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Back from TB :(

Hey ladies! I haven't been posting here much because I was over lurking more and posting a bit on TB. I found out on 1/2 that I was pregnant and had my first appointment and u/s pm 1/18. That day wasn't fun because there was an ice storm and I got into a fender bender on the way there. They did an ultrasound and heard, but didn't see a heartbeat, which they said was normal because I was only a little over 6 weeks pregnant. Last week I went for my second appointment and they brought me in for the u/s first. There was no heartbeat. I was heartbroken and sat alone in a room waiting for the doctor to talk to me. After about 20 minutes the doctor came in and was obviously uncomfortable by my crying because she stared at me for a few minutes before saying a word, then suggested that I come back later because I was clearly upset. I told her that this wasn't a therapy session, where silence is appreciated, I wanted to discuss my options to try my best to get past this unfortunate situation. I went for a D&C on Thursday and was pretty much in a funk the whole weekend. Physically I feel ok, but emotionally I am still pretty much on a roller coaster. I posted a little on the loss boards over there, but reading some of the stories just makes me cry more. So, here I am back over here looking to regain some normalcy again. Thanks for listening.
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  • Denise- I am so sorry. I know that words don't touch how you are feeling, we are all here for you. Lots of hugs!
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  • Oh honey, I'm so sorry!! Lots of women in my family have gone through this too, but still had successful pregnancies later on. I'm praying for peace for you and  just know you are not alone. *hugs*
  • Denise - Wow, I can only imagine your pain.  My sister had a miscarriage a couple of months ago and comforted herself by knowing that so many women go through this, and then they go on to have happy, healthy babies with future pregnancies.  Still, that doesn't make the loss any easier.  I am so sorry.  Glad that you are back here.  Just wish it were under better circumstances.

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  • I'm very sorry Denise.  Both for your loss and for the way the doc suggested you come back later as if there is ever a great time to talk about something so devastating.  You are welcome here with open arms!  Lots of prayers your way!

     

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    there's a whole bunch of listening ears and open arms over here.  I'm so sorry, darling.  


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  • So sorry for your loss Denise.
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  • Left Hug Oh Denise I am so so sorry.
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  • I'm so sorry for your loss, Denise. Please know we are all here to listen anytime.

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  • Oh Denise!! My heart breaks for you and YH.  This is definitely one of my biggest fears.  I'm so sorry for your loss and will keep you in my prayers.  Best of luck and definitely feel free to post your frustrations/sadness/feelings, etc here.  We're all here to listen and all support you!!
  • Thanks everyone. Right now I just have so many emotions...sadness, anger, frustration, disappointment. I am just at a loss. I know we will be able to try again, but it just hurts. Thanks for all your support and listening.
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  • I'm so sorry to hear that.  You are definitely in my thoughts and prayers.  We're always here for you if you need to get something out.

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  • Oh, I'm so sorry, Denise. Be sure to take care of yourself during this difficult time, and I wish you and your husband all the best.
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  • Oh Denise I am so, so sorry for your loss!! Like PP said be sure to take care of yourself and please let us know if we can do anything. We are hear with open arms and ears.  Left Hug   
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  • I'm so sorry for your loss Denise!  Keeping you and your husband in my thoughts and prayers. <3
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    Oh honey, I'm so sorry!! Lots of women in my family have gone through this too, but still had successful pregnancies later on. I'm praying for peace for you and  just know you are not alone. *hugs*

    This.  As all have stated, we're here for you, and will do what we can.  I also think it's time to find a new doctor's office :(  I understand that doctors can't get emotionally involved with everyone, but you don't need to be involved to be sympathetic, or at least even a human being.  

    T&Ps headed your way. 

  • I am SO sorry Denise! Let us know if you need anything and our T&P are on your way :)
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  • So sorry for your loss. You are in my T&P's. Feel free to use us as a distraction any time. I will post something overly ridiculous for you so that maybe you can smile a little. We're here for you.
  • I am so sorry for your loss, Denise.  You're in my T&Ps.
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    imagegingern:
    Oh honey, I'm so sorry!! Lots of women in my family have gone through this too, but still had successful pregnancies later on. I'm praying for peace for you and  just know you are not alone. *hugs*

    This.  As all have stated, we're here for you, and will do what we can.  I also think it's time to find a new doctor's office :(  I understand that doctors can't get emotionally involved with everyone, but you don't need to be involved to be sympathetic, or at least even a human being.  

    T&Ps headed your way. 

    I agree with this statement. Your Dr should have had a lot more tact. 

    I am so sorry for your loss and now you must be on such an emotional rollercoaster. I wish you the best. On another note, glad to have you back, though I wish it was under happier circumstances. 

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  • T&Ps for you both. I highly doubt I could say anything that would make it better so just know that we're all here for you and I'll be thinking of you. *hugs*
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  • I'm so sorry.  I can't even imagine what you're going through, but like everyone else said, feel free to talk about it (or anything!) on here any time, even if just to vent.

    You and your husband will be in my prayers.

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  • I am so sorry to hear about your loss. I can't imagine what you are going through. You and your husband will be in my thoughts and prayers!
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  • I am so so sorry. Hang in there.
  • Oh Denise, I am so very sorry to hear this. I was excited to see your return, but certainly not under these circumstances. Sending thoughts and prayers to you and your husband during this difficult time. I know it doesn't make anything better right now, but many women have survived this and have healthy children, and you guys will too. Everything does happen for a reason, as cliche as that may sound. Find the strength from this experience, we are all here for you. Best of luck to you. Hope to see you around more.
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