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A little back story: My step mother is a severe alcoholic. She has no job and no license due to 3 DUI's. My step sister had a baby when she was 16 and dumped her on my dad and step mom 2 years ago. My dad ADORES my neice. He has raised her as his own. Because my step-mom is an alcoholic, my step sister doesn't care and my step mom's entire family struggles with alcaholism, my dad is all my neice has. Because of this, my dad has been struggling for the past two years because he desperately wants to leave my step mom. Around this time last year, he had gotten a place and was moving out. My step mother begged him to stay, told him she would get help and then asked that he stay for my neice. She was sober for about 4 months. Flash forward to today. I am leaving work to head out to my volunteer work and I check my messages. My dad calling to tell me he is in jail because my step mother is claiming he pushed her. Then a second message from my dad saying he is at the courthouse and he wanted to know if I would give him a ride. I call the court hous and he has already started walking the 10 miles back to work. So i drive up and down the highway for 2 hours looking for him. It's cold and the weather is bad. I call his work and find out he just arrived there. So I go there and ask what happened. He keeps crying. Like lip quivering cry. Says he can't go back there. He's worried about the baby. The story he told me is just disgusting. Basically the argument started because my step sister is living back in the house and her room is a pit. The baby walks out of her room playing with a dirty condom and my dad yells at step sister to clean her room. Step mom starts in on dad, step sister starts in on dad. My step mom gets violent because she has been drinking and cops get called. My step mom claims my dad bit her finger and my step sister claims my dad pushed my step mom. Even with 2 different stories and no physical evidence, my dad got arrested. I am just appalled and so sad for my dad and my niece. My dad will be staying with me for a while (he was trying to convince me that he was going to stay in a motel). He has court tomorrow. I am praying he does not go to jail. It would be horrible. He is such a sweet non-violent man. I think doemstic abuse is absolutely horrible, but I know my father and I have never known him to even really raise his voice. So I am asking for thoughts and prayers for him, that he does ok in court tomorrow and can get away from my step mom and start his life over again and I am asking for thoughts and prayers for my niece. None of us have any legal rights to her so she will stay with this messed up family. My intentions are to call DSS at this point. Without my dad there, it is a dangerous and unhealthy environment.
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This. Absolutely. I feel for your dad, I can't imagine what he must be going through right now. And that poor baby. I'm sorry, and I will pray that everything works out for everyone, including that SM sobers the eff up!
What a terrible situation. Your whole family will be in my T&P.
I really hope things work out, especially for your niece.
I am so sorry your dad and little niece are having to deal with this. I will be sending T&Ps that it all gets resolved for the best in the end. It makes me feel sick that things escalated to this point. I agree about notifying DDS and also, your father should probably be documenting everything that happens in that house.
Good luck and keep us posted on how everything goes tomorrow.
Document everything! Such great advice!! I am sorry your dad and little niece are having to go through this, I pray everything gets worked out! I hope your dad has a good lawyer to help him!!
Keep us updated, I will keep your dad and niece in my prayers!
I am so sorry you are going through this, what a hard situation to be in especially for your dad. I am sure that he is so torn between going back for your niece and staying away for his own good. Definitely call DSS, and I would also tell you dad to document anything that he can remember happening as long as he knows dates. Also if he has any witnesses to her and your SS's behavior that will help his fight also.
As many of you know, I work at the police department, and this type of thing is so common it is disgusting. And it usually goes both ways, all you have to do is "claim" that you were touched and it is considered assault. And it is so sad that it is usually the male half that is blamed.
GL to your dad, keep us updated!