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Why don't they talk to each other? ?I have to tag/title my car in Oregon while living in Colorado and purchasing from Arizona. ?It sounds complicated, but really, it isn't.
Oregon wants me to prove I'm a resident. ?A copy of my OR driver's license won't work. ?So, how about a voter registration card? ?Well, they never gave me one. ?If I can look it up in 10 seconds online to show that, yes, I'm registered and actively voting, then why can't the DMV? ?Why do I have to somehow get all these documents from H to prove my residency when you have databases that prove I'm a resident?
The woman suggested I get a copy of a utility bill with my name on it. ?Um, what part of resident but military living elsewhere don't you understand? ??Their website has a separate whole section for military so I know they regularly deal with the issue of non-resident residents. ?It's not exactly a new situation.
Grrrr. ?Thank goodness Arizona gave me a 3 month temp tag.?
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I really don't know. The DMV and voter registration are connected here, but I don't think they can search the databases of one to prove the other. I think, in the end, it protects your privacy. For instance, I have to pay and lug around a copy of my marriage certificate, and take it to the DMV. Even though the marriage licensing is state-run, they're not connected. I realize the hassle, but I prefer it this way. I absolutely despise that the first thing everyone asks me is my SSN, like that's how its supposed to be used, as a way to call up random property tax records. But I appreciate that they haven't linked all of the state-wide dbs together by it.
Incidentally, I always wondered-how do you prove residency without being a resident? There isn't any reciprocity agreement with DoD?
It's particularly ridiculous because OR has a website where you can type in your birthday, name, and zip code, and it tells you if you're a registered voter. ?So, if that's a public website, and I have to provide that info for my tag, then they are perfectly able to type it in themselves. ?Besides, if I register to vote when I get my license, and I've done that now in 4 states, they obviously have access to both records.
As for proving residency when you're in the military, veryone in the military has a Home of Record. ?It's usually where they lived when they joined, but you can apply to change it along the way so long as you plan to return to that state when you separate. ?You pay state taxes where your HoR is which is really the final proof.?
When I established residency in OR, we did run into a bit of a hassle. ?Theoretically another resident can sign a form to confirm that you live with them (since couples don't always have utilities in both names). ?But H had been out of state so long that he had to reapply. ?So, we had to get a copy of his paystub which shows he pays state income taxes for OR. ?Then he could verify me.
In general, you can bring in a letter addressed to you at that address or a utility bill. ?Although, I don't remember having to do that in other states where I've gotten licenses. ?I just remember putting my address down without proving I really lived there.?