TTC Poll (Kinda)

Philly6*6*09 · January 2011

This hasn't been done in a while.

I'm currrently trying to find a new OB-GYN, (I'm bad, I haven't been in a few years due to my old gyn who violated Hippa Laws...but anyway).

DH and I would like to start TTC in September. I will be 28.

Junebug060609 · January 2011

We're TTC, but I guess the cat was already out of the bag on that one after my loss in November. We're both 34, so figured better sooner than later.

Good luck finding a new doctor. Regardless of the TTC thing, if its been a few years you're due for a pap (a friend of mine had her life saved by having hers done, so I'm all for keeping up on those things). I hope you find a doc you really like. I had to get all new docs after the move and its a pain.

hawkilady · January 2011

My answer to this poll is kind of unnecessary but I thought I would participate anyway since I'm bored right now. We were TTC - it took us about 3 months after I went off the pill but the timing was bad the first 2 months since DH was out of town for work a lot. It actually happened a lot faster than I thought it would. Now we are 3 weeks away (give or take a few days) from meeting our little girl -- I still can't really believe it but I'm so ready for her to be here.

We've started talking about the 2nd one because we want to have them fairly close together so I think we'll wait until about her first birthday or maybe a few months longer since DH and I want to take a trip to Europe around May 2012 to celebrate both of our 30th birthdays. I'm not going back on the pill though so hopefully I can chart well enough to avoid having a 2nd sooner than we anticipate.

Good luck with the new doctor -- that's never fun.

mamie329 · January 2011

We're not currently TTC, mostly because of our job situation (he hates his and I don't have one). Ideally I'd like to begin TTC late 2011/early 2012.

SBS0628 · January 2011

Nope!

We've got a "cradle list" (like a bucket list, only before baby) that's pretty long. I'm still young-ish (27). I said I'd like to start trying by the time I'm 30 if we decide that we actually are going to do the baby thing (we're still on the fence about it).

luckycooky · January 2011

We are leaning towards one & done. Amelia is amazing and I love her with all of my heart but to be honest, I had a miserable pregnancy. My body just does not handle pregnant. But we have not ruled out adoption if we want a second.

In related news, BIL made the announcement at Christmas dinner that his wife is expecting. Apparently that is how he phrased it as he sat there drinking - "she is expecting a baby." He made it pretty clear that he did not want kids anytime soon but she has been pushing for a while. No one is tying him to the child now that there is one on the way. DH and I are just kicking back, laughing, and getting ready for the show.

vhcoleman09 · January 2011

Well, we started TTC again this month, for a few days. Then I got a call from one of my best friends that she set the date for her wedding as October 9 (in New Hampshire), so we put it on hold until about April. Originally, we were going to wait until June because we wanted to wait until Alex was 1 and we were planning a trip to Europe for our 2nd anniversary. Now the trip is off because we need to buy a minivan, so April it is.

kaleyandjason · January 2011

How about never?

I am young (23 today, in case you forgot). DH is 29. We have talked about babies and have recently decided that we like our freedom entirely too much (and our money). We want to travel a lot, a lot, a lot. We both have a huge list of things we want to do/buy.

Someone save this post and remind me of it in a few years when I have baby rabies.

Kellybeth124 · January 2011

I just turned 25 and won't be done with school until spring of 2013. In a perfect world, I'll graduate in 2013 and get a nursing job by the end of that summer. We'd like to begin TTC at the beginning of 2014 so that I'd have my job for at least a year before baby.

Leigha12 · January 2011

We're planning on TTC around May, that way I'll have a full year in at my office for FMLA to kick in (and hopefully have almost enough leave time saved up). Of course, I'm currently two days late. If I don't start by tomorrow after work, I'll be P(ing)OAS.

mbd62709 · January 2011

We will be trying for baby #2 soon, as in February soon. We want to have our kids close together and hopefully it will happen. We will also be 2 and done. I was an only child and want A to have a sibling.

Good luck on finding a new dr. Philly.

Junebug060609 · January 2011

Leigha12:
We're planning on TTC around May, that way I'll have a full year in at my office for FMLA to kick in (and hopefully have almost enough leave time saved up). Of course, I'm currently two days late. If I don't start by tomorrow after work, I'll be P(ing)OAS.

