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More c-section talk
I went to my OB this morning and of course after he measured me and felt my belly he told me my baby is big. I was supposed to have an ultrasound at 38 weeks but he's going to do it next week at 36 weeks instead. Of course he mentioned a c-section again and told me that next week will will know more and discuss risks and benefits then. He knows I don't want a c-section and told me he doesn't like to do them either, so we will see. I guess I have to wait more. I've been stalking the OR schedule at work to see how many c-sections he does, and he's telling me the truth. He really doesn't schedule them that often, and when he does it's usually a repeat. He did tell me he does VBAC's too. I am just so upset by this. I really don't want a c-section. 
I know that a healthy baby and mom is most importnant, but my family makes big babies and does just fine delivering them. I know it's too soon to know for sure and ultimately it's my decision, but it still makes me upset. The good news is that the baby's head is still down at the moment. Hopefully it stays that way!
I know that a healthy baby and mom is most importnant, but my family makes big babies and does just fine delivering them. I know it's too soon to know for sure and ultimately it's my decision, but it still makes me upset. The good news is that the baby's head is still down at the moment. Hopefully it stays that way! 
Re: More c-section talk
Honestly, I would NOT be pushed into a c-section over a big baby. I would refuse and do everything to deliver vaginally. Once you get to full term you can try natural induction methods to prevent going over your due date, etc. but I wouldn't just resort to a c-section. Tons of people deliver big babies just fine, and honestly I can't imagine that he can accurately assess how big a baby is by feeling, when even an ultrasound isn't always accurate. Like I've said before, I know SO many people that were told they were having big babies, just to find out they weren't so big after all.
Good luck!
The same exact thing happened to me. Except I was going in to be induced when they decided to schedule a c-section for the following day since Macy measured so big on the US.
FWIW, the growth US showed Macy weighed 9 lbs 8 oz and once she was born she ended up weighing 8 lbs 4 oz. But the US Tech also explained that the measurements could be off by a 1 lbs so Macy had the potential of being 10 lbs 8 oz!! The deciding factor for me to have the c-section was I hadn't dilated at all. I considered attempting a vaginal birth but my OB said there was a strong possibility that I would labor, have some pelvic floor injuries, and end up with a c-section anyway. We also discussed waiting a week to see if my body progressed but that meant Macy had another week to grow in the womb.
If I were you, I would try to warm up to the idea of a c-section. I regret that I was so anti c-section when I was pregnant because I was totally upset when it was decided I would have one. I felt totally unprepared!! And honestly, my c-section wasn't nearly as bad as I made it out to be. I expected the recovery to be much, much worse!!
But I would also wait and see how you progress before you make the decision to have a c-section. You may have her early and/or you body might progress with out having to be induced and labor might be a breeze. FWIW, my BFF had a 8 lb 9 oz baby only having to push three times and only needed 2 stiches. So who knows, you may never be faced with the decision to have a c-section!!
GL and fingers crossed for a vag birth!! Try not to stress too much, for the most part it's out of your hands
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I can't believe how many doctors push c-sections these days. When I was pregnant with the twins my main OB was the ONLY ONE in the practice that would deliver me vaginally. This was out of 6 doctors, granted they do not push c-sections for singleton Moms. I would go into delivery day with open mind because I like to believe that most doctors make the best decision for their patient and the baby. I would let him know you would like to try to deliver vaginally but you understand that if you or the baby are at risk a c-section would be fine. I have heard so many stories where babies measure big and they are totally off. Mason always measured smaller than Audrey at my 9 U/S that I had. They weighed the EXACT same weight when they were born. I hope your doctor will give you the opportunity to at least try for the delivery that you want. Keep us posted.
I know, this is how I feel! Maybe she is just tall, too. I am going to have a well thought out argument for next week. H is going to try to get off work to come with me!
Being long is a huge possibility! A friend of mine just had an u/s because baby was "measuring big" and she was told that they estimate the weight based on length, which is one reason it's so inaccurate!
I agree with the pp who suggested speaking with a doula. Mine has been a wealth of information, and I'm pretty sure all of them offer free consultations.
Whoa, that is quite off! Usually it's in the other direction, too. my biggest fear is that I will be pushing and the baby will get stuck and they won't be able to get her out quick enough. I asked my doc if he measured my pelvis to see if I could handle a big baby and he said they don't really do that anymore. To me it makes sense, but I realize that is not my area of expertise.
However, if the baby is a lot smaller than predicted and I end up with a csection, I will be FURIOUS. I know, healthy mom/baby outcome is most important and when it comes down to it, if we're both safe and happy that is all well and good. However, t no one is cutting into my body without a darn good reason.
My cousin in NJ is a doula so I will definitely be calling her this weekend! She has offered to give me advice and I will definitely take her up on it. Great idea!
9 lb 8 oz doesn't seem like a big enough baby to me to have a csection. There's no way I'd agree to one if she is measuring that big. It makes more sense that you ended up with a csection because you hadn't dilated at all. I know it may be a rougher road, but I'd like to labor first and at least try. I have heard from many people that it's exhausting, but I want to give my body a chance.
I definitely want to see how I progress before jumping into a csection. She may decide she wants out at 37 or 38 weeks. I am trying to tell myself having a csection won't be the end of the world and I'm kinda glad my dr mantioned it this early. I feel like crying every time he says it, but then I try to think of all the people I know that have had one and everything turned out ok. They are happy and with their babies and that is what matters most in the end, right?
I know, they really do push them! I am definitely going to try and go in with an open mind. I'd rather be induced and have an epidural than end up with a csection. I know my doc is looking out for the baby and I (and his license, lol! I know the feeling about that one!) but he better hear me out and then explain all my options and the reasoning behind them. He knows I'm a nurse and I need the facts. None of this beating around the bush crap that doctors always do to patients and families. I'll keep you guys posted!
Wow, 8 lbs at 33 weeks? I didn't think that was possible!
Mine was 5 lbs 3 oz at 31 weeks. I am not tiny by any means, but I'd be ok with a csection if they were sure she was huge at 37 weeks. The thing is, how can they be sure?
I hope he lets me try. We will discuss it more next week after the u/s. I am going to be prepared for this discussion, that's for sure!
IDK about the current weight, but she was 5 lbs 3 oz at my 31 week u/s, which is supposedly big. I've gotten quite a bit bigger since then, but who knows how much of it is baby. I'll be so mad if she ends up a lot smaller than predicted and I have a csection!
Considering these two are my firsts, so I may not be completely clear on everything that happens...
Why does he want to push you into a decision? Can you not opt to try vaginally first? Are they afraid that she will get stuck? If he thinks that a section should be a last resort, I think it should be treated as such.
I don't think he's pushing me, more like trying to prepare me for the worst case scenario. Next week after my u/s we will discuss it more. I would like to try vaginally first. She could get stuck, get shoulder dytocia, anoxic brain injury (rare but can happen). H got off from work and I'm glad he is going to be there!