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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
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Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Hi Everyone!!
So I'm back! Sorry for the hiatus. I left my job and currently focusing on finishing the novel edits in hopes of making that my career. I guess some of us just aren't meant for the office world, huh?
How is everyone? Anything new going on?
DH and I rescued a 9 month old lab/Weimaraner mix puppy who we named Bailey. Actually, DH rescued her while I was away in Raleigh, but I adore her!
Re: Hi Everyone!!
Wow. I don't think I'd be letting my husband get away with that. Yours doesn't seem to have much respect for you or your marriage. He completely changed the agreement you two had regarding his work, without even consulting you, and then he goes and adopts a dog without your permission while you're away from home. I'd be nipping that disrespect in the bud pretty quickly, or your life is going to be a nightmare in the future. He'll buy a house without your consent, open/close a business without your input, spend money without your permission, etc. You're teaching him that this will be tolerated and allowed by you, so I guess he doesn't really have any incentive to stop.
I hope things turn around for you.
Wow, you're mighty opinionated, aren't you? That'll teach someone to hang around here. Adios!
The truth can hurt. Nothing I said was mean or untrue, so maybe you should just think about it.
just because YOU see it as disrespect doesn't mean she does.
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Of course that is true.
duh
i know you don't mean things at attacking usually, but sometimes the stuff you say comes off that way, like you're trying to force your views of what a healthy relationship is onto other people...just because something is right for you, doesn't mean it's right for everyone. saying she's teaching him that something is "tolerated" or "allowed" wouldn't really make her any better than the husband's so called "disrespect".
just because her DH rescued a dog doesn't mean he's going to go on a spending spree and put them in ruin. if it was my husband, and he knew something bad was going to happen to the dog if he DIDN'T bring it home, i'd rather him save it without checking with me than not. we'd find a way to either make it work...or find him a good home, and keep him until we could.
don't forget sometimes our previous experiences color our world in different ways than other people.
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I was referring more to a general lack of respect. I'm too busy to dig it up now, but there was a post under her old user name where she ranted about a lot of things in her marriage, like her husband unilaterally deciding that he was not going to work anymore, but try to create a start up business, even though prior to marriage they had agreed on a different plan. There were some other issues too that I can't remember, but I think anyone can agree that those actions, plus adopting a dog without permission is a relationship red flag. Several nesties advised her that marriage counseling was a good idea to nip this in the bud, and she even agreed.
Based on her FB post, it did not sound like the dog was found wandering and starving on the side of the road, but rather that it had been adopted from some place. She seemed kind of outraged then, and even her comment above seemed a bit annoyed (as she should be). Making a spur of the moment decision to save the dog's life is very different from making a deliberate choice to take on a huge financial, emotional, and time committment without discussing it with her first. I think just about anyone can agree that that's disrespectful, and it can lead to a slippery slope. Just read posts on Family Matters, TIP or those boards to see how women look back and regret not taking a firm stand when these things happened early on in a relationship.
Hell, my BF and I are not married, and we do not make ANY large decisions without consulting each other and getting the other's approval first. We know that we will be married one day so the choices we make now will affect the other in the future. I cannot even fathom bringing home a dog without him giving me the okay, even though he doesn't even live with me. It's just basic love and respect.
Either way, it's obviously none of my business, although when you put your personal business out there, it's an invitation to others to comment on it. The OP is free to ignore my (kindly meant) advice and do whatever she wants, of course.
I tried to find the old post but I can't.
our friends have a wien, and we took bojangles over there when he was little...he was so scared, he peed. poor peyton didn't know why he didn't want to be friends.
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This! Come back!