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Pain oh the Pain
So I am 24 years old and my fiance is 22. We can't have sex. Help!!! When we try eaither he gets soft( a problem he is working on) or it is so painful I cry. Now Im not talking virgin painful im talking like PAINFUL!! What should I do I want to have a healthy relationship but how will we do this without sex?
Re: Pain oh the Pain
The both of you need to see your respective physicians.
You may have an intact hymen, vaginisimus or something called interstitial cystitis.
If he's 22 and getting soft, it could be due to a circulatory problem, hormone imbalance or a thyroid condidtion -- it may also be an early signal of diabetes.
If not something organic and clinical, it could be psychological. HEre's where he needs to see a sex therapist.
Please resolve this situation before your married. That's my strong advice.
Complete checkup for the both of you. Good luck.
Def get checked out. Sex should be enjoyable.
As for him, Im not a man so I can't really say. But if its not the psychological "I dont want to stick my penis in her and cause her pain" thing, then he should get checked out too :-) A healthy penis/vagaina is a happy penis/vagina.
coasterchick - depending on the type of pain your talking about i may have the same symptoms! what were u diagnosed with?
i have talked to my gyno and a urologist about pain during intercourse and i feel like i get nowhere!!