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Calling all moms ... Sleep Training
Looking at my options and wanted to know if any of you ladies have done sleep training with your kids?
If you didn't, why not?
If you did, what sleep training method did you use?
TIA!!
Re: Calling all moms ... Sleep Training
Ben was a Ferber baby at 5.5 months old - he had a paci and would wake every time he spit it out. That needed to end. One night, 47 minutes, done. Has been a fabulous sleeper ever since (he's almost 2.5 years old!).
Maddy was a struggle. I'm breastfeeding so I felt like I needed to keep going in there whenever she woke. Around 5.5 months she suddenly slept like 11 hours a night for a whole week so I thought we were good. Then it unraveled for a week. I'd just get plans to start sleep training (she's always had the same routine) then she would surprise me and sleep well for a few nights. I had basically been trying 2 months of the "no cry sleep solution" and other "non-crying" methods and they didn't work for sh!t. So at 7 months old, we went back to Ferber. Maddy was tougher, not gonna lie. First night was 89 minutes of crying (with checkins). Second night was an hour. And we spent about a month of her crying at some point every night - usually not at bedtime but at least one wakeup. Now, at 9 months old, if she cries it's usually for a few minutes at bedtime (like literally 5) or maybe wakes up and has 15-30 minutes of crying. it's not easy, and I know it's not for everyone, but I tried the no-cry methods and they didn't work. I couldn't function waking up every 3 hours and still care for my toddler. And it worked. Now she goes to bed around 7:30 every night and there might be 1 wake up but I don't go in there, and she sleeps until 7am.
"It's not a sprint, it's a marathon." - Alex & Ani bracelet
My blog: Dodging Acorns
Jealous it's working for Liza!!! I tried so hard for months!
"It's not a sprint, it's a marathon." - Alex & Ani bracelet
My blog: Dodging Acorns
I wasn't a fan of CIO, but got desperate at some point and tried it and it didn't work for G - she's just too active, so we kind of go more by her signs and routine and go from there to get her down at first at night. Sleeping through the night however, different story!
We also tried the ferber method and it didn't work for us either, although we probably didn't give it long enough. DH caved in way too early IMHO, but whatever I guess.
I'm setting myself up for a horrible failure with sleep though I already know b/c DH & I kind of take short term gains vs. the long term - so G rarely sleeps through the night and I mean rarely. When she wakes up the first time and stirs and gets up we bring her in bed with us. She usually sleeps 4-6 hours, then wakes and comes to bed with us and usually will sleep another 4-6. I enjoy her in our be for now so I don't mind terribly, but I know in a few months I'll probably start to really regret it and when she is teething and waking up more frequently it's miserable for everyone.
It's not happening fast, but I do see improvement! I think she is just not a "good" sleeper, whatever that really means! My main issue with Liza isn't sleeping through the night-it's her sleeping alone. She'd sleep for hours in my arms, but I just can't always hold her!
Of course, as soon as we all start sleeping she gets sick or a tooth! AHHH!!!
And I should clarify what my PP said. I personally don't feel comfortable with CIO, but it can and does work for some babies. I think you know what your baby can handle. I also believe some babies need to do a little crying to help relieve tension and/or settle down. I sorta wish Liza would do that, but she just works herself up higher and higher until it's hard to calm her so CIO isn't right for her.