January 2010 Weddings
"Always love. Don't wail til the finish line."-Nada Surf
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So Not Ready for The Bump
Yikes, just got eaten alive on one of the message boards over at The Bump...I think I'll stay here where it's safe and warm...
"Always love. Don't wail til the finish line."-Nada Surf
Re: So Not Ready for The Bump
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[Nest, why are you so slow today?]
On a side note, I did click on your baby name list and discovered I could vote on everyone's lists. I love the trend in vintage baby names, particularly Evelynn which is on your list, too. Too bad I'm destined to have only boys
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You completely deserved that flaming. Your post was ridiculous.
And also? Is this your first post on this board? Were you married in Jan 2010?
This whole thing is just kinda...weird.
BFP 02/2010 m/c 03/17/2010 dx PCOS 04/2010
BFP 08/13/2011 CP 08/15/2011
BFP 09/16/2011 EDD 05/20/2012
Claire Elizabeth, born 5/30 via a med free birth
An into for Da? She used to post on TK before the weddings.
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oh sh!t, that's so long ago in message board history that I don't remember. Can I get another one? lol
Yup, I agree with this. I really don't remember many that posted on TK...
BFP 02/2010 m/c 03/17/2010 dx PCOS 04/2010
BFP 08/13/2011 CP 08/15/2011
BFP 09/16/2011 EDD 05/20/2012
Claire Elizabeth, born 5/30 via a med free birth
No one remembers Da? Though, I can't remember her posting since the wedding. It's been a year, I don't remember who posted here in the beginning.
Da, I'm not trying to flame you but here's what I think:
As for the Valentine's thread, I don't see why him asking what you want to do on VDay when you brought it up is such a bad thing. I read the whole thread and it kind of confused me. Flame worthy, yes, but I hate when they pull out the "I feel sorry for your H" lines.
And it's not a Hallmark Holiday, Hallmark has never invented its own holiday solely for profit. If their line has grown over the years for Valentine's Day it's because it sells. If they know they can sell it they will make it, which means there is a market for all that stuff. Sorry, for some reason I'm a fierce Hallmark advocate.
And the Glob thread, I found that too and was surprised you weren't more flamed for that. Your form of birth control was for your H to pull out THEN put a condom on and then finish? That does nothing, he should have been wearing the condom from the start.
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I remember Da from the knot...
...I'm also not trying to flame you, but I don't really know what you were trying to accomplish with that post. Are you a regular on that board? If you are mostly a lurker, that probably explains a lot of the responses. (I haven't read the whole post).
I've always hated valentines day, and DH has even put together some pretty nice ones over the years. However, I feel like its kind of stupid to have one day where you're supposed to show your SO that you love them. Sure, it's fun to get a little bit of candy, and maybe go out to eat, but we probably would have gone out that week anyways.
I know how you feel, though, about the whole anniversary thing. Once, DH totally forgot about my birthday, and what hurt most is that he didn't even think to get me a card.
I guess your post makes it seem like you're looking for gifts, which might also get some sideeyes
aannndddd i just suffered through the 3 pages of that thread. it wasn't even entertaining enough to warrant 3 pages. ugh.
i'm not totally against what they said to you. you came off as bratty and greedy. you knew who your DH was when you married him. did you think that by marrying him he was going to all of a sudden become super romantic?
fwiw-my DH doesn't plan anything. sometimes it irks me, but it isn't exactly the end of the world. typically we decide together what to do for birthdays/holidays/etc. our anniversary was spent curled up watching tv. for valentines day i insist we go ice skating at an outdoor rink, because that is what we did a few years ago and it was really nice and seemed like a good tradition to keep. that way we don't have to figure out what to do every year. my DH just doesn't plan things, that's not him, and i wouldn't want him any other way. i knew what i was getting in to when i married him and would never sit around and complain about it. if it were that big of a deal, then i wouldn't have married him.
also, my DH can't remember dates to save his life. he can remember my birthday and his dad's birthday, that.is.it. i make sure to remind him a gazillion times if something is coming up-even your average holidays (thanksgiving, easter, christmas), because it just doesn't show up on his radar. possibly you should consider doing this as well.
lastly-your DH is not, i repeat, NOT a mindreader. don't get all angsty with him simply because you assumed he could read your mind and know that you wanted him to plan things. i know it seems like the obvious thing to do, but that just isn't the case for all individuals.
I agree, establishing a tradition is a good idea. Every Valentine's Day we do Mexican and movie. Totally low key, no need to try and think of something to do. I'd rather have a fancy dinner out on our anniversary or something not Valentine's Day, which to me a just a cute low key holiday. A card and some candy and we're good to go. Oh, and some tacos.
Anyway, my point is start a tradition for Valentine's Day and you'll never have to worry about it again.
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Maybe it's just me since I think Valentine's Day is lame, but why is it a big deal if your DH doesn't plan this super awesome date? Or if he forgets to get a V-day card? Maybe a tradition will help him remember but if he doesn't who cares? If y'all truly need a holiday to make a special romantic date, IMO, you have bigger problems than him not making plans.
*disclaimer: V-day is completely different from a birthday or an anniversary.
BFP 02/2010 m/c 03/17/2010 dx PCOS 04/2010
BFP 08/13/2011 CP 08/15/2011
BFP 09/16/2011 EDD 05/20/2012
Claire Elizabeth, born 5/30 via a med free birth
Alright (re)intro...Hi, I'm a former January 2010 bride (well, I guess I kind of still am, since we got married January 23, 2010-thanks for remembering me, Panda Squishy & Melko). I would have continued posting, but my job went way south after the wedding & I was scrambling to find another one in the midst of this awesome economy. My hubby went back to school & we both found new jobs in September (about a week apart...the universe is great like that). Now I'm at a desk job, so I figured I'd start posting again cause things are a bit more settled.
I've been more lurking than posting on boards, but I have been having a really crappy couple of weeks and wanted to let off some steam (trying to buy a house is a lot harder than one would think...we've been hashing out financing and contract stuff since November). I guess I should have started slowly or at least found the appropriate board for said post (the glob post for those keeping track). I was essentially freaking out & just needed to ask a question (figured that it was kind of sort of baby related...). And then today I was lurking on another board (Multiples for those keeping track) & saw a post that I related to. I responded to the board & then it made me want to expand on my response with my own post. Granted, after reading my original post (waaay after I posted the original), I thought I sounded like a complete a**, but I guess it was too late. I got really defensive for three whole pages more out of frustration about a bad week than actually being offended.
Sorry for this long post, but I figured you guys wanted an explanation (I think). Anyways, I do like posting on these boards, but I have to learn to word things a little bit more carefully in the future...and now you're all caught up for the most part.
*shrug* okey dokey.
buying a house is stressful-some of us have been there.
i'm sure we've all misworded our posts at some point-it happens. it sucks it turned in to a 3 page argument, but it could have been worse.
Yeah... I learned early on that if I want to rant then the anni board is really the only place to do it. Here we know each other (or I thought we did... how did so many people forget Da? She posted just a couple weeks ago...) so we're less likely to read snark and cruelty into a post that was really intended to be sarcastic and venting.
BFP on Jan. 18; EDD Oct. 1