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Did you watch Teen Mom2 last night?
Jenelle is now "serious" with a guy that has no high school diploma and no job. Also, he thinks he could get a job if he wanted because he has a "solid resume" as a line cook.
Jenelle, being Jenelle, thinks he is a solid catch but of course, her mother was rolling her eyes.
Which got me to thinking....how particular were you about who you dated?
Since I am openingly snobby - I will go first - I never would have dated someone without a high school diploma (and in fact, I know of no one without one) and to be quite frank, if it didn't appear that a boy was serious about school and some sort of realistic career aspirations, I wouldn't date them either (this has nothing to do with having a college degree vs. not having one is "better" - it was important to me that my future spouse and I have the same importance on career). I was also pretty particular about his family - if a boy had a lot of family connections - they were out - and if they didn't have some sort of part-time job while in school - no way. I am laughing at this part-time job thing because when DH and I started dating, I informed him he needed to get some sort of job despite still being in college. So he got a job working for the OU Yearbook which was freaking hilarious but - it was a job and when we went out on dates HE was paying for them and not his dad.
Anyway, clearly, it is any wonder I got married.
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Re: Did you watch Teen Mom2 last night?
that cracked me up! "I'm laid off right now, but I could get a job anytime" Then why aren't you working???
I also loved that Jenelle's mom told her she was hungover and she said she just had a headache and was really tired and felt like she was going to throw up. Umm, yea, that is called hungover.
And it really really irritates me that she calls watching HER kid babysitting. I don't babysit my kids. Your kids, yes, but when I am caring for my kids, it is not babysitting (and H doesn't babysit them either!)
To answer you question though, H is actually the first guy I dated with a high school diploma, but every other guy I dated was when I was still in high school and so were they
Well, actually, I dated one guy who didn't fiisih high school. I was waiting tables then (I was in high school) and he was a bus boy. Looking back, I am not sure what I was thinking. He ended up being super creepy and when I was pregnant with M one of my sisters friends worked with him (still a bus boy but at a different place) and he apparently told this guy he and I were married and we had a son and I was pg with another. Totally creeped me out especially since we had eaten there and we said hi to eachother and whatnot so he knew I was married with a son and pg with another!
goodness she is one messed up cookie! but her mother isnt any better to be honest! i have to agree with PP if you resume is sooo solid then get off your booty and get a job! come on man! Also anyone who would date someone with the name Keffer seriously??? That just scream I cause trouble
SInce going through my loss this show only makes me angry. honestly i swear they pick the most messed up kids sometimes. I have to watch this show while DH is at work he hates it.
To answer your question.
I dated one guy in high school where thought I should buy on every date because he had to save his money for a new skate board. We only lasted about a month and I was over it! After him I became so picky on who I dated. They had to have a car, some sort of income (besides mom & dad), and no record of any kind. How I got my husband now, well I got lucky I guess he picked me I had given up on dating. Go figure
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Yea, the name Keifer totally made me laugh. And also, when he was talking about how he walked from NC to Pennsylvania or something with nothing but a 40 pound garbage bag full of his stuff. God, I nearly fell out of bed laughing because you could tell that he truly thought that made him SO AWESOME.
Also, when she was telling him about how she wanted to go into "Film editing" and he said "Oh, I bet you think you are hot sh!t or something" - my eyes nearly fell out of my head I rolled them so hard. She is a prime example of someone I would have avoided when I was dating. I mean, come on, lady. Be realistic.
The more I think about it - they may be perfect for one another.
Anyhoo, I am excited for Leah. I totally want her and her baby daddy to be together.
This all the way! I was particular about who I dated.
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The only guy I dated was H. So yeah, I guess I had pretty high standards.
We chuckled a little when he went off about how he could get a job anywhere...as a line cook. Sigh. Lots of ambition there, tiger. Why don't you have a job again?
I was particular whenever I decided I was ready to get serious. I had a lot of fun relationships--mostly in high school and early college since I got married at 20.
There was the guy my sophomore year that dealt drugs...he was a BLAST. We'd go road tripping in his Bronco and he was the most passionate person. He was super sweet and I loved the relationship. I knew he'd ultimately end up in rehab and a perma-job making $8/hr at the co-op, so it was a no go for me. (by the way, he just got done with his second trip to rehab and I'm not sure where he works).
Others kissed really well so I had fun with it, a couple of guys REALLY liked me and I just liked the attention, some guys were just kind of hot so I toyed with it for a while...they weren't serious, but then again I knew I wasn't going to marry them.
I loved H for many, many reasons and honestly his job wasn't one of the reasons I married him. When we got married I think he made $11/hour doing work for a company that did pier drilling. I was head over heels and I didn't care. Now I did know he had major ambition, so it wasn't a hard guess that he'd make more than that eventually.
H always paid for everything, bought me gifts, etc. I like/liked being spoiled.
I agree with this. When H and I got married he didn't make much money either, but I knew he had a work ethic like none other and he was ambitious. And to be honest, I don't think I would care if he made less money now. Actually sincen he took his new job in July he is making about half of what he was at the old job, but he is much happier and his potential is higher at this company. I mean I want to be able to have a roof and food, but his monetary status isn't what attracts me to him (not saying that is what you were saying stripes).
Well, my hubs was getting his MBA when we started dating and was in his first semester of law school when we got married. You could say he made zero dollars, however, I found his ambition and dedication very sexy. Let's face it, just because someone has a MBA and a JD doesn't mean they will make a ton of dough as most don't. I am very ambitious and could never be with someone that was kind of...eh, I guess. At the same time, and this is really snooty, I always knew I would be the bread winner regardless of who I married and I wasn't real interested in marrying a guy that wanted to ride on my ambitious coat tails.
This. I realize my job is not glamorous or the highest paid ever, but it's something I can take pride in and damit, I worked hard for my license. I've loved my DH since we were 16, so with him it was obviously not about money. But it's like you said, the boy has work ethic oozing from all directions. We may not always have money sitting around waiting to be spent, but we're happy with what we have together, and I think that's what matters.
For what it's worth, I have a hard time calling Jenelle a mom. Just like with men being dads, having a biological tie to a child does not make you a mom/dad. You have to earn those titles. So far, Jenelle doesn't have my vote. She's a douche-wagon, so naturally she attracts douche-wagons.
And I agree about Leah! I love those two together! And I'm waiting quite impatiently for them to figure out what's up with that baby!! (I forget which one it is...)
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