Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Is completely and utterly shocked and need some advice
Good morning ladies,
I am coming here first because I feel like I can't talk to anyone else about this quite yet except for H of course (So PLEASE don't mention this on FB). Yesterday I noticed that I had been making more frequent trips to the bathroom and I have been more tired than usual so for kicks and giggles I decided to take a preg. test... and it was a BFP! H and I and both in denial I think.. we aren't really any where near ready and wanted to wait at least 5 years.
I have gone through about every possible emotion since last night. H is in denial until I go to the doctor and get an actual confirmation I think. I am not exactly sure how I feel about it yet. I am the youngest out of my family and I have zero experience with kids. I havent even ever changed a diaper before. 
For those of you ladies that are PG where did you start when you found out you were pregnant? Should I call my primary care physician and set up an appointment or should I go to an OB? I tried googling what I should do but it seems like every website gives me a different answer.
Re: Is completely and utterly shocked and need some advice
Paula, I am sure you are in shock. I probably would be too. Try not to stress out too much. We are only given what we can handle. I'm sure you and H will get through this just fine.
::Hugs::
Paula it will be okay!! I can imagine the shock you must be in, but you and Brent will be great parents if you are in fact pregnant. You may not be in exactly the place in your lives where you thought you'd be, but you are married, you have a home, you have jobs, etc. You can handle it I promise. I really believe that everything happens for a reason. Think of all the ladies in the world (and on this board) who are TTC and haven't been successful and try to consider this a blessing. I know that can be hard because you aren't "ready" and it's scary as crap... I would be flipping out, too, so I totally understand where you're coming from, but know that really this is going to be one of the best times of your lives (or so I'm told!)
As for what to do next, the other ladies will give you better advice, but I'm pretty sure you should go to your OB stat and get an official test, and they will take it from there.
p.s. - If you don't want people to know yet, I would stop mentioning on facebook when you feel really tired or sick. People will certainly start to speculate, and if you don't want to deny deny deny then it might be better to keep your status updates to a minimum!
Hey Paula, I know you're going through a lot of conflicting emotions now, but I still want to offer you congratulations! Like Julie said, we get what we can handle, and you and DH will know what's right for you.
As far as where to go from here. If you have an OB/GYN, I'd say give them a call. Do you have any idea how far along you might be? They usually don't want to see you until about 8-10 weeks along (unless you've had problems with pregnancy in the past), and will base that off of the first day of your last cycle.
If you don't have an OB, then I'd call your primary care physician and ask for a referral. While you certainly can get preliminary care from your PCP, it's best to get established with an OB as soon as you can.
Oh! And if you haven't already started, go get yourself some prenatal vitamins!
ETA: Also, though I'm sure you have already, stop taking BC!
Good luck sweetie, we're here for you!!!
photo by Scott Metzger
kikijbird ~ Erica (aka Kiki) & Paul ~ 24 April 2010
The JBirds Bio ~ Updated 03.02.10 - Invites!
Congrats! I, as one of those TTC without any luck, just want you to know that this is an amazing blessing. I know you weren't prepared for such life-altering news, but you and your DH will be able to handle it just fine. My suggestion would be to call an OB, and like Kiki said, start taking Pre-Natals right away! I suggest the One-A-Day Pre-Natal two pack thing. I have been on them for, well, six months now (my OB wanted me to with my endo/TTC stuff), and I really like them. Just make sure to eat after them otherwise you can get a little sickly (my sister told me this as she is using them for her pregnancy right now).
Again, congrats!! : )
How exciting! I understand you & Brent being in a state of shock right now but like others posted earlier you haven't been given anything that you can't handle. Make an appointment with your regular doctor & have him/her refer you to a OB.
You guys will be just fine. Keep us posted.
::HUGS::
Congrats! Thats exciting news but I'm sure also so scary.
I agree give your OB a call and see what they say. It sounds like if you are 2 weeks late that you are "5-6 weeks" along since they measure from the date of your last period. They probably won't test in the doctors office for another week or two but you should call them at least for some peace of mind.
As for being worried about caring for a baby, as someone who babysat for years and years I'm pretty sure I'd still be nervous about having one around full time. Babies don't need much mostly food, sleep and clean diapers. They will show you how to give the baby a bath and all that stuff and diapers are pretty self explanatory pictures go in the front
The rest you'll learn as you go!
I 100% agree about the facebook posting. DO NOT mention sick/tired and so on people will always assume.
Oh and get some vitamins if you can't stomach the prenatal ones get some childrens flinstone gummies until your doctor can see you and help you out with that or take the prenatal ones right before bed so you fall asleep and don't feel the ick.
Keep us posted and I'm sure you and DH will make the decisions that are right for your family at this point in time!! Hugs!
Congrats!! Babies are a blessing. Some people will say you're never really ready to have a baby!
Ditto everyone else about the prenatals. It's a must!
