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Do/will you kiss your children on the mouth?
This is a hot topic that has come up in our house recently and I?m curious what other?s opinions are.
Do/will you kiss your children on the mouth? I?m curious if you think this is acceptable or not.
If so, is it only acceptable up to a certain age?
What are your feelings about your husband kissing the kids?
Does it make a difference whether it is a son or daughter?
Personally, my parents never kissed me on the mouth. However, I will admit that when I see a young child kiss their parent I think it is very endearing. On the other hand, I?ve seen some grown up kids kiss their parents on the mouth and get a little weirded out.
What other ways do/will you show physical affection to your children?
Opinions please!
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Re: Do/will you kiss your children on the mouth?
I don't think it's inappropriate. If others have negative feelings about the matter, then they needn't watch when I kiss my children. I will kiss my children on the mouth, as I kiss my nephews on the mouth. Hell, my Mom still kisses me on the mouth. It's not like we're using tongue, it's not a big deal.
My Dad doesn't kiss us on the mouth, and I think he never has. I never really noticed.
Have you ever seen Eat Pray Love? This reminded me of the guy n it who has ALWAYS kissed his sons on the mouth. Of course it's a different culture.
I wont kiss me children on the mouth. Although it never bothers me to see parents do that to their babies, it creeps me out when you have an older kid and you do that.
I do however love hugs, lovelovelove them. and I think a kiss on the forehead or cheek is okay too. So that is probably how I will show affection for my children.
With babies/young kids, I take what I can get, cheek or mouth (germs included I guess
With adults (parents, relatives, friends; guys or gals) I guess I'm one of those 'just off to the side of the mouth'.
All of this exactly!
I kiss my niece (8) and nephew (5) on the mouth still, I think maybe at some age they may outgrow this. But honestly this is not something I have ever really thought about.
I don't have a problem with kissing my nieces on the mouth, so I'm sure I'll do it with my kids too.
I have a friend (we're both almost 36) and she kisses her dad/uncle/cousins on the mouth. That, I think, is creepy. I ALWAYS turn my cheek when I greet members of her family!
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. She on the other hand does give HUGE mouth kisses which I love drool and all..lol
That being said we are both very huggy and kissy with L. I kiss her quite a bit but it tends to be more on the cheek or anywhere really other than her mouth, maybe when she is less drooly and snotty I will kiss her more on the mouth
I think its cute when kids give kisses and will probably be sad when she does decide that shes had enough.
As far as being an adult and kissing my family on the mouth I am on the to each their own side. It does weird me out BUT thats only because its something thats out of the norm for me and has nothing to do with whoever does it.
This.
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I kiss both my nieces on the mouth. One turns three next week, the other turns one next month. I think kissing adult family members on the mouth is a different issue. But little kids don't put that kind of thought into it. When my older niece wants to kiss someone, she swoops in & goes for it. This picture from my bridal shower is a good example.
She's super affectionate with everyone though. She kisses other preschoolers goodbye. Cracks me up. If & when she grows out of it, I won't push it. But at her age, it's cute.
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At 24 I still kiss both of my parents on the mouth. I don't really think anything of it, it's just how it's always been.
Now, when my uncle once tried to kiss my mom on the mouth, that was different. Later my whole immediately family discussed how awkward that was.
But, yes, I'll kiss my kids on the mouth. Like Laura said, it's just a quick peck and nothing more.
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In my family we tend to kiss children on the mouth. Older family members tend to continue to do it. My Aunt kissed me on the mouth on my wedding day. My mom and dad still do sometimes too. I usually never initiate kissing on the mouth.
What bothers me more is the kiss kiss to the side that Pete's family does. In my family we hug first and the kiss ends it. In Pete's family they "embrace" the side kissing is part of the hug. It just seems to take more coordination.
If it bugs people, it bugs people, but better to show some affection to your children no matter how you do it.
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I think the mouth kiss is only sexual if someone puts that connotation on it. I feel that mouth kiss=/=sexual. Which is good, because my mom and I mouth kiss. I also mouth kiss a few of my friends (the coined phrase is "Jena's bringing back the mouth kiss"). I think the American culture scandalizes so many things that are the norm in other parts of the world. So I will probably kiss our children on the mouth until they don't want me to (which I hope won't be the product of someone making them feel like it's dirty, and instead just some form of adolescent revolt).
My mom wasn't very affectionate with me growing up (hers wasn't with her), I think it's something she consciously decided to do (initiate more snuggles) later in my life. I think I've always been overly affectionate with others in compensation.
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This.
I grew up not kissing my mom or dad on the lips. We were affectionate (hugging and saying I Love You), but not kissing (though now it's on the cheek).
Honestly, it does weird me out a little, but I think that's just because how I grew up. DH still kisses his mom on the lips, and though I've never said anything, I am slightly weirded out.
That being said, though, I don't know what I'll do with our own children. I'm not against it persay, but we'll have to wait and see what makes me comfortable.
My family generally doesn't kiss at all, and if they do, it's on the cheek. My family is big on hugs for affection though. Now my mom will give me a hug and a kiss on the cheek when she says hello/goodbye to me, but she used to only give hugs. I'm pretty sure she started giving me kisses after she noticed my now MIL gives me kisses on the cheek every time she sees me, haha.
I've noticed New Yorkers are big on kisses on the cheek for hellos/goodbyes. I kiss my friends hello and goodbye on the cheek, and Jon's family always kisses everybody on the cheek. I think the only person I should be kissing on the lips/should be kissing me on the lips is my husband. Although, if our kids want to, I certainly wouldn't ban them from lip kissing, I'd just try to redirect them to cheek/forehead/etc. I think lip kisses are cute when they're from/to little kids, but anything over the age of 5 or so seems a little weird to me, since I didn't grow up in a culture where that is acceptable behavior.
Here's a funny picture from our wedding ceremony, during the Sign of Peace. My mom and I pretty much accidentally brushed lips when giving each other a kiss. Love this pic though!
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I have not seen Eat, Pray, Love. It's on my list though.
I find it really interesting to read all the responses though. It's not something we thought much about until recently. It seems like it really depends on how one was raised and what their parents did with them. Thanks for all the feedback!
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I am SURE I am in need of therapy for having this answer, but kissing on the mouth is NOT my favorite thing... even with Keith (<small voice> for some reason I feel ashamed to even type that!)
My mom's side of the family ALWAYS kissed on the mouth and it always kinda grossed me out. Old people saliva and baby saliva just gross me out in general. So I am pretty sure me and my kids will be cheek kissers.
With my mom, she kisses me on the cheek (which is my choice - I am sure she would rather mouth kiss, actually, as that's what she grew up with). With my dad, we just kind of touch cheeks and make a kiss noise, like we're fancy people. LMAO
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