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S/O HTW: Parents.
Do you have your parent's do things for you that you can clearly do on your own.
This is probably flameable, but I'm still going to say it. I will still call my father and have him do things for me, like yesterday, I called him to see if he would call the garage to find out about my car. My heater has been acting up, and I wanted him to check to see if he could get me in for an appointment.
Re: S/O HTW: Parents.
No, not any more. Not stuff like that, anyway. But my dad can do lots of things I can't do...
like the last time I needed new brakes, rather than shelling out $340, I brought my car over to my parents' place and my dad made rotors and replaced those & the brakes. And when E asked my dad where to get some 2"x2" steel tubes to build a rack for his brewing equipment, my dad had him just draw up the plans and my dad's having it made for him for free. Dad's like that.
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If we still lived in FL, then I would totally be guilty of this. Whenever we visit them or they come here, my Dad has to prove that he is Super Dad by doing anything he can for me. He likes to be busy too.
They do pay for things that I could probably pay for. Like tires for my car. I have never bought a set of tires on my own.
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I typically handle things on my own - but my dad still steps in when it comes to stuff that happens to my car. He grew up around cars adn takes them seriously. While he's been gone, I've had issues with my brakes, my tires and my car in general - and he's called the places to make sure he understands what's going on and that I'm not getting screwed. It's always funny when I go get my car...the people at the shop will be like, "Your dad called from Afghanistan?"
I'm not sure what will happen when my dad comes home for R&R...it's usually when he comes home for R&R that he does all this stuff that I could do on my own. Wash my car is at the top of that list. :P
Cars I know how to do, at least. I can't grind my own rotors, but I took a basic auto repair class so no one can take me for a ride.
The CR-V, I take to get washed because it's too tall for me, but my previous cars I've washed myself.
I've changed tires, checked oil & tranny fluid, checked my belts, hoses and brakes, though I've never done an oil change or changed my own belts, hoses, or brakes.
I can spackle a wall, too. And while E is handy with a lot of other stuff, I'm better with a hammer than he is.
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I'm much more independent than my sister; but neither of us "ask" our dad to do things for us anymore. I will for sure call him if a car (my old one, god help me if my brand new car has issues) was making noises/not working properly....but because of him and my mothers dad (who was an auto mechanic his entire life), I feel like I can potentially diagnose problems (before H sometimes...)...so I usually validate with him, and validate prices as far as what things would cost.
He still wants to prove and be there for me, as does my mother. She needs to feel needed. I was sick, she made me soup...(I didn't ask),
Cars, yes. I call my dad for anything having to do with my car usually, but mainly because he really enjoys working on cars. Clint's dad checked it out this past weekend (spark plugs and wires=$300, kill me).
I regularly call my dad and ask him questions about home reno stuff because he is a serious handyman. I think it hurts his feelings that Clint isn't interested in a lot of DIY stuff.
Clint's parents are way different and very generous with paying for things for us, for example, they are getting us new kitchen cabinets/counters (not uber nice ones or anything, just clean ones). They offered out of the blue. It has taken me some time to get used to them doing this stuff for us because my parents have never been like that, unless it's something they enjoy anyway.
When I still lived alone (but was dating H), yes, I would rely on my dad for the technical, DIY around the house and car stuff. I am clueless when it comes to that stuff and trusted his opinion.
Now that H and I are married, he's my go-to guy. Thankfully, his dad brought him up working in the shop with him, so H is super handy around the house, with cars, etc. It's awesome (not to mention has already saved us a ton on our basement finishing project!).
That's totally cool, Ebonie, that your Dad wanted to be involved in the little things of your life even from so far away...
Before we got married it was my Dad. Now it's DH and if he doesn't know the answer we phone my Dad (or another person that would know the answer) and ask, especially with home handyman type stuff.
Not for everyday things - really only for things that we really can't do for ourselves.
Mom stayed with us and helped during my recovery from having Nate. If DH or I ever has surgery or serious illness, I'm sure she'd do it again. When my mom was going through chemo, I moved home for 6 months to take care of her (which I would do again if needed). It's more like a trade-off now. We're there for them when they need us, and they're there for us.
Amelia is going to be a big sister!