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Can someone remind me of something good about my ILs?
Ugh. I really need something positive to think about.
I had such a great 36 hours up in Vermont with some old rugby friends, only to come home to drama and my pets waylaid by my SIL's jackassery. Why? Why can they not just be normal people with craziness that doesn't hurt my animals or my poor, innocent niece?!? How can I possibly let them anywhere near my future human children?!?
They opened the shades in the living room so that the world could see that we weren't home, but our TV, my laptop, etc. were available for theft. My SIL decided that she needed to have friends over tonight so she sent her boyfriend to our house to feed the animals-- not knowing the deal, he fed the cat in the kitchen (despite the cat's bowls being in the mudroom with a little place mat and server), where the dog promptly chased the cat away to eat the food herself (evidenced by the empty bowl on the floor and a very unhappy, vocal cat). He also locked the mudroom door-- which is never locked (the lock sticks and is a bear to unlock), so I have no idea why we came home to it locked (who locks doors that are unlocked when you arrive?). MH had to muscle the lock open, at the cost of part of the door jamb and the skin on the back of his knuckles.
To add insult to injury, his mother txts me to ask if we can attend a surprise birthday party for our niece on Sunday. I txt back yes, and ask if it will be in Jay. No response. Next txt is to MH's phone 3 hours later asking if we can attend a surprise birthday party for our niece on Sunday. When MH talks to his mom, we find out that his mom is refusing to let us bake the cake our niece wants, because she wants to buy it from Shaws-- where they don't make that cake because it's a recipe I came up with on my own (it involves cake, pudding, and fruit) for my niece. And, while we want to get her a gift that allows our niece to spend time with us and do something she loves (we wanted to go to a cooking class with her), my SIL has decided that she and MIL (and apparently us, HA!) will be buying our niece a Nook. Because the girl already doesn't spend time enough on her gadgets and has no supervision. The only exercise the girl gets is walking down to the end of her road to get books out of the library. She was left alone all day on Wednesday after school, while MIL went to Bingo here in Lewiston (and SFIL was here with us-- despite my having an exam the next morning-- waiting to drive MIL back to Jay because she can't drive at night). They didn't get back until 11pm. My niece is 13 going on 10.
UGH!!! Even MH is getting fed up with them! I am so proud of him for saying to me that we are NOT helping his sister and mom buy our niece a Nook when all the girl wants is to spend time with her family. This is insanity. I need to get far, far away.
We visited the KAF store on our way to Stratton. I could totally live there-- work across the river at Dartmouth Medical Center and take classes at KAF for bread-baking. Yeah, it's looking better and better....
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Re: Can someone remind me of something good about my ILs?
They produced your husband. And even though there may be times where he has traits from them and you wish they could disappear, overall they produced your soul mate. ::repeat, they did do one thing right::
This is true. Of course, he'll be the first to say he has NO idea how he is not like them, but I will take it! And gladly!
And I am very thankful that he sees what I see. I mean, I don't have to try and figure out what to say and do with these people all on my own and keeping it all hidden from MH (I only hide the worst half of my feelings about these people). Even he has mentioned struggling with what he will have to say to our kids when we tell them that we love Grammy, too, but what is right for Grammy is not what is right for them...
I think I just needed to vent.... I was exhausted last night and Aunt Flo is here. Not a good time to be hit with the ILs...
Love this!
I'm glad your DH stood up to them though. At least you guys are on the same side in all of this!
All of this! You know I grew up in a house where my Dad was basically in Wayne's shoes. I can't stand my dad's family. My grandmother was a horrible person. But she had my dad. For that, I am eternally grateful. Plus, when your relatives aren't nice for you, it's pretty easy to listen to your parents when they give you the "Grandma does it this way but we do it that way" talks. The fact that you are already a team when it comes to family issues is what will get you through all the family drama. At the end of the day, you have each other and you usually see eye to eye. :-)
Glad you had a fun trip to Vermont! It'll be interesting to see the layout of the new King Arthur store when the renovation is done. My sister tells me it is going to be quite different.
Thanks, Ladies! I swear, both MH and I marvel at how he turned out so differently from the rest of his family-- if he didn't look so much like his dad, we'd have just agreed that he was the milkman's kid!
Jenn-- what do you mean, the KAF store is getting a new layout? Will it be even more full of delicious things I can't afford to buy all of-- or fit in my little house??
I can't remember the details because they've shifted over time but my sister's firm is working on the project. One thing I do remember is that the workers don't like the layout of the store and want something that can be more easily maneuvered and sectioned. So that will be changing. Whether they'll be able to fit more product in, I don't know. ;-)