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My boss is driving me nuts! (long)
So I was on a project that was going to be steady work until early next year, however, something happened that no one expected and all work on that was stopped for who knows how long. Then I get a couple of little assignments. My boss tells me of a field assignment for 6 months that will get me the promotion I've been waiting two years to get (I have had all other credentials way before he came into the picture, but that's another story.)
SO - After careful thought, I tell him I'm in yesterday. This morning, he pulls me aside and tells me that he's decided to ask someone else (less qualified with less experience, of course) to take the assignment. I'm thinking 'what a jerk'. Then he proceeds to try to sell me on going on another assignment which isn't as long-term, is not nearly as challenging, and does not have a salary uplift or a promotion as I would have gotten with the other assignment.
Now I'm trying to think of a way to politely but firmly demand that I be given the promotion and a salary uplift for this other position or I just won't go anywhere. I do have work at the home office if I don't go out, but it's not nearly as fun as going somewhere warm in February. I have asked my boss this afternoon to give me something in writing. My plan right now is to find out what the other guy is getting for that first assignment and ask for it with this other one. I hate having to get ugly just to get what I want, and I blame myself for not pushing for it earlier.
Thanks for letting me vent!
Re: My boss is driving me nuts! (long)
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Actually, no. I am already assigned to a couple of other projects. My intent was to simply threaten to not go to FL. If they keep me at the home office, I'll certainly start sending out resumes while I finish my other things.
I think I'm angry with myself for not asking for that promotion sooner, but I was too busy working to notice. Still glad I'm employed though.
Instead of going in w/ an antagonistic attitude, I would ask to speak to your boss and lay out your concerns. Primarily that this assignment was keeping you on track for a promotion and more $$. This is what you want- continuing growth and advancement. You'd like to have a better understanding of why they gave this opportunity to someone else, and what should your expectations now be for your future w/ this company.
Not threats, not "you better do ___ for me or I'm going to do ___", but a mature, rational discussion about what your future is.
That will probably have more impact, to be honest. And if they are interested in keeping you w/ them, knowing that you're upset about your lack of growth and advancement will let them know (minus the threats) that you aren't happy and you're not sure what your future is..
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This. Your current strategy sounds like you're about 5 years old, plugging your ears and stomping until you get what you want. Flies with honey and whatnot.
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Another vote for taking the high road - you'll catch more flies with honey!
Thanks for reading my post, letting me vent, and then accusing me of being 5 years old when all I really needed is to vent, clear my head and go about it like a logical human being... which is what I did.
I spoke to my boss, told him that it is not easy for me to ask for things and that I'd rather earn them. I also told him that I wanted to take the first assignment because I was of the understanding that would help me get a promotion and he understood. So he and I went to his boss to explain the situation and he was also on board with getting me on that path, and that was good. There are no hard feelings - I don't hate the guy. Other than this incident, I get along with him all right.
Later today, my boss offers my husband and I hockey tickets for tonight and we went and had a good time.
So I'm still going to FL. Leaving on Monday.
You can bet I'll never be coming back to this board!
You should ALWAYS ask for assignments, promotions, etc., that you want; don't expect it to just be handed to you out of your hard work or because "you deserve it." I know that it can be uncomfortable. I always think about it like this: would I rather X person have this opportunity or would I rather have it?