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Normal?
My DH and I have an on-going fight, and I am starting to think that I am not normal.
Here's the issue: I don't like to be kissed on my body or have my nipples licked, I certainly don't care if other people like it and do it, it just grosses me out to have it done to me. But DH calls it my sex "rules", whereas, I just feel like it is personal preference.
Is it normal not to like this "activity" and what are some ways I can just get over it so we can stop having this stupid fight.
Re: Normal?
I think it's fine that you don't like it and I really don't think it matters if you call it rules or personal preference. If you say "Don't kiss me on my body" then what is really wrong with it being called a rule?
But why don't you like being kissed on your body? Maybe your nipples are over sensitive or something, that I could understand but you won't allow a kiss on the neck? or shoulders? belly? leg? oral? Why is this? Why does this "gross you out" I'm just wondering if maybe there's a bigger issue?
I agree that there may be a bigger issue. What sore of intimacy do you like, then? If he can't kiss you anywhere but the mouth what do you want him to do? Are you grossed out kissing his body?
I guess I can understand one, maybe two, body parts that you don't prefer. I hate having my ears licked - that feels gross to me, but I'm more interested in what you like for foreplay if body kissing is out.
I don't mind oral and I like to kiss his body, and honestly, I think I would like to have my neck or other parts kissed if I knew it would not lead to kissing my boobs. Does that make sense?
I do feel like I am really sensitive to the touch on my breasts, especially since having nursed my daughter. I brought up the same argument of, what if there was something you didn't like, but apparently he likes everything.