May 2008 Weddings
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WW08D?

If you found out your husband will be a groomsman in a wedding the month you would be due if you got pregnant when you planned to start trying? Would you proceed with trying or wait a few more months so you aren't due around said wedding?

Re: WW08D?

  • I guess it depends on how quickly you got pregnant the last time and also how important the timing is for you.  If the last time you got preggo ASAP and the timing isn't all that important then I would put it off a month or two.  
  • i wouldn't plan around it. it's not like you're in the wedding. worse comes to worse you are pg (yay!) and miss the wedding. plus, what are the chances of getting pg the first try right when you want to? i'd just go ahead wiht my plans if it were me.
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  • imagecschissell:
    I guess it depends on how quickly you got pregnant the last time and also how important the timing is for you.  If the last time you got preggo ASAP and the timing isn't all that important then I would put it off a month or two.  
    Ditto.

    We knew my bff would be getting married this May but didn't think my pg would be too much of a conflict (I'm MOH) but then the stars aligned and now I'll be just over 8 months pregnant in a strapless yellow dress. PRETTY! Hahaha  

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  • call me horrible but i would go about your business as planned.  I was in my cousins wedding in july 10 and when we were trying, i asked myself what i would do if i didnt get pregnant.  obviously it worked out because we had Ro in Jan but i feel like you cant plan trying to get pregnant because there will ALWAYS be something that makes you put it off a month or whatever!~

     

    are you and mr thor planning to start trying soon:)?

  • imageJpell5120:

    call me horrible but i would go about your business as planned.  I was in my cousins wedding in july 10 and when we were trying, i asked myself what i would do if i didnt get pregnant.  obviously it worked out because we had Ro in Jan but i feel like you cant plan trying to get pregnant because there will ALWAYS be something that makes you put it off a month or whatever!~

     

    are you and mr thor planning to start trying soon:)?

    Hopefully July or August.

  • I would not plan around it.  I know it would inconvenience them but a child is far more important in life to me.

    And even though you may have had no issues getting pregnant the first time that's not always the case for the rest (which is what I have been trying to tell H).  And from my experience H's cousin who is like his best friend was getting married on Nov 13th Ava's due date...they had been together like 3 years and engaged for about 8 months when they broke up.  Granted Ava was born a week early but hey you can't plan things.

    Things happen in life that are unexpected and even if you guys plan and it does happen I wouldn't tell them bwahaha

  • We had a "hole in one" with Aud but my cycle is all sorts of wonky now. I doubt it will be as easy.
  • I probably wouldn't put it off....but this is coming from someone who was supposed to go to a close friend's wedding in AK two weeks before I'm now due. I was sick of being on the pill and didn't want to put off the IF treatments I thought we'd need, so we just said let's throw away the pills and see what happens...I am sad I'm missing her wedding, and she is too, but she understands and I am way more excited about having a baby than a vacation/wedding.
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  • Ditto everyone, I wouldn't put it off since you just never know what will happen.
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  • imagebuckswife08:
    i wouldn't plan around it. it's not like you're in the wedding. worse comes to worse you are pg (yay!) and miss the wedding. plus, what are the chances of getting pg the first try right when you want to? i'd just go ahead wiht my plans if it were me.

    Agreed!

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  • imagebuckeyethor:
    We had a "hole in one" with Aud but my cycle is all sorts of wonky now. I doubt it will be as easy.
    Umm...yea. I thought the same thing... We had 2 "one shot wonders"... Lol.
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  • imageTraycee1242:
    imagebuckeyethor:
    We had a "hole in one" with Aud but my cycle is all sorts of wonky now. I doubt it will be as easy.
    Umm...yea. I thought the same thing... We had 2 "one shot wonders"... Lol.

    :sigh: This makes me insanely jealous, and then pathetic that I feel that way. Sad

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  • imagebuckswife08:
    i wouldn't plan around it. it's not like you're in the wedding. worse comes to worse you are pg (yay!) and miss the wedding. plus, what are the chances of getting pg the first try right when you want to? i'd just go ahead wiht my plans if it were me.

    This.  If you guys have to miss a wedding (or just you) so that you can have a baby - it's totally worth it and they should understand!

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  • It is not just any wedding. It is the guy that introduced us that was the best man in our wedding. Higher stakes. hehe.
  • Not plan around the wedding in my opinion.

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  • Depends on who's wedding it was and only if I knew the date for sure.

    We have friends getting married spring 2012 and we haven't put off trying b/c there's no firm date. I also wouldn't be distraught if I missed the wedding and I know they would understand.

