September 2010 Weddings
eMiLee920
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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
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How do you...
keep your cool at work? Lately, I've found it impossible. I either get very defensive, or incredibly insulted (which results in me trying not to cry).
So, I could really use some tips ASAP.
My deal is that I am going to murder your puppies and piss on your rainbows.
-diablesse
Re: How do you...
I am the exact same way. Deep breaths and it sounds redonk, but locking myself in the bathroom stall just to take a break & have a minute alone helps. If it doesn't, I also email J to vent/explode/scream.
Oh, and a chocolate in any form helps too.
I hope you feel better and/or find a new/happier job stat!
09.25.10
I just ignore the stupid people I work with, keep quiet, and stick to my corner. I don't partake in any chit chat other than good morning and job related issues.
I've been at my current job for 2-1/2 years and I hate it. I especially hate one of my co-workers who is a lazy mo fo. I try so hard not to lose it when I talk to him so I just turn away, look at my monitor and let it go. I then just ignore him.
Just breathe, try to calm down, and walk away if you need to. It's not worth getting all worked up over, ignore them.
One of those stress squeezie things, deep breaths, a walk around the parking lot, closing my door for a few minutes or using the inside joke I have with my coworkers that I'm going to start punting stuffed animals down the hallway.
Edit: I'll also call/text/gmail chat with H to vent to him. Or sometimes just repeating to myself "They're paying for your college. You can't tell them all to fvck off" many, many times will help.
Married / The Cookaholic Wife
Whenever I feel overwhelmed, I go on a walk or run a short errand. The quick task gets my mind off of work and usually makes me feel a little better.
Sorry it's been tough for you at work.
Hide. No, seriously. In the bathroom, in a friend/co-worker's cube. Anything to make myself unreachable for a few minutes.
A lot of times I'll just send a quick text to K to vent. Just enough to let out the pressure so I don't explode.
When it gets consistently bad (like months-long job/coworker hatred) it's time to look for a new job. Luckily I can rotate other places within the company so I don't lose vacation/seniority.
In my construction job, I did not keep cool. There was a lot of yelling, cursing, screaming and throwing things. On everyone's part, not just me. So I kinda fell into that behavior. Oh, and grabbing a smoke after. A cigarette always calmed me down, but seriously don't start smoking. I stopped smoking ~3 years before I started that job. My boss got really guilty when I started up again. He should have, the d0ucheb@g.
If I have an issue here, I definitely go to the bathroom and cry for like 5 minutes. Normally, I am not a crier and don't get very riled up from normal work activities. This just happens when I'm PMDDing way bad. My supervisors know, so they try to avoid scheduling certain meetings for me that week. Seriously, my boss told me I was doing a great job and I burst into tears, partially b/c of the PMDD, but also because I'd just come from the job where everyone yelled about how much you sucked all the time.
The Princess of Anything is Coming!
Had a dream I was queen.
Woke up. Still queen.
I used to be like that but when I left my last job I came into this one knowing I would not allow myself to be too invested - I got too close to my coworkers, too involved in my company and tied to my work in general, which didn't allow me to separate business and personal.
Most days I excel at my job - I am on top of things and I'm good at what I do. Some days I'm not. And if I'm not, I assume someone who's paying me to do my job is going to say something about it. I listen to them, then I leave the office and sit in the bathroom for a minute or do down and walk around the block. Then I come back and do my work.
I seriously do not take it personally. Everyone has an agenda in an office. Mine is to do my work and leave at 5. Work is just one slice in the pizza pie of life.
I will enter a caveat: here's something that pisses me off and upsets me a LOT - I work with many men. Just because I am a woman does not mean you can treat me like your secretary. I make sure I cut that immediately. I am grateful to have a job, but I will not put up with mistreatment or sexism. Period. I make my feelings known in a non-confrontational manner and it usually cuts it at the root.
I have the type of job where I just can't get up and take a walk or run an errand any time I feel like it so what I do...which is often...is go to the bathroom and just sit in the silence for a few minutes. I also am a firm believer in leaving the building for lunch if you can...even if it's just to go sit in you car. For me, simply leaving the building does wonders.
It sucks that you're having a rough time, but just know things will get better eventually...you're tough enough to make it through this BS at work!
Side note - at my old job I brought all my stress and frustration home and I started drinking and eating a whole lot...do not do this!!!
This, totally. My work husband (and bridesman!) and I vent to each other, since MH and his gf don't want to hear it.
Thank you all. I've been having a rough couple of weeks at work. Some of your suggestions work better than others. I'm determined to find something new.
Unfortunately, even though this is the second night this week I've come home crying, DH wants me to stick it out a little longer. We have a couple of repairs (ok, only one) he wants to at least get a quote before I can just quit. That's a whole 'nother situation though...
I usually find the nearest stapler and get to work on some big projects. I slam the crap outta Mr. Swingline........ I know he doesn't take it personal.....but getting out of the environment like PP's have said also helps (since you can't bring booze to the office.)
Hang in there and find solace knowing that today is a new day!
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