January 2010 Weddings
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FFC
We need one of these. I feel like it's been awhile since we've done confessions.
Re: FFC
I feel guilty about how I feel about this... but ex-BFF applied for a general manager position for a store she currently works at in a different city. She has no degree beyond a HS diploma and no management experience at all. I didn't think she would, but she got the job. I'm happy she's moving to a different city because she really needs a change of scenery, but I'm actually MAD she got the job. I'm thinking, how dumb are these people to hire her with no experience for a manager position after just a phone interview?
Picture life as a race, when you're a baby you're at the start line and when you're dead you're at the finish and in the middle you've got stages of life sort of based on achievement. Well, right now I feel like she's ahead of me in that race and it makes me mad.
I'm probably a sh1tty person for thinking like this.
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Ashley, Flogging Molly sounds awesome!
Sandra, you're not a shiity person for thinking that - I went through a very similar feeling when my BFF was making $80k a year without a degree and I was busting my butt in nonprofit for nonprofit pay.
I think I have a few:
First, I REALLY need to make a doctor's appointment to visit my new GP because I think I'm having an anxiety problem. I feel really embarrassed about not being in control of my emotions/stress, and I keep avoiding making an appointment because I don't want to deal with it. I need to just suck it up.
Second, last week (or two weeks ago?) I was LIVID at H for coming home at 2am on a Wednesday when he had to be at school at 8am - I was giving him the silent treatment when he got home and everything. Well, turns out he was late because my dad got so drunk he didn't know where he was (H was at a poker game with my dad), and he wanted to make sure he got home ok. I don't know what's more flameful - me being so mad at my H without knowing the full story, or the fact that I would have totally left my dad at the bar if he was that drunk and didn't want to go home (he didn't drive, so he wouldn't have killed anyone or anything).
Lastly, Sunday will be the anniversary of my lost virginity! Hahaha, I won't tell y'all WHAT anniversary, though.
January 2, 2010
EDD October 10, 2013
sandra, I would have felt the exact same way.
I have an ex-bff who I at one point thought would be my MOH. She didnt RSVP to the wedding, and we called her to see if she was coming. She says "yes, yes, omg! please I want to be there for you guys if you'll still let me!" The day of the wedding, she didnt show up. She sent me a FACEBOOK message the next day saying that she was so sorry, she missed it, but she couldnt have showed up until 6ish and she didnt want to "cause drama". DH was more pissed than I was because she was actually his bff in high school. we havent talked to her since.
we're thinking about taking a vacation in april. DH is working at his old job 50 plus hours a week, so i know we can afford it, ant still have our down payment for a house, but i feel a little guilty because DH doesnt have a "real" job. But at the same time, i feel like i want to travel as much as possible before we ttc.
ok, I have a few more haha.
I have a facebook friend who had a status: "2011 is the year of the 1's! Add your birth year with the age you are turning this year, and it will add to 111!"
well, she had all of these comments like, "whoa, so strange!" and "I even did it for my 6 year old, and it added to 11!"
then, she posted, "I'm just waiting for some math or science person to post"
so, being the math teacher that I am, I figured it out, and posted. Only to read the rest of her post that read: "I'm just waiting for some math or science person to post and ruin all the fun."
ooops
next confession: I'm currently putting away clean clothes that have been in the laundry basket for over 2 weeks.
You're worse than I am! I think the most I've let it sit is one week. It sits and then the laundry pile next to it gets so big, I think, I need to put these clothes away so I can use the basket to take the dirty ones to the laundry room. Bahaha, I usually dump the clean clothes on the bed and put it off even longer.
And why is it 111?
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I also want to know why it's 111, that's weird to my non mathematical brain.
My confession(s): I am mad at my H. I'm mad that he forgets to tell me about bills and they end up being late. I'm mad that he doesn't call or email me everyday. I know he's busy and there's a crazy time difference but if he has time to watch 2 seasons of Rome and other movies then he should have time to talk to his wife! I'm mad that he's missing all the holidays and anniversaries. I'm mad that he is gone for 3 months...I wish it was either the full year or not at all. And lastly, I'm mad that none of this is his fault and yet I blame him.
Holy crap, I guess that was more of a vent than a confession. Sorry.
