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pay to attend wedding update #2
so DH's aunt called DH last night to get my number because she wants to throw a bachelorette party for cousin's fiancee. Kinda awkward because she wants to take his fiancee and her friends to a strip club! I felt awkward talking about penis straws and veils with her...
I digress. She explained to DH that cousin's fiancee's family is not helping out financially with the wedding because they do not want her to marry DH's cousin. DH's cousin has tattoos all over his body, he has a 2 year old daughter, he has a good job as a barber, but at the age of 27, he's still chasing after career in rap music...his fiancee is the daughter of a detective, she's in school and I guess they expect her to marry a doctor or something.
So, DH's aunt offered to help out financially. She said, and I quote, that she didn't want "people freeloading so we asked that people pay $50 up front and we'll cover the difference. So, people can order off the menu and if it costs more than $50 it's okay and if it's less it's okay." On top of that they're now insisting it's not a reception, but we got an invitation with a reception card that said "RECEPTION IMMEDIATELY FOLLOWING CEREMONY."
So, DH and I still have a lot of issues with this. DH is still not going to attend. however, I think he's gotten over his hurt feelings because this whole thing is just ridiculous!!!
1. cousin's fiancee's family is under no obligation to provide financially for this wedding. I get being upset that they don't support the marriage, but no family is obligated to provide financial support. since that is the case, they should've planned a wedding they can afford without help.
2. DH's aunt's logic is so backwards. why wouldn't she tell son, "this is what I can contribute financially, so we'll do this menu option for the reception." or something along those lines. having people pay is still not acceptable. In addition, DH's aunt has had a serious gambling problem in the past. All the reception money is going to her and then she's using it with her contribution to pay the tab. I have a feeling something bad may happen....
I also feel like cousin and fiancee were forced into having this reception. I guess originally they planned to have just a ceremony with close relatives, but last night DH's aunt told me, "I told them they need to have some sort of dinner for our family at least." But you're not really hosting a dinner if people have to pay.
okay thoughts....
Re: pay to attend wedding update #2
I am beyond words with this situation!!
1. I think her with the $50pp could be an issue knowing her issue.
2. I think she seems to be a hot mess (no offense to YH about his aunt...). You're right; her logic is messed.
no offense taken. his family is crazy. my DH keeps his distance for a reason.
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This situation just makes me SMH...
I can almost imagine no one attending the wedding... leaving them in debt and the bride depressed because she had the big wedding she wanted to show everyone but no one to show it to....
I know I wouldn't be attending...
is it bad that the updates entertain me too?
and yes, I worry about them incurring all this debt for a day that may or may not happen...