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12/09 - Macy (daughter) | 4/10 - Began TTC Baby #2 | 12/10 - Chemical Pregnancy | 1/12 - Miscarriage at 14 weeks | DX - PCOS & Hyperthyroidism
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What are you thoughts on spanking?
Are you for it or against it?
Prior to having Macy, I just assumed that from time to time I would have to swat my kid (not beat them) just to get their attention. Thankfully I haven't been forced with the decision to spank Macy thus far, but now I don't honestly know how I feel about it anymore.....
So, I just wanted to hear others thoughts 
Baby Macy is here!
12/09 - Macy (daughter) | 4/10 - Began TTC Baby #2 | 12/10 - Chemical Pregnancy | 1/12 - Miscarriage at 14 weeks | DX - PCOS & Hyperthyroidism
Re: What are you thoughts on spanking?
I don't have any kids, but from my experience with my niece, there has never been a need. Thankfully, she's a very well behaved little girl. I feel that EVERY other discipline option must be exhausted to warrant a swat.
I'll never say never.
DD was an angelic toddler who threw a grand total of two 15 second temper tantrums in her entire life. I never needed to resort to a swat on the backside to get her attention.
DS, on the other hand, is a cute but devious little toddler. I can't rule out the possibility in the future. Daddy can just give him a disapproving look and he dissolves into tears and sticks out his pouty lip, but if mommy tells him no, he just laughs and goes back to what he's doing. I'll let you know if we ever have to pull out the spanking card on him. I consider it a last resort, but if that's what it takes to get DS's attention and convince him not to do something that is very dangerous, I'm not above it.
This. We've never been in a situation where I thought it was appropriate or necessary so far, but particularly where safety is concerned (i.e., no running out in the road), I'd do what I have to do to keep her safe. I have had to forcibly take things away from her, but that's the most phsyical force I've ever felt the need to use with her. So far your basic distractions and just talking about what's nice and what's not nice have sufficed. With a timeout thrown in here or there, but not often.
If there were some possible way that spanking would help her sleep better, I'd totally do it.
(OMG, so not serious about that, just in case you worried.)
My silly Lily is almost 4.
This is Macy. I hope this doesn't become a problem in the future!
Baby Macy is here!
12/09 - Macy (daughter) | 4/10 - Began TTC Baby #2 | 12/10 - Chemical Pregnancy | 1/12 - Miscarriage at 14 weeks | DX - PCOS & Hyperthyroidism
Only a little better. We've managed the last couple of nights, but it was painful. We've tried everything, it seems. Games of this or that in her mouth. No sweets. You brush the teeth, then mommy brushes. You brush mommy's teeth, then Mommy brushes yours. Brush the doll's teeth. Faking that I'm going to use her Cinderella toothbrush to brush Daddy's/the cat's/the doll's/whatever's teeth. I've even played dumb and asked her to tell me what to do. That worked, once, I think.
Last night we had this idea that I would just leave and not come back until she brushed her teeth. Well, that only seemed to traumatize her, and it didn't feel right anyway, like mommy's presence shouldn't be a tool in my arsenal. Then we tried taking a toy away, which is what worked the night before. But on top of the previous trauma, she was just too upset and it was clearly not going to work.
What finally worked was a sticker for her chart. She has a sticker chart and she gets a sticker for every night she stays in bed after we turn the lights off. We haven't used that chart in weeks because she just started staying in her bed after awhile. So, now it's going to be a toothbrush sticker chart, I guess.
My silly Lily is almost 4.
Oh good idea! I didn't even think to suggest that. Now that you mention it, I remember my sister having a sticker chart for all sorts of things. If my niece filled it up at the end of the week, she rewarded her with a little surprise.
I hope the brushing continues to get easier.
I dont have a child yet but I am hoping to follow the same thought process my mom did with us which was never spanking us. I hope my child/children will be well behaved that I will never ever have to spank them but you never know. I think my mom spanked me once when I climbed up into the hall closet and got into some pills that were creme colored which matched the carpet and didnt know how many I had taken. So she spanked me.
Like PP's I feel that if there is a situation where my child is in danger and a spanking will cause them to pay attention then I might choose to do that. Of course they will be swift taps not beating my child.
I have a feeling that this is how it will be in our house. I have told Macy no a few times which has caused her to cry. I was not prepared for how hard that would be on me!
Baby Macy is here!
12/09 - Macy (daughter) | 4/10 - Began TTC Baby #2 | 12/10 - Chemical Pregnancy | 1/12 - Miscarriage at 14 weeks | DX - PCOS & Hyperthyroidism