when did you know for sure?

jgreg29 · February 2011

Sweetpea's post has me wondering: when did you know 100% that you were going to marry your husband?

For me, it happened somewhere between 2-3 months after we met, although I can't remember exactly when it first struck me. But I know that by our 3-month anniversary (Valentine's Day, a convenient marker), I had no doubt we were getting married. It was another 15 months before we were engaged. We got married 13 months after that.

mrscjwatts · February 2011

I think he knew before I did. We were driving back to my apt, with my BFF (whom I shared the apt with at the time), and we got to talking about storybook endings and blah blah blah. Then he came up with, I think Jess has found her storybook ending! We all were like, right hahaha....but he moved in 6 months after we started dating. We got engaged 3 years after that and were married on our 5th anniversary.

MainelyFoolish · February 2011

I knew somewhere in the 2 to 3 month time frame that DH was the one. We went engagement ring shopping after 5 months of dating. I honestly thought we were going to get engaged on our 6 month dating anniversary but then DH held out until Thanksgiving which was 9 months after we met (and 4 months after ring shopping). I politely informed DH that if he ever had the need to get engaged again, he should hold off on ring shopping until the proposal in imminent. It's not nice to keep a woman waiting for four months!

jl&jl · February 2011

I thought this was goign to read "when did you know you were pregnant" I thought you were telling us something!

Considering I agreed to marry DH one month exactly after we met, I guess I knew straight away.

danieleandwayne · February 2011

Hmmmm.... for me, I don't think it was a question of "knowing" more than it was a simple fact of just feeling like everything was right. I never had questions about him that went unanswered or got answered badly (meaning, we weathered everything pretty well and took challenges in stride and grew together).

Within 3 months, I was throwing out the idea of us living together when I moved to Maine (I was still in CT and he was here for the first 4 months of our relationship).

I DID have to tell him after the first year that if he wasn't in the relationship for the long haul, he'd have to let me know because I wasn't about to waste time with someone I loved but with whom I didn't have a future-- not at my age! (Actually, I think I told him "Listen, I have plans that include having a baby before I'm 40. Those plans are going forward with or without you, so you just figure out if that's a ride you want to be on. If not, I need to move on and find someone who does-- or get myself in a place where I can drive solo.")

grahamsm3 · February 2011

You mean like in 6th grade when I had a best friend and he had a best friend and the whole school thought that our friends should date because they were the 2 smartest kids in the school - and I thought disgustedly to myself - 'and I'll probably end up with Luke?'

or like when I actually liked him

A few years in, once we both went to the same college. We are both slow to warm up Virgos.

lauram730 · February 2011

That's a tough question - H and I have been together since my junior year in high school...1997...he was a senior...not in the same high school. We did long-distance for three years during college...moved in together about 1.5 years later...got engaged another two years after that...married the following year...it was a loooong process, but we were young when we met and were just in no rush. Even now, we've been married almost three years and, after moving, we're still figuring out our careers and when to buy a house and start a family. We'll catch up some day, I imagine

We broke up once in college, for a whopping three weeks, and I was a wreck...I think I knew, for sure, when we got back together that we were meant to be together.

MA&CB · February 2011

I knew within the first month. I remember thinking that if he had asked me in that first month, I would have said yes as crazy as it seems. I had never had that thought with anyone before, never been in a relationship with someone that I wanted to marry at the end of it. We have been living together since month 2. Before we met he was not sure that he ever wanted to get married or have kids, but he was pretty sure he wanted to be with me for the longterm. I made it clear that I did want those things, and at some point gave him a timeline for how long I was willing to wait for him to figure out if he wanted them too. He did warm up to both ideas thankfully, and we got engaged after we were together two years. We've been together 7 now and married 5 in April.

MrsSweetpeaMagee · February 2011

We were engaged after about 3 months but did not get married until almost 3 years later.

Glitzyklm · February 2011

We both knew right away, however knowing and admitting are were two different things There was just something different about our relationship from the start.

We dated for three and a half years before we were engaged, we were engaged 18 months and have been married two and a half years.

chayer227 · February 2011

I knew the very first time I met him (even though we didn't really talk, it was an orientation for a summer job) that there was something about him... I was in a long-term dead-end relationship, and living with the guy. DH and I became close very quickly while we worked at a rec camp together, and while I was living with my ex-bf - awkward. DH made me realize that I wasn't living life, I was just going through the motions. This made me more aware of how dead-end my relationship was, and I broke it off with the ex, but continued to live in the other bedroom of the apartment, since I had no place else to go.