My second confession: I pretend to get along with some of the other spouses/couples in my neighborhood just so I have a chance to get out of the house. If I didn't do things with them, I would be a hermit so I would rather be fake than lonely.
BFP 02/2010 m/c 03/17/2010 dx PCOS 04/2010
BFP 08/13/2011 CP 08/15/2011
BFP 09/16/2011 EDD 05/20/2012
Claire Elizabeth, born 5/30 via a med free birth
ok, here it is...
I figured it out by checking other years, and eventually tried it in the year 2000.
In 2000, your birth year and age added up to 100 because
1. your birth year is how many years its been since the begining of the century
2. your age is how many years it's been since the year you were born.
for me in 2000: 86+14=100 because its a full century.
Now, this year, it adds to 111 because its 11 years since 2011.
Does this make sense? If not, I can explain it a different way.
I confess that I, too, have clean laundry that is folded sitting in a basket for 2+ weeks. It's gotten to the point that I'm just wearing clothes out of the basket.
I confess that I want my old super-athletic H back. Now he just sits around watching DIY while I work out, and for some reason I'm mad at him about this.
I confess that some days I'll fake that I have a headache so that I can lay around on the couch napping off and on and DH won't think I'm lazy. I just need a break somedays. (this is more of an internal guilt thing. My H would never make me work constantly or tell me I can't take a nap, I just feel guilty if I want to nap and he's working, so instead I'll just fake a headache so it seems 'legitimate' to me)
ooh, one more.
I confess that I can't stop lurking on the GP board. I soooo badly want to be at that stage in life and just can't. I live vicariously through people that are ttc.
me toooo
ditto
BFP 02/2010 m/c 03/17/2010 dx PCOS 04/2010
BFP 08/13/2011 CP 08/15/2011
BFP 09/16/2011 EDD 05/20/2012
Claire Elizabeth, born 5/30 via a med free birth
ugh. it's not fun or exciting. i want to return to the days when an oops baby would be possible and it would all be fun & exciting again. instead, it's not.
ashley-we just saw LTJ a few days ago and it's begun a downward spiral of attending all shows we can possibly handle! flogging molly is in our plans for next month, as well as jimmy eat world (for me, not DH, but he'll suck it up) and social distortion in may. have fun at the show!!!!
anyways..DH is headed to work in a little bit and will be gone until almost midnight. i'm looking forward to a quiet house without him more than i probably should. i told him i would clean/cook/etc, but i'm sick and don't really feel like doing any of those things and probably won't. oops.
I worry about this, especially after lurking on there so much. I try to not think about it possibly being difficult. I've always had a deep-seated fear that I won't be able to have kids.
And as for the music, we've had the same thing happen recently! I'm now lining up all of these concerts that I want to go to. We live in an amazing town for the music scene, so a lot of what we do is just go to the bar and listen to local bands, but after Flogging Molly, Iron and Wine is coming in April and I realllllllyy wanna see them.
I am scared of having difficulties as well. After reading the heartbreaking stories some of those women have...it's terrifying. I wish we were the type of people that could do the whatever happens, happens thing but we like to plan too much.
I'm sorry TTC is not fun for y'all though. The prospect of a baby should always be exciting.
BFP 02/2010 m/c 03/17/2010 dx PCOS 04/2010
BFP 08/13/2011 CP 08/15/2011
BFP 09/16/2011 EDD 05/20/2012
Claire Elizabeth, born 5/30 via a med free birth
I think that lurking on the GP board really woke me up and made me realize that it might not be as easy as everyone makes it out to be. We've actually talked about our TTC date and moving it up incase it doesnt happen as easily as we would like.
the prospect is. but month after month of no baby it begins to suck the fun right out of it all. i never thought there would be an issue, esp since i got KU without even trying. turns out, it just isn't that easy sometimes. and it baffles me completely! and even with a BFP, it would only bring worry since we've already had a loss. i couldn't understand why it was something that wouldn't be fun to work on every month...now i do. STUPID BODY, COOPERATE!
have fun at the shows, ashley!!! LTJ was our first small show in over 3 years and we forgot how much we really enjoyed the scene. our city used to be far better at holding the scene down, it's not as great anymore (our staple small venues closed..sold out to make more money as grocery stores and big time clubs), but it's still pretty decent. we just never bother to spend the money to go see a show. i think we're going to try harder from now on though!