I hope the test turns out however you'd like.

hopscotch. · January 2011

We're not having kids. It was an open topic for a while (and DH REALLY wants kids), but unfortunately with my back and rib problems, it isn't going to happen. I can't fathom a pregnancy with the pain I am in. Lately I've been living on more medication than most people could possibly imagine (pain pills, muscle relaxers, and Advil). Even if I did magically get completely better (which won't happen), I still would never chance having kids. Not only would the pregnancy be hard, but I wouldn't be able to physcially pick up the child, etc...so it just isn't worth it.

hawkilady · January 2011

hopscotch.:

We're not having kids. It was an open topic for a while (and DH REALLY wants kids), but unfortunately with my back and rib problems, it isn't going to happen. I can't fathom a pregnancy with the pain I am in. Lately I've been living on more medication than most people could possibly imagine (pain pills, muscle relaxers, and Advil). Even if I did magically get completely better (which won't happen), I still would never chance having kids. Not only would the pregnancy be hard, but I wouldn't be able to physcially pick up the child, etc...so it just isn't worth it.

Sorry to hear this Hopscotch -- not that it's not fine to not want kids but that you don't really have a choice in the matter. Have they given you a reason why you're in so much pain?

hopscotch. · January 2011

hawkilady:
hopscotch.:

We're not having kids. It was an open topic for a while (and DH REALLY wants kids), but unfortunately with my back and rib problems, it isn't going to happen. I can't fathom a pregnancy with the pain I am in. Lately I've been living on more medication than most people could possibly imagine (pain pills, muscle relaxers, and Advil). Even if I did magically get completely better (which won't happen), I still would never chance having kids. Not only would the pregnancy be hard, but I wouldn't be able to physcially pick up the child, etc...so it just isn't worth it.

Sorry to hear this Hopscotch -- not that it's not fine to not want kids but that you don't really have a choice in the matter. Have they given you a reason why you're in so much pain?

I was diagnosed with Fibromyalgia...but I haven't really accepted that yet...because I think there is more to the story. I just finally got a thoracic MRI (after begging for one for a long time)...and they found hemangiomas (benign spinal tumors) on C7 and T8...so it's very possible that they are causing my pain (which would make sense, since I am getting worse by the day which coincides with their growth). Unfortunately, surgery is a last resort for hemangiomas on the spine, because they can cause a lot of blood loss and it is a pretty intense surgery (possibly requiring them to take bone from your hip to rebuild the vertebrae). Radiation is an option to stop the tumor growth and potentially shrink it...so that will probably be the first course of treatment...but we'll see. Even if my pain completely goes away, I'll never even attempt to get pregnant because it's always possible for them to grow back.

mamie329 · January 2011

Hops, that makes me sad.

Would you consider adopting (an older child who needs less picking up?

Leigha12 · January 2011

Junebug060609:
Leigha12:
We're planning on TTC around May, that way I'll have a full year in at my office for FMLA to kick in (and hopefully have almost enough leave time saved up). Of course, I'm currently two days late. If I don't start by tomorrow after work, I'll be P(ing)OAS.

I hope the test turns out however you'd like.

I wasn't sure how I wanted it to turn out to be honest, but I let out a huge sigh of relief when it turned out negative. Guess it's all just part of the process of going off BCP!

Hops, I hope you're able to get some real relief soon! You're way too young to have to be in so much pain!

hopscotch. · January 2011

mamie329:
Hops, that makes me sad. Would you consider adopting (an older child who needs less picking up?

No, definitely not. I won't adopt any age at all. I am not the kind of person cut out for adopting. I'm not a big fan of kids anyway and the only reason I would ever consider having a kid in the first place would be because everyone says "oh, it's different when it is your own kid..." I think people that can adopt kids are amazing people, but I'm just not cut out for it. I think I would feel like I was just babysitting, and I don't know if I could ever really establish a true bond with the child. I know...I'm weird...but that's how I feel. I love being around my neices and friend's kids, but I just don't think adoption is for me.

I was waivering on having kids in the first place, so these back issues are just a sign that it probably wasn't the right thing for me anyway.

mamie329 · January 2011

Just think of all the sleep you'll get and money you'll save.

hopscotch. · January 2011

mamie329:
Just think of all the sleep you'll get and money you'll save.

EXACTLY! And...I NEED my sleep! Not to mention, it will free up loads of money to do the things I really want to do (like travel the world).

janma529 · January 2011

Here's a naive question: How did you know when you were ready?

keb270 · January 2011

Right now, we are leaning towards never TTC. If we decide to have kids, it will prob be in like 9-10 years as we have a lot of things we want to do as a couple first. Besides, kids scare me.

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