've heard from people that he thinks we're mad at him because he won't pay our bills. How completely untrue and distorted. Maybe he's feeling that vibe from his other kids, but if he is, we shouldn't be lumped in with that.
I seriously hope for your sake that you've thought this through and are ready for the emotional ups and downs that he has always brought you. I wish that you had it in you to leave him for good and find someone who was much more deserving of your time. In the end, I can guarantee that you will get nothing more than what you've gotten in the past.
Why are you subjecting yourself to this? Did he beg your forgiveness? Did he tell you everything about Cheryl? I know you met her, but do you know all of it? If you do, what in the hell are you thinking?
Boymom
Re: FIL is back with his old girlfriend. LAME
I am so glad I don't have to see my parents date. I really don't know if I could deal with it.
I feel SO bad for H. Which is why I'm venting/posting it here instead of blowing up his phone right now and reading him my hateful e-mail.
It's ridiculous how some women settle for men when they're complete douche bags.
I like it too, man. I think she'd probably get pissed if I sent it.