About 23 months until we start TTC. We already know it's not going to be easy for me b/c of the PCOS and there's almost a 100% chance that I'll have to take some kind of drugs to actually get KU. I'm not looking forward to it, but the babies... they're starting to get to me!
Another wife I knew when we were in Miami just announced she's due in August and I could not believe the huge amount of jealousy I felt when I found out. Then tonight we were out to dinner and there was this thin girl who was just so pretty and she was with her husband and their little baby. I got cranky having to look at that, lol.
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k, I had to cut some of the 'quotes' out. But we're looking at the same time frame and it seems FOREVER away. If I hadn't decided to come back to school I know that we would be trying right now, which is what kills me. That, and my cousin has a 4 month old little boy that I don't get to see because we live 9 hours away... if we lived closer and I had a baby to play with, I'm not sure if it would help or hurt the baby fever.
I confess that I have never felt worse than I have this month. After 5 years on BCPs, I stopped after my last period and I have been sore and achy for the past month, and gained a couple pounds. If my kitty so much as nibbles or swipes at me, I want to cry. It's awful. Hopefully my body will start balancing itself out soon. We're hoping to TTC sometimes April-June this year. Fingers crossed!
Also, I confess that I get really pissed off that I feel like I spend my entire weekend doing housework, cooking, grocery shopping, and DH doesn't do much at all on his days off. Why can't I just relax on my days off and curl up and watch a movie? Oh yeah, because my house would turn into a disaster zone.
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THIS.
And I'm sure your body will feel better once its had its own cycle. In the meantime, tell kitty to behave!!
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I confess that it drives me nuts when my H says he'll do something while I'm at work or class and then doesn't. Like yesterday, when he said he would clean up the house while I was at class for 7 HOURS, and I got home to find that he spent all day watching TV and playing Madden.
I confess that I have no real right to be mad at him since when I was unemployed I spent huge amounts of time watching TV. But I'm annoyed anyway.
I confess that I recently looked at some pictures of my H from the beach 6 months before we got married and was a little sad that he doesn't seem to even notice that he's put on quite a gut since then. Neither of us have been to the gym in ages, but I am more active at work and have a higher metabolism so I am still the same weight I've been since I've known him. I really wish he'd start going to the gym again -- both for his personal sanity and for his body.
I also confess that I wish he would be better at managing his psoriasis. He's had the same type of medication as long as I've known him, and I get frustrated every time I see the psoriasis commercials talking about how easy it is to manage. When I ask him if he thinks switching medication would be beneficial, he says his meds work just fine. And maybe they would if he used them regularly. But instead he waits until his skin is flaking and oozing everywhere. It's gross, but I don't want to make him more self-conscious about it that he already is.
BFP on Jan. 18; EDD Oct. 1
I'm a million years late to this thread, but:
CCH: I hope your body starts cooperating soon. Also, Social D sold out before I could get tickets and I was SO PISSED! And my old ska band covered Johnny Quest back in the day, so LTJ will always have a special place in my heart.
Melko: I would totally go on vacation! You're only young once!
Eskamo: I don't blame you for being pissed OR for pretending to get along with people. I'm sure I'd be the same way!
Shazzie: I recently went of BCP (not to TTC! Just to see how my body would do without extra hormones) and it took a bit for me to adjust. But now - it's awesome! I hardly have any headaches, I feel less crazy, AND my period is shorter and lighter (that's the part I can't believe) - it was so worth it for me!
January 2, 2010
EDD October 10, 2013
Me too (waaaay late response)! Now granted DH works full time, part time & goes to school full time, but it still kills me that he doesn't do anything but make a mess when he is home. I can't wait until he graduates-only a year and a half to go.
I just go out and buy another laundry basket...I'm pretty sure our dressers are empty right now.
That's awesome. I have not quite gone to those lengths yet, but it sounds like something I would do. Usually I just pile up the clean laundry on the couch and let it sit there until it starts to drive me crazy. By then we've worn half of it and there's less to put away in the drawers!
BFP on Jan. 18; EDD Oct. 1