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DH has trouble............finishing
I am new to post here and not sure what all is acceptable to say. I am really going crazy about this. I feel like a bad wife and women in general. We have sex just fine but DH can't ever finish. This is even true if I do a BJ. He says its not me but of course that doesn't make me feel any better. This is a new problem and has not always been the case. I do kegels, have read a ton of articles on new things to try....ways to make hot...etc. I'm getting worried that he has something negative to say to me but is too nice to say it.
Has anyone ever been in this situation? Thanks for listening.
Re: DH has trouble............finishing
Yep, we've had this same issue. I don't really have any advice because I've never really found a solution. It seems like it's gotten somewhat better, but it still happend occassionally. While I'd never let him know, it's killed my self- esteem. I can't help but think that it must be me.
Good luck and I hope you find some resolution!
If he's not excessively masturbating, (se above pp post) he needs to see a doc.
Complete physical -- he also needs to see a urologist.
Rulingout anything organically wrong it is probably psychological. See a sex therapist in his case.
Is it every time, or just occasionally? My husband has issues with delayed ejaculation; he always has, but it's an occasional thing. Just like sometimes I can't orgasm, neither can he.
I second the posters who suggested he see a doctor to rule out any physical issues, and yes, not masturbating will help a great deal. But this might just be something that happens, and has nothing to do with you. I wouldn't let it affect you like it does. Is he still interested in sex? In foreplay? In pleasing you? If so, it isn't you.
First and foremost. Do not panic, worry, blame yourself or become anxious.
Has this problem always occured, gradually appeared or suddenly arisen ?
Do you have big O's ?
DH's age? A 35 yr old man has only a mere shadow of the drive he had at age 15.
My DH had an issue with that and still sorta does. We found that building anticipation really works well. So we don't have sex as often as either of us would like, but it helps a lot. It still hurts my confidence, but I can only try and be understanding (which can suck sometimes).