DH and I started officially dating July 4th, 2003. I moved into his place (his parents house on York Beach) in late August/early September that year. He didn't propose until July 4th, 2008 (our 5th anniversary), but I had been waiting for it since before the summer of `05, since we had talked about getting married that quickly. I just checked, I joined TheKnot on 11/25/03!!! So clearly, I "knew" loooooong before he did. Hmm

Mrs. DCB-F · February 2011

I'm with lauram730. High School was young to be saying "I'm going to marry this guy" BUT we did know early. That's why we stuck it out I guess! We're going on 12 years this spring! Holy crap!

MaineIslandBride · February 2011

We were together 8 years before we got engaged. (on and off for the first few months). I can't really pinpoint when I knew we would end up getting married...just kind of happened I guess. He is 3 years younger than me, so it took him a little longer to get to the point of wanting to get married.

CopperDog39 · February 2011

When we first dated we were 19 and neither of us were ready for a serious relationship...fast forward 7 years and we found each other again...and both said that we just knew we were supposed to be together-once we got together I knew I wanted to marry him. We started talking about it right away, but it was 7 months before he asked.

Mrs.ErikaMay · February 2011

I'll tell you that I didn't know for sure when I met him the summer of '94 when I was not quite 16!

I always knew he was a great guy, and we dated for a few years of high school (although we too went to different schools in different towns) and on and off in college. I did know pretty early that he was my best friend.

So when we broke up "for good" in '97 at the start of my sophomore year, we were still really close. We'd hang out and although there was NEVER anything more than a hug between us, we had a strong connection.

We graduated in 2000 and in 2001 I just felt weird about the relationship. When I would think about my future, and about the major milestones- wedding, children, career triumphs, death of loved ones- I always knew I wanted him around, but the notion of him not being front and center was strange. And I couldn't have him right there in the forefront while married to someone else.

So I asked him out on a date and made a mental decision that we were either going to be married or I'd have to cut off the friendship forever because it was too emotionally charged to be "normal."

We dated for a year and it was clear it was a forever type of thing. He took a while to propose- finally got there the day after Xmas '03!- and we were married in Oct '05. So I guess it took us a little under a decade!!!

maeghan21 · February 2011

Mine is kind of funny since I've never been a romantic etc. but,

I was smitten with him after our World Series blind date. When I flew up to Maine to visit him a month later for his Christmas party I was pretty sure he was the one and the next vacation up here in Feb when I spent 3 weeks here that was it. I knew. DH's answer to this though is "she knew when I asked" :P

katsblaze · February 2011

My Story is similar to CopperDog. DH and I dated about 18 years ago, (fresh out of high school) for a couple of years. We were young and didn't know any better.

We had been at the same places throughout the years, but always in other relationships. We both had ended serious long term relationships. Found each other again, starting hanging out, and about 6 months after that we knew. We were engaged just under a year before getting married.

tripin · February 2011

Pretty much immediately.

I think it took us two weeks of going out before we were practically inseparable. We moved in after going out for 6 months and we spent a good 2 or so months planning that. So I knew.

Now, MH decided that although he knew, we would NOT be getting married anytime soon and made me wait 3 years to get engaged. And he sticks by it to this day that was the right time.

SBTibbs · February 2011

We started dating when I was a senior and he was a junior in high school. We did the long distance thing for 6 years while I was in college and grad school. We got engaged during my last year of grad school, moved in together after graduation and and got married that summer. So, I would say I knew during the first year of long distance, when even though it sucked it was still worth it.

mjellison81 · February 2011

I pretty much knew right after we met, but it was solidified after we spent four months living on 35 ft. sailboat in the Caribbean with no electricity, plumbing or conveience whatsoever. We didn't kill eachother then, so I figured we could get through pretty much anything together. We were engaged about 3 months after that, and married just shy of two years later.

mesa81 · February 2011

I remember looking in his fridge at one of my first visits to his apartment, seeing his food selections and thinking "I think this could work" (he had skim milk, whole wheat bread and teddy peanut butter). I had just got out of a relationship with a guy that ate fast food twice a day though... so anything looked promising. I don't remember having a moment where I was like "wow, I am so going to marry this guy"... but little things thru the first few months made me feel like we belonged together.

CopperDog39 · February 2011

mjellison81:
I pretty much knew right after we met, but it was solidified after we spent four months living on 35 ft. sailboat in the Caribbean with no electricity, plumbing or conveience whatsoever. We didn't kill eachother then, so I figured we could get through pretty much anything together. We were engaged about 3 months after that, and married just shy of two years later.

I love this!!

mjellison81 · February 2011

CopperDog39:
mjellison81:

I pretty much knew right after we met, but it was solidified after we spent four months living on 35 ft. sailboat in the Caribbean with no electricity, plumbing or conveience whatsoever. We didn't kill eachother then, so I figured we could get through pretty much anything together. We were engaged about 3 months after that, and married just shy of two years later.

I love this!!

Thanks! Never a dull moment Wink

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