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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
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Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
I seriously need to learn patience (XP)
in 9 to 5
Or else I am going to get fired. Or at least get a serious talking to.
I am SO impatient in meetings. Especially when some one disagrees with me and they are misinformed or lack knowledge of the situation. Rather than calmly and patiently explaining my perspective, I get very short with them. Not good.
Why oh why am I repeating such self-defeating behavior?!
Any words of wisdom or should I just slam a shot before meetings to take the edge off? I have about 20 meetings per week....so 20 shots per week might not be so good for my health.
Re: I seriously need to learn patience (XP)
Eh, pick your battles. I struggle with my own self-righteousness sometimes too, and sometimes I can't help but get into the fight. But if it's a case of them just being wrong and I have high confidence that their wrongness will not adversely impact anything, I let them go off and I disprove them later. Remember that not arguing correctness does not imply tacit agreement with their side.
Thanks and I do see what you are saying. In this case, as in most others, we are working on a project and our discussion results in a decision on how to proceed. That is why it is imperative that we make the correct decision. Going off false information sends us down the wrong path and wastes time and money. I don't engage in disagreements when nothing is at stake; I am not trying to prove myself right.
The bitchy side of me just wishes that if some one doesn't know what they are talking about that they just wouldn't talk at all because they are just wasting every one's time. We all bring different areas of expertise, and I appreciate what each person brings to the table. I just hate having to defend myself against ideas that are inherently incorrect. I know this is my attitude problem.
I know not everything I contribute in meetings is brilliant, or even correct for that matter. That is why I need more patience!