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have to vent here- DH wouldn't understand the need to vent this
its really small and insignificant- but I am a venter- it helps me get stuff out and not boil up till I break and 'take out' others-lol.
MIL/FIL know we (DH and I) are not outdoorsy people at all. The subject of gardening, etc has came up in the past and they know we can't and don't like to do such things.
The extent of our 'gardening' involves DH cutting the grass (weeds mostly, its not a pretty yard by no means!) during the summer every other week.
ok, on to today- I get a card in the mail that can be planted and flowers will grow from it.
Here's my vent- I don't like the outside (well unless I'm sunbathing at the beach-lol). I don't like the dirt, to garden, etc, etc.... I really don't think its a slip of mind thing like they just forgot we don't 'do outside' I think they are trying to get us to enjoy their hobby.
Its no big deal, eye roll worthy really. They do not live local so it not like they'd see it planted or not. And I just needed to get this out because if I pent it up all day until DH gets home it will come out much too gripey and grumpy instead of a 'oh, look what we got' thing.
Re: have to vent here- DH wouldn't understand the need to vent this
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
Ew gardening lol.
That is annoying that they would send something like that.
I think I often make the same mistake that your MIL and FIL did. I see something that I would like to get as a gift, or think is really cute/clever, and get all excited to give it to someone else. Usually I'm pretty sure that the recipient isn't going to HATE it, but yes...sometimes it may be more up my alley than theirs.
You're right, it's really not a big deal. At least they sent a card at all! Some in laws aren't even that sentimental. So just take it as a nice gesture, and DEFINITELY don't complain to DH about it. It's really not that bad. Just appreciate the gesture of a card, and feel better that you got to vent about it here. Good choice!
I have a family member who truly believes that I just need to be exposed to the great outdoors in order to learn to love it. I grew up in the country, the outdoors and I are well acquainted. My idea of camping is an hotel without room service.
Last year for Christmas she sent me a membership to a campground club that is worldwide and a gift card for a camping store.
Its not that she hates me, or doesn't listen to me, I just think she doesnt get why anyone would not love camping as much as she does.
Maybe your inlaws are like that.
Maybe it's because I do like gardening but I would think that a little card that you just plant in the ground and it grows would be a good gift for someone who doesn't like to garden, it's super simple to do and you get flowers. Really I think maybe they were just trying to be nice especially knowing that you don't like to do much outside, it's like gardening for non-gardeners. If I got someone something like that though I wouldn't care if they didn't actually use it. And I'd probably tell them "thanks, lovely gesture but unfortunately we really avoid gardening to the extreme, we probably won't use this but we have a neighbor/friend/someone that would definitely use this, we'll pass it along to them"
Sara, Friend?
glove slap. I don't take crap.
I gotta say... I agree with this. Please count your blessings, take a look at the bigger picture and THANK your in-laws for thinking of you in the first place.
this reminds me of that part in the movie, my big fat greek wedding, where ian tells aunt vula that he doesnt east meat, hes a vegetarian and she says... its ok ill make lamb. ahaha
maybe your il love gardening so much they cant seem to comprehend who would'nt love it at ALL. maybe they sent the card thing like.. ooo this is something even THEY can do... anyway, it doesnt sound like a big deal, just typical il being il.
Eh...my MIL constantly harrasses me to start baking. She sends me recipes and has bought me baking cookbooks. I hate to bake and hate sweets in general. But I thank her and get over it.
I am going to go with this one.
I'm very active- I love to hike, bike, XC ski, etc. My BFF hates to do most of these things- I once asked her to go on a 20-mile ride and she responded that she would just drive the 20 miles and meet me at the end. But, I still ask her to do active things with me (when they're not too strenuous). It isn't that I'm trying to convert her- I'm just trying to include her in an activity that I love. So instead of asking her to go on a 20-mile ride with me again, I ask her to go on a short hike with some beautiful scenery.
I think the card was meant for the same reason. They're not trying to turn you into a gardener- they're just trying to give you some of the benefits of the hobby they enjoy while still making it as easy as possible for you, someone that doesn't enjoy gardening and may appreciate the ease of the gift.
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My mom sent me a card like that once. I told her I was going to cut the card up and plant it in a pot so I could enjoy it on my kitchen window sill.
My mom was silent for a minute. Then she asked why on earth would I cut a card up and stick it in a pot. She had no idea the card she had sent had seeds embedded in the paper. She just thought it was a pretty card with a nice message and didn't read the "fine print."
Just sayin'.