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a petty WWYD question ...

Our neighbor 2 houses down is a mortgage broker. I have never met him, I've only met his wife.

He took all the email addresses off our neighborhood contact list and added them to his weekly update email list (info on what's happening with the housing market, interest rates, etc.). The messages always end with "As always, thank you for your client referrals and should you have any home financing questions or needs, don?t hesitate to email or to call me direct to discuss."

We are not interested in refinancing (we just refinanced in November), and there's no way I'm going to refer anyone to him since I've never even met him. 

Would you just continue to delete the messages each week and be annoyed, or reply and ask to be taken off the email list?

I don't want to be unfriendly, and get off on the wrong foot with a neighbor I haven't even met yet. But on the other hand, I have no need for his business services and don't appreciate being spammed.

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Re: a petty WWYD question ...

  • I would email and ask to be removed and ask how he got your email address in the first place.

    RUDE!

  • Hell yes I would reply.  That is horribly rude and presumptuous of him.  I would try to be as nice as possible (ha) and say that it is quite distasteful to take advantage of neighborhood communication to try and further his business.
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  • yes its rude, and I'd email to get removed...is there an unsubscribe link in the newsletter?  Then you could do it and be anonymous???
  • I ran into a similar situation with a former college classmate now realtor.  He clearly mined our alumni database for addresses of classmates in the area and started sending me and my roommate (also an alum) mail.  The ONLY way he'd know where I lived is from that database.  I called him to get off his mailing list (he was kind of a tool anyway) and I called the school to report the abuse of the database.  The purpose of that list (and our alumni info) is to make your contact info available for people to reach you for neighborhood/area specific topics, not to drum up business.  Perhaps at your next neighborhood association meeting or what have you, you can bring up how that information is to be used to prevent further marketing. 
  • imageJanell's Nest:
    yes its rude, and I'd email to get removed...is there an unsubscribe link in the newsletter?  Then you could do it and be anonymous???

    Unfortunately, there is not. Otherwise I would have done it after the first email!

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  • It's one thing if you purposely opt in to a weekly e-mail but if he is spamming the whole neighborhood with unsolicited garbage I would most definitely ask to be removed.  And WEEKLY e-mails?  Ugh.  Annoying and rude!  Just say, "Please remove me from your e-mailing list.  Thanks."  Keep it simple. 
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  • I think a nice way to respond would be to send an e-mail, thank him for the information and let him know that you're kept a copy for future use. And that due to the abundance of e-mail that you receive on a daily basis you're trying to limit your in coming e-mail and would like to be removed from his mailing list.

    If he persists, can you mark him as spam so that you never see the e-mail?

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  • I would reply, otherwise I have noticed most of those are done through a service. Is there an unsubscribe at the bottom in tiny print, I would do this if there was an option.
  • imageMrsKizdoodle:
    It's one thing if you purposely opt in to a weekly e-mail but if he is spamming the whole neighborhood with unsolicited garbage I would most definitely ask to be removed.  And WEEKLY e-mails?  Ugh.  Annoying and rude!  Just say, "Please remove me from your e-mailing list.  Thanks."  Keep it simple. 

    This.  And I would bring it up to the neighborhood association.  I'm sure you're not the only one that's annoyed.

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    imageMrsKizdoodle:
    It's one thing if you purposely opt in to a weekly e-mail but if he is spamming the whole neighborhood with unsolicited garbage I would most definitely ask to be removed.  And WEEKLY e-mails?  Ugh.  Annoying and rude!  Just say, "Please remove me from your e-mailing list.  Thanks."  Keep it simple. 

    This.  And I would bring it up to the neighborhood association.  I'm sure you're not the only one that's annoyed.

    This. And I'd totally mark it as spam!

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  • *I* am techie so *I* would tell him to take you off his list and gently let him know it's actually illegal to put people on elists without their permission.

    Then I'd tell him to individual email everyone, ask them to OPT IN, and tell him to use mailchimp.com which gives him 2,000 emails free, with spams-safety and unsubscribe options.

    ;-) 

  • imageElizabethD:

    *I* am techie so *I* would tell him to take you off his list and gently let him know it's actually illegal to put people on elists without their permission.

    Then I'd tell him to individual email everyone, ask them to OPT IN, and tell him to use mailchimp.com which gives him 2,000 emails free, with spams-safety and unsubscribe options.

    ;-) 

    I thought it was illegal.  We have to specifically ask our clients if they would like to recieve emails when we ask for their address.  I would just email him and ask to be removed.  Hopefully he won't ignore you.

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  • meh, I'd probably just continue to delete on a weekly basis.  I get so much junk, what's one more?
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  • To further clarify, the neighborhood contact list he got my email from wasn't put together by a home owners association, it was just one of the neighbors who thought it would be nice to have such a list so she put it together and distributed to everyone in our neighborhood (about 20 houses). 

    Since everyone's responses here tell me that I'm not alone in thinking this kind of thing is annoying, I think I'll ask him to take me off the list (as nicely as I can) and suggest that in the future, he ask permission before he adds new people to his list.

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  • imagembgreenwalt:
    imageElizabethD:

    *I* am techie so *I* would tell him to take you off his list and gently let him know it's actually illegal to put people on elists without their permission.

    Then I'd tell him to individual email everyone, ask them to OPT IN, and tell him to use mailchimp.com which gives him 2,000 emails free, with spams-safety and unsubscribe options.

    ;-) 

    I thought it was illegal.  We have to specifically ask our clients if they would like to recieve emails when we ask for their address.  I would just email him and ask to be removed.  Hopefully he won't ignore you.

    This. He has to be able to provide documentation to prove that their was either a previous business relationship or that the person specifically opted in or he is breaking the law. Also, I believe it there is an anti-spam law that requires them to provide an unsubscribe option or instructions on how to be removed from the list. 

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