I just wanted to say thank you to all the ladies that replied to my post yesterday. I didn't get a chance to read all of them until now. I wrote the post yesterday before leaving work and I just had this dark cloud over me. DH knew there was something wrong, but I just couldn't get it into words. It has really helped to read your responses.
When the time feels right for me to meet Kathy, I know I will know. I just get scared. One poster said that she was annoyed that my Dad told me that he was thinking about making Kathy his benefactor. This scares me because my Dad continues to make really poor life choices regarding his health. I worry that he will die and Kathy will be there. Maybe they're married, or maybe she just thinks she knows what he wants, and maybe she does, but I would hate for that to be the first time I meet her.
My DH has been such a rock through all of this and I'm very blessed for that fact. He said he will meet Kathy whenever I'm ready. He has continued to be cordial to my Dad even though I know he really doesn't have a lot of respect for him as a man. But DH is the one that does most of the talking when we meet with my Dad because he's just a talker. DH keeps things moving and we don't have these awkward silences where I sometimes feel the urge to scream at my Dad.
Anyway, thank you ladies. I really appreciate your responses ![]()
Link to old post:
http://community.thenest.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/48922062.aspx
Re: F/U on Meeting Dad's Girlfriend
I'm really glad that you have a loving supportive DH to help you through this area of your life...
And where I did think it was odd that your dad should name this woman his Benefactor and not his children, it is his decision.... and from what you say about his poor choices in the past, this shouldn't come as a surprise.... anyway.....
Live your Life with your wonderful husband... and don't let this dark cloud settle. When you are ready... you are ready... and not a moment sooner.
Best of Luck to you
Sara, Friend?
glove slap. I don't take crap.
That was a wonderful, thought-out response. Couldn't have said it better.