And yes, schedule an appointment with your OB/Gyn as soon as possible to confirm the results.
Hang in there dear! I know it may be a little rough, but you are probably more ready than you think!
Shmel's Blog
I went through the same emotions you did. DH and I did not want to stay trying until July or August...well....Surprise! we are having an August baby. I was in complete shock, really thought that my world was turning upside down. DH was the excited one. I still have moments where I get upset that we didn't do more to protect etc since it did not happen when I wanted it to. There is a reason it has happened. God believes it is the right time.
Since my regular doctor does my well woman exam, I had to go to her first to get the pregnancy confirmed and she refered me to an OB (who I go see for the first time today).
Start taking prenatal vitamins. I take the Vitafusion gummies. It is the only brand of vitamins that I can keep down (even before I was pregnant, I took their multi vitamin). My doctor also recommended to take extra calcium (Vitafusion also makes a calcium chewable). And while you are at the store getting your vitamins, go a head and pick up crackers and sprite (or ginger ale). Those helped me through two very difficult weeks.
Make sure you and your DH keep communicating about the emotions yall are having, the concerns, etc. This is a time to grow even closer to each other.
Keep us posted on how things go and Congrats!
April 2010 Siggy Challenge: Next Vacation Destination
If I were in your shoes I would probably be FREAKING out at the same time as I would be so freaking EXCITED. My PCP is also an OB (I think? She does deliver babies so I can only assume?) but if it were me I would go to my PCP and make sure I have a definite answer.
You'll be a great mom!
Tales From a Kitchen Misfit
<a href="http://www.thenest.com/?utm_source=ticker&utm_medium=HTML&utm_campaign=tickers" title="D
First off, CONGRATULATIONS!!!!! This is wonderful, exciting news!
Don't worry about not feeling ready, most people don't ever feel ready/financially prepared/etc! Also, you have about 9 months from now to get used to the idea and learn some baby basics. There are lots of classes offered at hospitals that will probably help you ease your mind and like the ladies said above, babies don't need much but to be loved, clothed, fed and changed.
I didn't have a primary care physician so I just made an appt w/ an OB who I had good reviews of. They wanted to see me around 8 weeks based on my last menstrual cycle. They never did a test to confirm it, and the drugstore brand tests are like the same they use in the office....I think I took 4 or 5 of them to make sure! lol! But a line is a line! I would make an appt with someone w/ good reviews and know that you can always change physicians and there are many options out there available to you! I really wanted to go with a midwife but my insurance won't cover it
I think you've gotten the hint to go ahead and start taking prenatals even before you see a doc. I hear the gummy ones are good, I take the target brand ones and never had a problem! Also if you're starting to feel sick, saltines and ginger ale can help. I have a friend who used to carry a lemon to sniff around with her to battle nausea.
Enjoy this time and remember it is totally normal to feel apprehensive and nervous! Oh and get in some good lovin' before you get a big ol belly that makes it difficult!!! Congratulations again!!!
Hugs!!! I can't imagine the emotions you must be going through right now, I'd be so excited and so scared at the same time! Even so, congratulations to you and your DH! Like the other girls said, babies are such a blessing and I don't think anyone is ever ready for one!
I can't give you much advice (I don't plan on having kids for a while), but I know that there is more than enough literature out there for moms-to-be! Also, your doctor will give you a lot of advice and will hopefully calm you and your DH's nerves!
Post-Wedding Life Blog!
A10 Siggy Challenge: Next Vacation Destination: San Francisco!
I'll just chime in again to say, yeah, um, while I am totally excited to be pregnant and only a few months away from being a mommy, don't think I don't get major jitters about it still! I have never cared for a newborn, or even an infant before (well I maybe changed a couple of diapers when my sisters were little), so I do feel I have a lot to learn. But like someone else said, the fact that this is taking nine months is totally helping me and DH get more used to the idea (I was going to say ready, but I don't think anyone is ever ready). While we were definitely TTC, we didn't expect to get pregnant so quickly (with my age and all, I figured it could take a year or more). But like many others have said, we probably can handle it. And it has definitely helped that our families are so freakin' excited (especially our parents... all seven of them... can you said spoiled grandkid???)
Anyway, hugs to you Paula... you're gonna do just fine!
PS. Along with all the good advice re: crackers and ginger ale, I'd add that eating frequently, but slowly and not a lot at once, can help too. And you might be amazed at what foods work for you to calm your tummy and what doesn't. And when you feel tired... REST, put your feet up for a bit. Your body is working overtime making the baby, and you get whatever energy is left over, which often isn't much!
photo by Scott Metzger
kikijbird ~ Erica (aka Kiki) & Paul ~ 24 April 2010
The JBirds Bio ~ Updated 03.02.10 - Invites!
10/11: Dx PCOS, 2000mg Metformin
My Blog
April Nesties March siggy challenge: Next Vacation, Anguilla!!