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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
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I did it
Well, it was a long time coming but I finally did it. I took my son and left. He's been blowing up my phone with text messages ever since. I left him a note telling him that I am afraid of him and I can't live like that anymore and I refuse to allow our son to grow up thinking its ok to treat people the way I have been treated. I know a note is a little cold but it was the only way I could hope to say what I needed to. I spent a lot of yesterday feeling guilty for giving up.
But today I'm seeing a little bit of light. Maybe tomorrow it will be even better.
Re: I did it
I'm glad you left, but please either seek legal counsel or go to a domestic violence shelter or your county DV agent. Taking your son, abandoning your home, etc. may mean giving up certain rights, and you also want to protect your joint marital assets before your H drains your accounts. If you talk to a lawyer, at least mechanisms can be put in place to protect you.
I know it's hard, but I would think you heaved a sigh of relief when you pulled out of that driveway. That relationship is toxic to both you and your son. I hope you have some friends/family to support you emotionally.
Keep thinking of yourself and your son first... that can only guide you in a positive way.
I talked to the DV shelter and they have a free legal clinic next Tuesday that I'm going to attend. They also suggested a temporary protection order for myself and DS. I tried to get one yesterday but I got to the courthouse too late.
Sara, Friend?
glove slap. I don't take crap.
Good for you and GL with all the legal aspects.
You are so brave! You took a giant step and people you don't even know are rooting for you. The more steps you take toward a better life for yourself and child the stronger you will feel. He has made you feel powerless for so long. Good luck and get that legal advice asap.
You are so brave & so much stronger than you know. You have already taken the biggest step.
I responded to your PM the other day, my email is in it and I am happy to give you my # if you need a friendly but anonymous person to listen.
You will get through this and your life and your son's life will be so much better for it.
"Don't marry a man unless you would be PROUD to have a son exactly like him." ~ Unknown
Jim & Kristen ~ August 19, 2006
I just also wanted to state, even though it is probably obvious, you can always come back here for support too.... just to vent or talk or whatever....
You are a BRAVE STRONG woman.... and you CAN DO THIS.
Sara, Friend?
glove slap. I don't take crap.
I'm usually a bit of a lurker on these boards, but I just HAD to post to say that you should be very proud of yourself. It surely took a lot of courage to leave, and you seem to be taking the right steps to move on.
Be strong in the coming months - you're right when you say he's just being nice to serve his own purpose. You can definitely build a better life for yourself and your son - think of how proud of you your son will be when he grows up!
ditto this...especially the bolded part...