Moms/Pregnant/TTC/Will one day TTC

goldenleaves · January 2011

Are any of you planning on only having one child? DH and I have been talking about it a lot lately. We feel so complete with just Ryan at this point. I know we have lots of years left if we decide we want another down the road, but part of me feels like once we're done with all of the baby stuff we won't want to "start over", kwim?

Anyone else kicking this around/already decided?

moviesprincess · January 2011

I have heard of other people who have said that once they get through certain stages they do not want to start over again. I would like two at least.

Like you said, you all are still young. You might feel complete now, and that is great, and later down the road want another one.

goldenleaves · January 2011

moviesprincess:

I have heard of other people who have said that once they get through certain stages they do not want to start over again. I would like two at least.

Like you said, you all are still young. You might feel complete now, and that is great, and later down the road want another one.

Exactly, we could decide we want another in 10 years! But it does feel really good right now to feel content about our decision to wait. I think people always asking us if we wanted another one made us feel like we were "supposed" to say/feel yes. Our circle of friends generally has kids close together.

shelley1002 · January 2011

We want 2 kids, always have.

tshott · January 2011

It really depends on what happens with me. If I get pregnant with a singleton, we will try for another one. If I start getting sick again, we'll probably end up having to stop trying and I'll have to get a hysterectomy. At that point, we can choose other options if we feel strongly about having other children. The same will probably happen if we have multiples this time. Of course, that depends on how much having muliples scares Drew into having others.

mrsbaecker101108 · January 2011

Not a mom yet, nor TTC yet.

I know I want 2 kids though. I grew up an only child and had a love/hate relationship with being one. I obviously loved that i didnt have to compete for time/attention/monetary things, however I missed out on that bond with a sibling that everyone else I knew had. I had a cousin whom I was really close with growing up, but once we got to high school we really started drifting apart as we got our own friends, and had our own lives. There have been times in adulthood that we have gotten closer again, but she has a sister and I have never felt as close to her as she was to her sister. I see the relationship that my DH has with his brother and my mom has with her siblings and I want that for my children. Obviously it is not given that they will have that relationship, but I want them to at least have the option to have that bond with a sibling that I always felt like I missed out on.

Sorry for the rambling.

I also will say that I don't want my kids too close together. Ideally, I would TTC so they will be about 3-3.5 yrs apart. I would like one to be potty trained a little more independent before I have the other.

emscott · January 2011

My son is eight. I used to swear that if I didn't have another one by the time he was five, I wasn't going to start all over. However, we're planning to start ttc in July so he'll be like 9.5 when his sister is born.

FutureMrsNAH · January 2011

YUP. I have made our One and Done status no secret. I'm an only child, thus, I think they're wonderful .?

Seriously though, we do have several reasons for that decision but we're not taking permanent measures until C is like 3, just in case we change our minds (although I highly doubt I will).?

MrsStreff · January 2011

At list point we are One and Done... and I would like to keep it that way. But we arent going to do anything crazy to not get pregnant.

WildcatPrincess · January 2011

Oh I want lots, more than we'll have because DH doesn't want that many. But two at least, and he's starting to toss around 3. We plan on having them close so we're in continuous baby survival for a few years, but get it all over with at once!

SSM&JLM · January 2011

I've always been a 1 maybe 2 thinker. I never had/have a bond with my sibling. We're completely different people and even as adults don't have any sort of bond (it might be different if she wasn't BSC and in prison, but I doubt it).

DH will be 40, maybe older when #1 is born. I don't know if after 1 he'll want to go through the baby stage again. Plus our house really isn't big enough for 2 kids, we only have 3 bedrooms.

We'll probably be one and done, given we keep pushing back when the one will happen!

Pookums · January 2011

DH only wants one, I want at least two. I feel that if we can have siblings we should. He would be cool with two, it's financial for him,

I have to say though, if there are a great deal of complications I may change my mind especially since I can easily see dh freaking out and refusing to have more than one. The whole being over 35 for the next one freaks me out too.

katenney · January 2011

I grew up with siblings but Jim didn't--it is weird--he is an only child of an only child. We both would like to have one more, but with our age and have only one ovary time is most likely against us. But when we were not even sure if I could have children we seriously looked into adoption--and that is still a strong possibility for us.

tbvenable · January 2011

Not a mom, nor pregnat. We have been TTC for about a year but not to serious about it; I have just felt the timeing is off. We are expecting to go trough alot of changes this year (C's getting a different job and moving) so I will get serious about is and I think GOD will bless us once we are settled in our new place and C's new job is going well.

MarJo03 · January 2011

We've always wanted two. About 4 years apart. We're planning on taking Felicity to Disney World when she's 3.5, and then starting to TTC #2 right around that time. We also know that things may change, so we're staying open minded to that too. But I'm pretty sure we'll end up with two spawns.

lolabright · January 2011

We will be trying for #2 late this year or early next year and then we are done. I originally wanted 4 kids before we got married, we thought about one and done since Xander was not STTN until he turned one, but now we know we were meant to have 2. I have a sister and Andrew is one of four, we feel Xander needs a sibling.

lissydee · January 2011

ideally i want 2. but if we get another boy then i'd consider a 3rd. dh wants 3 or 4. i say no more then 3

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