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I may move?
Recently a new position has opened up at work in our corporate area. H qualifies and it would be an awesome job for him. Definately a promotion and a giant career move. I would be so proud of him if he interviewed and got this job. BUT. It's in CA. That is very far for me, I've never even crossed the Rockies (except for a week honeymoon in Maui). My family (and his) are all here in FL or in NY. And we have a house that we will never be able to sell, or at least for a few many years. Don't really know what the pay rate for the job is is, but it would have to be at least 20k more, minimum. I'm still in the warming up phase right now. He hasn't applied yet, much less heard back as to if he would even be a consideration. But I don't want to tell him to go ahead and apply unless I'm rooting for him 100%. He's very considerate of my feelings and I'm trying to walk a line between being the loving supportive "go-for-it babe, you can do anything" wife, and the realistic "we have a mortgage payment here, what about all your tools and stuff here" naggy wife. There really isn't an answer, but I just wanted to vent. Thanks for listening 
Re: I may move?
Well said. I say apply for it too. Then you'll have more time to weigh your feelings while you're waiting. CA sounds great. Where abouts is it in CA?
LOL Aly!! Crazy right? Just an early opportunity right now. But I'm warming up to the idea pretty quickly.
ha! I was just googling and saw Britney Spears lives there. Maybe a little out of our price range. Wonder what the slums look like there? ... ok going to stay positive...
and if we did move, we'd better have SO MANY visitors!!
This was on my list of qualms. Did I hear that last year they didn't even issue state tax refund checks? I don't assume to buy a house at first, I'm good with renting. I'm more concerned with the one we have here and being stuck with the mortgage. We still owe over 150k and we need a roof. If I were very wealthy and/or renting my house now I would have no reservations. Basically it all comes down to the benjamins. But, he's applying and I'm being supportive.
I didn't hear that, but my family lived in NC for 6 months last year and I'm not sure if that's why my brother didn't get a refund. My parents always have to pay. My sister owes money so she won't be getting any refunds for a while!
Rent is astronomical out there, too, but definitely cheaper than buying. My family had to move 6 times in their 13 years out there because the landlords kept selling the houses they were renting. They got really good at packing, lol! My sister is currently looking for her own apt in NC and she is shocked by how much cheaper they are. She makes about the same as she did in CA and she said she could never live on her own out there, but since it's cheaper in NC moving out may be a possiblity for her.
This and what Aly said at the same time. There are too many unknowns for you to make a decision before he has a chance to explore the option. He won't know the possibility if he doesn't try.