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WWYD, RE: Family visiting
E's bday party is Feb 20th. My mom comes into town on 2/17, at like 10 PM. I am taking off 2/18 to get ready for the party and be with my family. My sisters fly in on 2/18 around 11am.
Problem: I spent $17 on a ticket to see an up & coming band with my BFF the night of 2/17. It is at a small club in the area so the concert probably would't start until 9pm(ish). I have seen them before but I have a feeling the next time I will see them will be at a $70 concert in a big arena.
Scenario 1: I lose the $17, pick up my mom at 10pm while DH stays home with E.
Scenario 2: Go to the concert, leave early and pick up my mom at 10pm while DH stays home with E.
Scenario 3: Go to the concert, have DH wake up E 2 hrs after she went to sleep, and he pick up my mom at 10pm.
Scenario 4: Go to concert, DH stay home with E, & mom takes a shuttle to our house.
WWYD?
Re: WWYD, RE: Family visiting
1. Did you buy the ticket before or after your mom made her plans?
2. Did you already offer to pick your mom up from the airport? Did she consult you before making her plans?
I'd say if you had already bought tickets to the concert, and your mom called and said she booked a flight that got in at 10 p.m., you're free to say, "Sorry, can't pick you up. Can you get to the house on your own?"
But if your mom consulted you and you already offered a ride; or you bought the tickets knowing about a previous obligation, you're on the hook to pick her up.
How old is E? I always thought it was exciting to be woken up to pick up a relative from the airport. I don't think that's an unreasonable option, either.
I don't think leaving the concert early is a realistic option.
1. I bought the ticket prior to my mom making her plans.
2. She bought her ticket prior to telling me her plans. I actually didn't know my entire family was officially coming until she called me to tell me she purchased the 3 tickets the day before.
E is going to be 2. While she might find it exciting to see her Granny at 10pm, she would be annoyed at us for waking her up.
My mom offered to take the shuttle since it is so late. She knows about the concert, I told her about it when she told me her arrival time. It is more daughter guilt on my part that I would not be available to pick her up. If she took the shuttle she would probably be arriving at my house about the time I get home. And it will be too late to really socialize anyway since we will have to be awake at 7am for when Emmalee wakes up.
It sounds like your mom is comfortable with you keeping your original plans and taking the shuttle to your house. If she is truly fine with that (and not prone to using it as ammunition for a guilt trip later), then that's exactly what I'd do. I don't think you need to feel guilty unless you made the plans after your mom informed you of her plans, or if your mom would be stuck at the airport if you didn't go get her.
Plus, there will be plenty of time for socializing over the weekend. I'd imagine your mom will be tired after the flight and looking forward to settling in and being well rested for spending time with you and E the next day anyway.
Maybe it would help you feel a little better if you called and made the shuttle arrangement for her? Or you could leave her a little treat for when she arrives at your home to let her know you're thinking of her and excited for her arrival (e.g. some cookies, a new book to read, some cozy slippers, a tea kettle, mug and tea bags ready for her to heat up and make a cup of tea, etc).
Definitely let her take the shuttle, guilt-free. I mean, what would you do if the situation were reversed? I totally wouldn't mind.
Enjoy the concert, let DH welcome your mom (and if you're super nice and feel really guilty, the welcome kit is a good touch), and have a fun family weekend!