    Now, if it was my best friend I'd wait a month or two. I would be so super sad if I missed her wedding plus she'd never let me live it down! ha!

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  • I'm clearly in the minority ... but if he is important to you both, then I would wait. 

    But, as the childless-one of this board, feel free to take my opinions with a grain of salt.

  • imagekarebear304:

    Depends on who's wedding it was and only if I knew the date for sure.

    We have friends getting married spring 2012 and we haven't put off trying b/c there's no firm date. I also wouldn't be distraught if I missed the wedding and I know they would understand.

    Now, if it was my best friend I'd wait a month or two. I would be so super sad if I missed her wedding plus she'd never let me live it down! ha!

    There is a "date" but no venues are booked.. That to me means NO date technically. I have been friends with this guy since I was a child and so has DH. He introduced us and was our best man.

  • Yah until a deposit is put down for a venue then I wouldn't concern myself because they could always push the date back.

    You guys do seem close but is it going to be local so say you have a newborn could Joe still be in the wedding?

  • My biggest concern would be travel.  If my H was going to a destination wedding, or even if the wedding was 2 hours away, I'd probably put off trying for a month.  I wouldn't want to worry about him being away from him if something happens. 

    I also think I might postpone trying because like you said, this guy is really important to both of you.  Knowing that he is your friend too, and that you'd like to attend.  

  • of course i would try. i don't change my life plans for weddings and think it's kind of silly when people do (no offense). chances are remote you'll be due at that time anyway. and wouldn't you only have to wait one month, not a few?
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  • We would not have to travel but I think we are more concered with the 'what ifs'. what if i am on bedrest? what if we have a baby in the nicu? etc etc etc. I would hate for him to be so heartbroken about either leaving me or me and a baby and aud or being with us over the wedding. I am sure if things were bad he would just skip it all together. I am overthinking this. I am going to just start trying when we are ready and if we are pregnant or bedrest or due or have a preemie or whatever, we will just deal with it.

  • imageBMWwife:

    imageTraycee1242:
    imagebuckeyethor:
    We had a "hole in one" with Aud but my cycle is all sorts of wonky now. I doubt it will be as easy.
    Umm...yea. I thought the same thing... We had 2 "one shot wonders"... Lol.

    :sigh: This makes me insanely jealous, and then pathetic that I feel that way. Sad

     

    Me too BWM, me too.   *sigh*

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  • imagebuckeyethor:
    imageJpell5120:

    call me horrible but i would go about your business as planned.  I was in my cousins wedding in july 10 and when we were trying, i asked myself what i would do if i didnt get pregnant.  obviously it worked out because we had Ro in Jan but i feel like you cant plan trying to get pregnant because there will ALWAYS be something that makes you put it off a month or whatever!~

     

    are you and mr thor planning to start trying soon:)?

    Hopefully July or August.

    Nothing to add that hasn't been said, but wanted to say that this is when we are going to start TTC again as well.

  • imageMrsLaurenandDan:
    imageBMWwife:

    imageTraycee1242:
    imagebuckeyethor:
    We had a "hole in one" with Aud but my cycle is all sorts of wonky now. I doubt it will be as easy.
    Umm...yea. I thought the same thing... We had 2 "one shot wonders"... Lol.

    :sigh: This makes me insanely jealous, and then pathetic that I feel that way. Sad

     

    Me too BWM, me too.   *sigh*

    I'm sorry ladies : (. I didn't mean to make you feel bad. I so wish it was that way for everyone. I know how lucky I am, and am sincerely thankful. I always keep you guys in my prayers and hope you get your BFP's soon!
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  • imageTraycee1242:
    imageMrsLaurenandDan:
    imageBMWwife:

    imageTraycee1242:
    imagebuckeyethor:
    We had a "hole in one" with Aud but my cycle is all sorts of wonky now. I doubt it will be as easy.
    Umm...yea. I thought the same thing... We had 2 "one shot wonders"... Lol.

    :sigh: This makes me insanely jealous, and then pathetic that I feel that way. Sad

     

    Me too BWM, me too.   *sigh*

    I'm sorry ladies : (. I didn't mean to make you feel bad. I so wish it was that way for everyone. I know how lucky I am, and am sincerely thankful. I always keep you guys in my prayers and hope you get your BFP's soon!

    Oh dont feel bad. It sucks espcially when I look back and think about how paranoid I use to be about not getting pregnant. Ha! Jokes on me LOL. Thanks though :-)

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