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Wish I didn't have to deal with her!
I am just so sick of my MIL. That woman refuses to find anything positive in life, even with her grandson.
Every time, and I do mean EVERY, time she comes over and picks up Baby Rebel she has to comment on his weight. "Ugh, he must weigh 100lbs." It's even gone as high as 200lbs. So the last time she came over and made her comment I had to bite my tongue not to get bitchy with her.
After they left I had a talk with H. Now I realize that he is too little to realize what his grandma is saying, but still. He agreed with me, and he was fine with bringing it up with her the next time we saw them. Our point was that it is best to stop the comments now while he's too little to understand so that they don't become a habit for when he gets bigger. H and I both had weight issues growing up, and if Baby Rebel does too he certainly doesn't need his own grandmother putting him down.
So last night they came over to watch him while we went out. I didn't hear exactly how H started the conversation, but I came in when he was saying how it would be best to stop them now before he gets bigger and starts having self esteem issues. Her response was "Is your Daddy being silly?" <-said to K.
At that point I had to say something. My response was "No, we don't want him to be self conscience, and his grandmother certainly shouldn't be saying something!" She didn't say a word about it after.
Here's to hoping that the comments cease.
Re: Wish I didn't have to deal with her!
I can understand how that would be annoying. Hopefully your talk with her will make her realize it's not ok to continue with those types of comments. I had weight issues growing up (heck, I still have weight issues) and I couldn't imagine how devastating it would have been to hear my own grandma say something like that to/about me.
This is exactly my point. I NEVER had to worry about ridicule from my family about my weight. Even now when H has lost 80lbs, and I'm still the size he used to be. He gets made fun of for being so skinny, but no one makes comments to me. I got enough of it from kids at school, I couldn't imagine getting it from family too.
I'm not saying Baby Rebel will be big. He isn't even chubby now. He's very solid. And once he starts being mobile he should slim down more. I just hate that there could be the possibility of him having self doubt because of his grandmother!! Cousins, sure. Siblings, sure. But grandma? Come on!
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