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Was I wrong?
So, a friend asked me to sign a character reference so she could get a pistol and I said that I'd have to think about it, and so she told me not to worry about it.
It has nothing to do with her, I trust her 1000% and she's a great person, but I don't believe in guns in the home. They make me uncomfortable and I think bad things happen to good people when guns are involved.
Was I right to stand by my beliefs or an effed up friend for not wanting to do it?
Re: Was I wrong?
I am split on this one. I understand your beliefs, but she asked you to sign on her character not your beliefs on guns in the home. I think that if it were me, I would have done it for her, if you trust her then what does it matter.
I am also a VERY firm believer in the saying "Guns do not kill people, people kill people."
I definitely think that you owe her an explanation for why you did not sign it.
This is pretty much what I was going to say too. If it's not something you feel totally ok about, it's understandable that you wouldn't want to be a part of it. Being a reference might feel like you're encouraging something you're not comfortable with. At the same time, I totally get what Ashlee is saying about guns not killing people, people killing people. I think it's just one of those things that everyone has their own reasons & feelings about, but I do think it would do your friendship good if you at least told her what you've told us.
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..however, in the end, I think you have to do what makes you comfortable. And if the thought of signing it made you that uncomfortable, I think you made the right choice.
Aaaaalll of this. I don't think you should back down on your beliefs, and as said in PP she probably had other people to ask. It doesn't sound like she was offended, but it probably wouldn't hurt to just explain to her why you said you had to think about it.
She understood right off the bat.
I know guns don't kill people, people do, but there's history there. When I was a kid a girl in my school that I knew killed herself playing with her dads gun. She was only 8 or 9. It stuck with me, and it still makes me uncomfortable.
I explained that it wasn't her at all and that I'm just anti-gun and she totally understood. Thank you for all the feedback
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Glad you stuck to your guns <pun intended> :-P
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