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The Great "Preggo" Debate
I saw this on one of the national boards on The Bump, and I'm curious about your thoughts on it...
Are you offended by the phrase "preggo" or "preggers" when either referring to yourself being with child or someone else referring to you? A bunch of the ladies on the national board really got their knickers in a twist over it, saying they found the terms to be highly offensive and made one sound uneduacated, but I guess I don't see it that way. DH and my brother refer to me as "preggo" all the time (as do I when talking to family!), and it really doesn't bother me. Actually, "Preggo" has become my alter ego, as in when I want a specific food, it's "Preggo wants tacos!", so it's all in light-hearted fun. I think if someone I didn't know referred to me as "preggers" or "preggo", I might be a little annoyed, but I wouldn't be horrified- and it's not like I use the term when talking to my doctor, or other people outside of my close circle. What are your thoughts?
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Re: The Great "Preggo" Debate
This!
I am not pregnant(yet
) but I just don't like them in general...it's not offensive to me, but I just think they sound silly.
Haha Ragu, I love it!
I have never even given it thought...so I guess it doesn't bug me!
Didn't used to bug me, actually doesn't bug me. Honestly, don't prefer the words cause they sound a bit childish I guess. But call me whatever you want as long as you don't call me fat. And even that I can take from certain people (on certain days).
The other one that gets the National girls in a twist is gender vs. sex. I never thought twice, but lately my friend is always posting on FB about her babies gender and for some reason I want to say SEX. But honestly, I don't know why it all of a sudden came up - this desire to correct, cause I don't care :P
I dont use the term, nor do I enjoy being called that. But I am not going to correct anyone who says it. I just let it slide.
Now "preggy" is kind of annoying though.
My opinion: who gives a rat's ass if someone uses those words??? I think most of the girls who attack someone for using those terms are just jumping on the "mean girl" bandwagon.
I didn't know about the whole gender vs sex debate. Which do they prefer and why do they care?
Apparently Sex. When you find out you find out the babies sex.
haha, as a biologist, I didn't even really know the distinguishing line. haha, something to gang up on people about I guess. I'm just a little ashamed, that it goes in my head now when someone says, I'm finding out the gender.
Sex- biological designation
Gender- social construct
at least this is what I think I remember from college/ grad school...
Yes - this is correct from a historian's perspective, at least (I took a lot of women's history-focused classes in college).
I don't mind the words preggo and preggers. When I hear people use them in real life, it's almost always with the intent of being funny. Although, I ran into a good friend on the bus home and she had started telling her bosses at work she was pregnant but hadn't had a chance to tell her friends. She knew she needed to tell me ASAP and almost shouted "I'm preggers!!!" I could sense some people were uncomfortable but it may have been the volume, not the word, that was bothering them.
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sex= your biological parts making you either male or female
gender= how you identify... which does not limit you to the binary definitions of sex ( male or female)... I could go further but it just gets confusing!
and while I do not use the terms preggo or preggers... I don't care if others do... if you say it like 7 times in a row I will probably get annoyed, just because I think that made up word most of the time are silly and they are not helping the literacy of our children!
This was our pregnancy announcement to everyone...obviously we could care less about terminology.
This is wicked cute!
I can't get twisted about slang, especially slang without malicious intent. Why the heck would someone be offended by it? Annoyed, I could maybe see, but offended? I don't get it.
I refer to myself as "knocked up", though, so I guess I have no manners.
Ha- you and me both! Guess every now and then I have to get down with my Whiskey Tang self
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Preggo, Pregosaurus Rex, knocked up... these were all self-dubbed terms for myself that I thought were funny. I'm not a big fan of Preggers, but just because it's too cutesy for me. I feel the same way about "baby-dancing"- it's sex people. Do the deed, get it on, make a baby- sure, but no BDing.
Anyway off track there. I find nothing offensive about it, nor do I care if anyone calls me that while with child.
In fact, at the Christmas handbell concert, one of my fellow ringer's son was there helping us load up afterwards. She mentioned to him I was pregnant, and I followed up with "Yup, I'm knocked up." I heard the next meeting that after I got out of the car (they drove me to my parking garage) he said to his mom, "So, she isn't married?" She laughed and said that no, no, I'm married and it was very much on purpose and that's just my personality.
So yeah, I might not be the best critic!
This. Who cares?
This makes no sense to me, either. It's not like "preggo" or "preggers" is a word that means something else that would be considered demeaning. It's like calling a sister "my sis" really. It's just a nickname. I can understand if people don't like the sound of the words because they're kind of goofy or cutesy, but it's not like the terms demean the state of being-- like saying "I knocked up my old lady" would do.
Secondly, the whole "preggo sounds like the sauce" thing is just bad pronunciation, because the sauce is *technically* pronounced "praygo." But since so many Americans only know English (and so many of those Americans don't really even know THAT terribly well), I guess it would be unreasonable to expect them to know that Prego is not pronounced the same way as "preggo...."