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Lvila & Tigers, just to clarify if you don't see my post below..
Ladies, please don't take things personally. I don't really care about what choices you all made, that was yours to make, wasn't it? The sad part is that I am wondering if the hospital is going to respect my choice. That's where my sadness came in. Are they going to respect my decision? I don't know yet. I do have an extremely open mind....I'm a therapist, so you can't get more open that that. Don't read more into things...you don't need to defend your choice to me, as really don't matter, I'm just a person on the net...
No judgment here...I'm just worried about myself, not others.
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Re: Lvila & Tigers, just to clarify if you don't see my post below..
OK, so what you're saying is that it is sad about the 12% because you don't feel like hospitals are supportive of non-med births. I guess I don't know that side of things so can't comment on that aspect. Sorry if I reacted defensively. I guess I've had the unfortunate luck of running into a couple people that act like they are superior to me because they had a non-med birth (1 which continues to remind me 2.5 years LATER!) so I jumped to the conclusion that you were one of those people. Sorry about that.
On a non-related note:
I have been feeling very blah lately and feel like I need to state my opinion more and take a stand because it seems that some people take my neutrality as an invitation to walk all over me. Sorry that I used your post to state my opinion when I didn't know the entire story behind what you stated.
And to lighten the mood, here is something I've been meaning to post for awhile...
Holy hell, thanks for the nighmares that are sure to happen from this! LOL
Hey no worries...
Just being in the medical community, I'm so afraid that they are not going to respect my decision. I see it happen a lot. That frightens me. I'm doing all I can personally to have a natural birth but if I can't, I can't, I'm open to the other options. I'm not going to comprimise my self, my body, or most importantly, my baby. It's just so sad for me to think that my doctor might not be on my team and respect me and my choices. I can't tell yet where my medical team lies (I honestly feel like a farm animal at this point) and what scared the crap out of me is that I'm a miniority and will they be supportive? they say there are but I'm so skeptic...and scared.
I'm all about choices, what's good for some is not good for others but my choice is my choice and theirs is theirs. You did what was right for you and that's totally awesome because you made an informed decision. Shame on the couple for sprouting their beliefs onto you. Thanks for the response and being open to hearing me
Same here and I hope it works out for you! You're getting close!
Tigers, you gotta put Carrot Top back in the holster, dude! I love that he's kind of a reoccuring joke here. Oh, the CT...
I find it sad that only 12% went natural too. I know that so many women share their hopes to have a med-free, vaginal birth. I know that when I finally gave in and opted for the epi with Willa, after the pitocen kicked my @ss for too many hours - I was disappointed. I had to mourn it a little after. I know many moms who had an unexpected c-section go through a similar small mourning (and a ton of unexpected healing). So, I'm sad, not because some women choose to go with an epi, but because so many of the women who openly share their wishes not to, have their plans altered.
Kellie, it sounds like you're really anxious about how your wishes will be respected. I delivered at St. Mary's, but I anticipate it'll be similar at Spectrum. Know what you want, have your husband on board, and share your plan/hopes with the staff. Know that you make choices with what is happening, but things happen beyond control. I know you have a positive and informed perspective here. You should be fine.
Tigers, I still crack up that your co-irker needs to bring that up. You should start telling her how much gas cost way back then. AND I like it when you're vocal with your thoughts. Way to be!