Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
question about helping husband make friends
Okay, so this might seem kind of awkward.
My Huz is definitely the strong, silent type. We are total opposites in that respect. I'll talk to anyone and everyone, and he'll always find the one old guy in the room and talk to him about fishing, military stuff, guns, or LEO stuff. Most of his friends are from work, and that worked out okay for a while, but we're both kind of sick of hanging out with LEO people all the time. And, I absolutely can not stand the guy that has kind of taken up being his "best friend". Actually, my husband can't really stand him either, but Huz is such a nice guy that he won't tell the friend that he doesn't really want to hang out or be close friends anymore. Also, we're the friend 's daughter's Godparents, so we feel like we have to keep up the relationship because we really do love our Goddaughter. We take that commitment seriously, and want to stay a part of her life. So we put up with the annoying friend and try to make the best of it.
Anyway, there is a guy at our church who I think would be a perfect friend for my Huz. He's a very kind, positive, genuinely good guy, who is also pretty shy and quiet. They were friends as kids, and just kind of lost touch as they grew up. Nothing bad happened to the friendship, they just got busy with life and didn't stay close. Huz has told me that the guy is a really nice guy and would be good friend to have. But both guys are so shy, that I don't think either will really take the first step to try to hang out and renew the friendship.
I know it may sound weird that I'm trying to play wingman and hook up my Huz, but I really do want to help these two shy guys to spend some time together and be friends. I'm just not sure what to do. I don't want to force anything or make it awkward, but I would like to encourage them to talk and hang out. The guy doesn't have a wife or girlfriend right now, so we can't double date. My Huz doesn't play video games or watch sports, so we wouldn't really have him over for that. I usually organize our social calander, and would really like to set up a "playdate" for them. (I know that makes me sound like an overbearing shrew, and I'm really not, I swear! I know he's a grown man and can make his own friends, but I know him well, and he's very shy in person, so I just want to help give a little push in the right direction.)
Any suggestions on how to set up this Bromance? 
Re: question about helping husband make friends
Why not invite a few people from church over for dinner one night, and include this guy? It doesn't have to be couples only, I'm sure there are a lot of single people around.
Also, does this guy have any church groups he's involved in? Maybe your DH could join in one of those.
I like SMB's suggestion. I'd do some sort of get together (dinner out, BBQ, casual party at your place, etc) with some other young people from church and invite him. If you don't think your husband will naturally start chatting him up if there are other people around, you could start the conversation with the guy to see if you could find any common points of interest and then go "ohhh, you have to talk to my husband, he loves that too!" and then bring your husband over for a re-introduction.
Money Matters The other half's blog.
EJ is growing up too fast!
Tea Time for Lulu
Thank you guys so much for the encouragement and advice! I love it! Sometimes I wonder what I ever did before the nest. I'm over here smacking my forehead and thinking "Oh yeah! Why didn't I think of that?!" You guys rock.
We're all headed to a mutual friend's Super Bowl party on Sunday, so maybe I'll try the "chatting him up and then bring in Huz" thing, and then listen for a movie or outing that they seem interested in and encourage them to go together. Thanks so much!