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Social what to do question
DH's Flag Day is next Tuesday and we'd like to celebrate by having dinner with some of our close friends. The problem is, with all of the sickness and snow and crap, we haven't sent out an e-mail setting anything up yet. A couple that we are friends with just started having Tuesday night movie nights at their house and inviting a bunch of our mutual friends- many of the same people we'd like to celebrate with next Tuesday. Would it be rude to send out an invite (including to the couple) knowing that it conflicts with their movie night? Should we e-mail them first and give them a heads up to our plans before sending out the invite to everyone?
Second question, should we just have people over and order take out or should we plan something at a restaurant? I feel like if we have it at a restaurant we should pay (obviously we'd buy the food at our own house), but I think DH would worry about spending too much money. My thought is that these are our closest friends and we are inviting the to celebrate. Having it at a restaurant would be nice b/c we wouldn't have to rush home after the ceremony to set anything up, but obviously it'll cost more.
Final question, has anyone eaten with a big group at Maggiano's? Do you have any idea what it costs ballpark per person?
Re: Social what to do question
Q1: Call (yes, CALL) the Tues. night party couple and ask if they mind a scheduling conflict. Then send out invites accordingly. Your mutual friends are adults - they can decide where/how they want to spend their time on Tuesday night. Just don't get butthurt if they don't choose your Flag Day (?) celebration.
Q2: IDK. How big of a deal is a Flag Day? It seems kind of off-the-wall and arbitrary to celebrate to me, so this is totally your call. If there is a ceremony involved, I guess it's fairly important. If you're celebrating a St. Patty's Day type day, then do it at home. If it's like Christmas, then go out.
Q1: Thanks, I was thinking call or e-mailing them first just to give them a heads up and then sending out a group e-mail was the way to go. I wouldn't be "butt-hurt" if anyone chose not to attend or chose the movie instead. It's a Tuesday night so I think it's generous for anyone to make an effort to attend a social engagement during the week. Especially on short notice.
Q2: Flag Day is very important- it's a once in a lifetime event. It's where we find out which country we are going to for our first assignment with the State Department. Obviously I don't expect it to be as important to our friends as it is to us, but these are our closest people so I'm sure that they'll be happy to at least be invited to celebrate with us even if other plans or priorities keep them from joining us.
Okay, I get it now. I thought Flag Day was some cultural or religious day. That's a big deal.
Sorry, I've been thinking about it and looking forward to it so much that I take for granted that everyone in the world knows about it.
Well, and I don't read every post from every person, so you could've mentioned it and I not known.
I couldn't imagine your friends wanting to celebrate on a Tuesday with your and your H wearing Canada flag tshirts or something, you know? Glad you're not THAT dorky.
I had thought about that, but it kind of ruins the excitement of having just found out where we're going. We'll definitely have a dinner party closer to when we depart to celebrate with all of our friends, but we wanted to celebrate with our close friends the night of. It's one of those things though that, when making the invite list, it grows b/c inviting some people means inviting others lest they think they're less important.
Thanks for the feedback. This is probably our best bet.
I would probably plan the celebration for the weekend, but if I decided to do it Tuesday, I would definitely ask the movie night couple if they'd be ok with you inviting everyone, just as a courtesy. Then I'd have it at a restaurant to make it easier.
I might be wrong but I don't feel like you guys have to pay for the whole bill. If I were one of the friends going to the restaurant with you, I wouldn't expect you to pay for me. I'd only expect it if it was a sit-down formal party in a party room with assigned seating. Like this past weekend, we went to a birthday gtg for my friend's H at a restaurant, but everyone paid for themselves, we didn't expect them to pay for us. But on the other hand, I can see how it's the generous thing to do. Ahhhhh Idk!
I agree, call the friends who made plans and explain. I'm sure they'll understand and have no problem moving their movie night.
and I agree with Lauren.